When my wife died very suddenly and unexpectedly from cancer the world looked different the next morning. Nothing had changed but the world and everything in it looked different to me. Anyone have a similar experience they could make comments about?
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Parsec13
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I know what you mean, from the death of my father.
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Yes... From the death of my 91yo grandmother last year. She was the glue that held our family together. Now? I don't know if we have anyone who can do the same thing. Here's my tribute and memories of her - http://www.orangefrogproductions.com/ofp2o_auth_nfts_tributetomamaw.shtml . I'm sorry for your loss. Might I suggest you write a tribute to your wife? Describe her, how you met, how you fell in love, what you felt throughout your marriage, and how you feel now. It doesn't have to be published anywhere... Just to help you get things straight in your own mind and heart. Sometimes it can be cathartic and help.
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so sorry the sudden death of my dad when i was in college. one night beer and impressing guys was everything. the next day , none of that stuff mattered.
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I will keep this brief but yeah, I know what you mean..... My fiancee was killed in a wreck and as I stood in that field, I remember looking up at the sky and the sky looked different. It looked enormous and I felt lost as though I was the only person left on the earth. I am very sorry you are going through this. I know it isn't a good feeling but with a some time, the pain will become lighter. I hope you find a way to cope. {Hug}
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When I've lost people I love to death, my world did change each time. But not too drastically. When I lost the love of my life, that is when the world turned upside down for me and hasn't felt the same ever since. He didn't die, we just can never be together. But it feels like I have died inside, if that makes any sense.
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Yes, Parsec. I lost my father many years ago and I couldn't believe how things changed, so dramatically. I aslo couldn't believe that people could go on walking around, talking, smiling and even laughing(heaven forbid!) when my father had died. It seemed a complete affront. The world did look different, colours, trees, buses all the things I took for granted I saw in a strange new way. As if they were objects, obtruding on me, out of place and unwanted. It didn't last, tho' my grief did, for far too many years before I finally dealt with it. Read Auden's 'Stop the Clocks', it says a lot about the grief of bereavement. When my younger sister died 12 years ago the world looked different then too, but somehow more poignantly beautiful, more transient and therefore touching, just MORE somehow, as I felt I was seeing it for her from then on and wanted to be fully alive to make it so that her death was not in vain.
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I lost my Rose three years ago to cancer. The world I knew, the friends I knew,,,,,,,,,,its all changed. I lug a broken heart around day after day, month after month, year after year. It hasn't got any easier for me I'm sorry to say. We were married 42 years. She died on a summer afternoon. I was in a daze for a year or better. Now I try to go on,,,not much choice I guess. Sorry to hear your wife passed. I've heard that others have found another mate. I'll never replace my Rose, nor do I want too. Again I'm so sorry
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hi, my wife of nearly 23 years died 3 months ago from a brain tumor. i find it very very difficult to mother my 2 daughters. i really miss my wife who was good at this. why did this have to happen to us?? we didn't deserve this, nobody deserves this kind of thing! anyway, taking it one day at a time, as we've been told ... and they say you only fail when you stop trying ... and i will never stop trying ... i need to keep going for the next 13 years until my daughters are settled ... luckily i have supportive friends and bosses at work ... god has a great plan for us, unfortunately we do not have the power to comprehend it ... one day i will join her when my job is done here ... but not for many many more years ... but i do miss her a lot, a lot ... hopefully time will make the pain a bit more bearable ... that's what they say ... take each day as it comes, and one day you will find life more bearable ...
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What struck me as strange was that the world DIDN'T seem at all different. Everyone else continued on living. The world didn't come to a grinding halt. The birds continued singing, people went to work, children played, and all the while he lay dead in that room and the world... the world just continued on, as though he'd never lived at all.
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Yes that has happened to me a couple of times.
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