if he wont talk to you the harsh truth is that he most probably doesnt miss you anymore, or think about you ... i think a quote from a movie summerizes it pretty well: "You know what's the worst thing about somebody breaking up with you? Is when you remember how little you thought about the people you broke up with and you realize that is how little they're thinking of you. You know, you'd like to think you're both in all this pain but they're just like 'Hey, I'm glad you're gone'. "

may be he still loves u miss u. try to make the last chance u can call him or tell a friend in common to talk to him and tell u about what he feels.may be he wants u but dont want to take 1st step so try

if he cared about you at all, he probably would of at least gave you a reason why he doesn't want to talk.

no. no. "..he won't even talk to me" you don't.

How long has it been? It's been three weeks for me and my ex won't return texts, although I'm cussing him out on the texts because of my anger. But he won't call or text. Have you broken up before and gotten back together? We broke up all the time, but he called me back a week every time or even the next day. This time it's three weeks and nothing. I am the one being pathetic now by texting every week. I know it's over, but it's so hard to accept. I'm sure he's moved on, but I can't let it go. I'm sure he misses you, but give him space for a while. You'll know all the answers to your questions if you just give it a little time. It only took two weeks and I knew it was over for him. Hang in there. If he calls, and probably will, then tell him how you feel. Be strong.

Sadly if he's not interested in communicating with you, then how you feel about him is a non issue from his perspective..

If he has broken up with you then you should face that it is over for him. More than likely he loves you and misses you but no longer in the same way and he will not change his mind. You'll always have that special connection with him, but he no longer desires a romantic relationship with you. I know it hurts so much right now but you need to let it go. eventually you will feel better and maybe sometime in the future you may be able to be FRIENDS. right now you need to focus on yourself and maintaining space. If he wont talk to you its because he doesnt want to give you false hope.

Men deal with break ups diffrently then girls. It is easier for him to move on if he doesnt speak to you. It does not mean that he doesnt think of you because I am sure he does, but that doesnt mean he wants to be with you. give it some time, let him be the one to make the move. if not its his lose but dont call him or text him that will only piss him off, and dont send friends over to talk to him to tell him how you feel. I have done all of these before. unless he truely does love you, it will never work only to send you backwards in the greiving process.

I'm in the same boat after 15 yrs or marriage. He wants to divorce becasue we are so different in what we want in life, where we want to live etc. and he holds resentment against me for what he considers unforgivables during his depression which is grossly exaggerated in his mind. He doesn't talk now (it's been 5 weeks and we've talked once) but we are in divorce too. But I am talking his silence as "it's over". I know it's for best and I will live on and move on to a happier life. But first we have to fully heal and let go of our past love. There is no where to go now but UP!!! Good luck.

I've been through so many heart breaking relationships and I give up. People are so selfish these days. Nobody seems to know how to be a true friend and love. If it's over you have to move on. Figure out how and do it. There's a million guys who are just wanting a good woman yet cannot find one. If you are truly a good woman then you will find a good man. Maybe you have to change the way you judge men so that you won't get into another situation like this.

if you can get ahold of dexedrine (a non addictive uber-caffiene) it will numb the pain, decrease appetite, and make you a workaholic. over time it will erase your hearts power over your mind, and then after you learn to feel again you will know how to end feelings you do not desire. takes a couple years but the result is a level head. the risk is I feared I was incapable of ever feeling love again. still ONLY love my wife and son. yes this is bad advice and probably will not work on you, but it is how I did it.

text him

barbie said "I'm cussing him out on the texts because of my anger" if she can not keep a level head and be respectful while texting, what are the oddes that she obeys the rules of battle while speaking? when things flow faster with less time to think it out and no chance to delete a word you realise you should not have said. just call me TAP for short.

I,m a guy who wouldnt talk to my ex after she dated someone months after finishing with me because i didnt propose, I tried for months to patch things up but she was angry. When I saw the new guy I was angry and done with her. 2 years later I still wouldnt talk. I turned my back when she surprised me in the Bahamas [we were in the same place by accident] however since then almost 9 years have passed and I still think about her every day. Yes I still love her, occaisionally dream about her. and maybe I'll try again if its not too late.

if you cant get a hold of him then just walk right up to his face and him how you feel

If he isn't contacting you then he is moving on. It hurts but its the truth. Actions speak louder then words. Once you start letting yourself heal, you will move on. The hurt will go away. And you will learn. All the bad things that happen to us are learning experiences that we will grow from if we let ourselves. If i were you i would go out with the girls and do something spontaneous and fun. be a little selfish and do whatever you have to do to make you lose the feelings that are holding you back from being truly happy.

maybe you should consider talking to HIM. Im in the same situation, except i tried and failed. Maybe it will be different for u. Remember: you'll be dissappointed if u fail, but ur doomed if u dont try.

How long has it been since he last talked to you, a day, a week, a month, a year? If it's been a long time then I would move on with my life.

I'm sure hundreds of people on here can empathise with you, I know I can as I'm in this situation myself. I split up with my boyfriend by phone, when I discovered he was seeing someone else. He said he was deeply sorry and upset but that it was over between us, so I had no other option but to accept it. The phone call was very brief and I didn't get the chance to discuss it or ask him why or what went wrong, and that was 4 weeks ago. I desperately wanted to contact him again straight afterwards, but I knew he wouldn't be responsive to that. I've given myself the 60 day rule, i.e. I'm not going to contact him for that length of time, and hopefully when that deadline comes along I'll either be over it or capable of accepting his rejection if he won't talk to me. The whole business of breaking up when you still love someone is hideously painful, and of course you wonder what he's thinking, if he misses you and if he ever thinks of getting back together with you. The fact is, you don't know and can only speculate, but I do think that if you give it time he might be more open to speaking to you about it. If it helps, you could always write him a letter (but not send it!) so that you can get your feelings out. I think that if you keep that letter and read it over in 60 days time, you won't want to send it. Contacting him now to tell him how upset you are is possibly the worst thing you can do. You need him to think that you're strong and independent and can cope as well as he can. He'll respect you more for it and perhaps he'll even agree to talking again in time. All the very best, I do feel for you.

Your feelings for him are a chain that only you can break. If he won't talk to you, then you need to find a healthy place to be that builds your self-esteem. Get busy and take all that love for him that's going to waste, and use it on yourself. Be kind, nurture, love, and support yourself. His feelings for should not be as important as your feelings about yourself. This is a test. When you learn to love yourself, then you will find a better match for your obvious intensity and commitment.