Why if two people love and trust each other, would they agree to a pre-marital agreement? Is that not saying there is a lack of trust? Why get married at all then?
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robinhug
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Its a useful way of ensuring saftey and i such an unpredictable world is ussualy needed. Most couples I have seen who have enough trust in each other to be responsible enough to work through potentialy unsetling issues or unforseen problems before hand tend to stay together. I would imagine two people with forthought and compleat trust of oneanother would not be concerned with making a pre-marital agreement. Mariage isent about property value, and a potential break up ussualy involes sepperating these things out. If you dont stop to consider, you rush in blind.
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I agree 100%. apparently, they do not love and trust each other....enough. or, one party has much more than the other and greed has taken over. really, no trust here. Personal possessions, in this case, have more respect than trust. What has happened to the love and trust we use to have for each other? Its a different day.........
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People don't stay the same their whole life, anything can change in the future that might upset the balance of trust that there is now. So I'd say there is a lack of trust in one's ability to predict how things might change in the future. When there is love and trust, that's the best time to write a premarital agreement -- as many people will attest. When jealousy or bitterness start to set in, and things start to fall apart, and people decide to part ways, without a prior agreement, there's no predicting how messy (and expensive) the division of property will get. Despite having had the best intentions when they got married. Writing an agreement is also a good way to gauge your partners values and views on financial and material matters -- a leading cause of conflict in relationships.
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If one of them rebels at the idea, can it be said that that partner has "Trust". People change, and rather rapidly, PreNups are great! Read my questions if you are uneasy asking for a prenup.
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People get disability insurance even though they really hope that they never will become disabled. A prenuptial agreement can also be a good way of truly examining one's finances and what it will be like to join finances in marriage. Both couples who do get prenups and don't get divorced. However, the people with prenups have a huge load taken off their shoulders if they have a prenup. I bet any family lawyer could tell you this.
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It is easy to focus on the relationship when you feel you have nothing to lose, or more importantly, to gain financially from leaving it. I think it is unfortunate that money plays such a big part in the success or failure of relationships. We should build our relationships on more solid footing. I admire those who have family mission statements.
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i have been burned to many times.. i will have a pre nup before i go again.
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I strongly agree; it's showing a lack of trust! However, it a sad situation that it seems to be necessary nowadays if you want to safeguard against being taken to the cleaners.
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yes, it says I dont trust you. If you intend to sign one, demand that it include an infidelity clause to protect YOU in the event of an affair. These things can work both ways if written correctly.
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Everybody loves and trusts each other WHEN they get married. It's the when they get divorced part that starts all the trouble. If s/he comes into the marriage having a net worth of $2million and the new husband/wife comes in with a net worth of -$300,000, should the negative net worth person walk away with $1 million 6 months later when s/he turns out to be a cheater and a liar?
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Human beings are social being essentially. Marriage is a social commitment too. Sort of following the social rules of life. It makes a big difference.
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there's nothing wrong with protecting yourself and your assets and the new spouse should take that opportunity to say, "I love you and i understand", it's ok, otherwise questioning it as a personal affront would mean you are into yourself too much to get married in the first place
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