I went through a similar phase a few years ago after a bad breakup. It took about 8 mnths before I was acting like me again. Not much else for it but time.

You have to learn to let go of these events. Realize that you had no control over them, or if you did that it's in the past and you can't change that. Think about the future and what you have to offer. You also have to get comfortable with yourself again. Remember that you are a good person and you have a lot to offer those around you.

I understand this may be a though time for you. It's very common to loose one's self-confidence after an unpleasant experience in life. facing doubts and overcoming them can be the hardest thing to do, but to gain happiness and self-confidence, it needs to be done... confidence is not something you are born with, it is gained through experiencing small successes in life. even though feelings of failure or feeling overwhelmed can take a direct hit at your confidence level, you can build it back up! don't lose your hopes :) Surround yourself with positive people. if your confidence level goes down when you are around certain people, avoid those people if possible. instead, try interacting with people that give and demand a high level of respect. Redefine your personal boundaries .. if certain situations are clearly what causes you to doubt yourself or feel insecure, don't participate until you feel more safe and secure. Set some very realistic goals that can be achieved in a short time-frame.. completing these goals successfully will add to your confidence level so that you can continue to build on it .. don't aim too high, but plan on doing something enjoyable, and then achieve it. The last thing which i ll suggest is to make affirmations as a part of your daily routine. affirmations are positive statements that you focus on for a particular day. These should be written and said in present tense, and you should focus on believing what you say even if it isn't 100 percent true yet! I know that it may be difficult sometimes, but you can do it! i know you will .. goodluck

First of all, I just want to let you know that you are a good person, despite whatever happened! Please don't blame yourself, give yourself a break, because you deserve one! Now, time does help heal your low self confidence and esteem, but nobody wants to wait 8 months to a year to get back to normal. So I suggest you start taking control of other areas in your life. Start finding positive things to do at work or at home. Set some goals and make some changes for the good! Celebrate small successes! Decorate your home, do some spring-cleaning. I ran into some rough patches a few months ago and I realized I was being very disrespectful to the people around me because I wasn't happy. I was still preoccupied with negative thoughts, but I pulled out my list of goals, like finding a college to attend, get a new job, and go on vacation. A good thing about the vacation was I actually had something good to look forward to, which is why it's important to work on your goals. You are making your future, and why not make it happy and inviting? I hope this helps!