There are a lot of people on this website. There are just as many ways to respond to a question. Sex is a tricky subject. When someone asks a question to a group of strangers about a relationship or sex, it's hard to answer. We don't know that much about you, so we have a hard time giving you advice that will benefit your relationship. A peoples' views on sex is that it's something that can definitely be a good or bad thing. Many people, myself included, think that sex should only be practiced within the confines of marraige. So unless you state otherwise, or you come off as unmarried, a lot of people are immediately going to want to address the most critical issue - why are you sleeping around? However arrogant and or ignorant that may be. It's none of our business. The truth is that sex is very important to a working marraige. And when people get married, they DO have problems with it. So the fact that people outside of marraige have problems with it isn't any surprise. But the problem is we want to answer truthfully, yet still remark on our moral believes. Moral believes are there for a reason too - we believe that the reason fornication is wrong is because it screws up relationships. People just don't want to write essays trying to approach your problem from every possible scenario - they'll just assume something. For instance, I have the mental image of you as a dating teenager. While this may not be true, it'll affect the way I answer you (on any subject). So yes, sex is important. Sexual relationships and problems need to be discussed. But there is also room for morality. People just need to answer questions more completely.

Its not. But people have different perceptions of what's important in a relationship. The beauty of this site is that you can get different advice from a range of different people- it may not all be appropriate for you personally, but may be appropriate for someone else in the same predicament. Its up to you to decide which advice is most relevant to you. People here are not telling you what you should do- they are just giving you their take on it, in the hope that it might help. It also depends what question you're talking about. In certain situations the sex problem may be masking something deeper in the relationships -this is often the case- for example, someone might want advice on how they can improve their low sex drive- now you can eat all the horney goat weed and avocadoes you like, but its not going to work if on some level you feel resentful towards an uncaring partner. Many men seek treatment for impotence with viagra without addressing the emotional problems causing their impotence- thus making the real problem worse by masking it. People are often trying to read between the lines- the fact is that often a sex problem is a lot more than "just" a sex problem- and any solutions which don't tackle the deeper issues will be superficial and temporary. On occasion they may be wrong, your relationship may be perfect and you just need a bit of help with the sex element- but posters are just trying to cover all possible angles. If you don't feel a piece of advice is relevant, you don't have to follow it.