Basically, because you're "attached" to your ideas about how you should be in a relationship, or how you should be surrounded by friends, or something along those lines -- the mind compares it's ideas of how things should be to how they actually are, and loneliness is the "output" of that comparison. So while that's a technically accurate statement, it's not very helpful, is it? In order to make headway with your loneliness, you really need to find out WHY you have these ideas... WHY are you preoccupied with wanting love and attention and connection with others? It's not that there's something wrong with love and relationship, that's a wonderful thing -- but why the aching NEED for it? Why can't you be OK just with solitude, with enjoying your own company and engaging with whatever activity you're in? Those questions will lead you into possibly scary territory, because the answers typically probe very deep pain from your past... in childhood, things happened, and you decided something like "I'm on my own in life", or "I'm not lovable", or "I'm not like others" -- not an adult, conscious decision, but a very rigid, child's-mind kind of decision. That kernel of pain lives on through the years, and you've adapted in whatever ways you have found that work. But those adaptations don't actually undo the kernel, they just compensate... and on some days, the compensation is obviously not thorough or satisfying. So that's where you have to go to really make a dent in this thing: into the pain of separateness that leaves you feeling isolated... to understand it, see where it comes from, and reawaken the part of yourself that was killed off by whatever happened back then.

I don't know, but you are not alone. ::HUG::

You don't have to be alone. I'll always be here.

I don't know I am still trying to figure out why I am feeling the same.

It's the moon waning. I always feel blue in that part of the cycle. But it's all good, maybe you could study what it means and it will help you. But you have your friends here, you never need to *be* alone, even if do you feel that way (((HUG)))

Your not out partying with me :)

I'm not sure. I feel it too though... it's terrible! Like this swelling in your heart.. it's so much it makes you want to cry... like no one remembers you... no one misses you.. it's a sad, sad feeling. I don't like it. I hope it goes away for you soon.. or has already :)

It must be catching because I feel it too.