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You have to realize that at a point....this is out of your hands. He's going to have to work at his feelings of betrayal......Sounds like you're doing all you can. My opinion is women are much more forgiving then men so you have an uphill battle..........
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I think truly being sorry for what you did is an amazing start. Many people cheat and place blame on the partner for driving them away...You are doing well. It takes time, best of luck
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Do everything you can to let him know that you will NEVER do that again. It just takes time to rebuild the trust, some more than others. You seem to be doing all you can do. It takes love, and BOTH of you forgiving YOU. (Remember that forgiving does NOT mean forgetting... The memory for both of you will fade to the back of the mind, but it will always be there.) Many "1st time offender"s sometimes find they are ONLY-time offenders with a partner. At this point, feel lucky that he's willing to try to work it out. Good luck. ;-)
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Give him time. The fact that he wants to work through it is a very positive sign. I would recommend not smothering him though - try to take life normally. "Compensating" for it only reinforces to him that you did it and reminds him of it on a regular basis. It's very hard to come back from that sort of thing, but possible. In the end, the biggest lesson to learn here is yours - and that is that a single indescretion can plant the seed of ruin in a relationship - even if it takes a long time to fully show itself. I do hope that you are able to move past this as a couple and that you both are happy together, but if not, this is what dating is for. You learn the do's and do nots and are able to grow from the relationship. I've been cheated on and I personally could not go back with the person. The next time i saw them all i could think of was her being with the other person and realized i'm not the type who can get over it. It shaped who I dated after that and eventually who i married.
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Trust is the foundation of a relationship. By cheating you really hit him where it hurts. That he wants to continue is something I find hard to relate to as I would drop you like a hot potato. I would have a hard time looking at you but that is my nature. I wouldn't be able to respect you. The only thing that could fix this is time. I'm not sure he will ever trust you again completely. Hopefully for you the damage that was done won't bring about the end of the relationship if you want it to continue.
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I'm afraid it is up to him. All you can do is say FORGIVE ME and Love him, show your love for him. If there was a reason you cheated; something he did not do; then ask him to do this, but you are seeing a counselor which is helping Hope:) Just tell him how much you love him everyday and pray for his forgiveness:)
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