Yeah I can help. Stay out of it. By trying to help you will probably end up being the bad guy. They are adults and they need to grow up and find out how to live their lives good or bad. By you interfering you're not letting them learn.

Please stay out of the issue unless you are asked. Otherwise your opinion may not be welcome. Best of luck!

My youngest son is getting married at the end of May to a lovely girl. My only daughter, who is getting married next summer, has had a few incidents of not getting along with her, including being offended because her invitation to the wedding was addressed to her alone and not her and her fiancé. One posted something on a facebook account that the other took offense to; one removed a post from the wedding website because she felt that the content was not what she had set up the website for - congratulations and trip planning for out-of-town guests. A recent phone call resulted in raised voices and a hang-up. There is also a cousin whose invitation to the wedding is in danger of being withdrawn because she has publicly stated that she doesn't think her cousin should be marrying this girl. Am I just creating a stick for my own back by trying to calm the waters and hoping that it's all just pre-wedding nerves, for all concerned? My future daughter-in-law and I get along great - she is tall, loud and can sometimes be tactless, but she has a heart of gold. My daughter says that she doesn't want to interfere in this relationship, but that she just cannot seem to find any common ground with her. I have offered to arrange for some sort of mediation - my daughter is willing but the other girl is not - she just wants an apology for the phone call. Am I fighting a losing battle and should I just let them sort it out? Or should I keep trying to help? Part of me thinks that these two are just being petty due to wedding planning stress. HELP!

I think you are right, this is a result of petty behaviour due to wedding planning stress. I think the best course of action would be for you to stand back and let them sort it out...its nothing you want to be caught in the middle of. maintaining a neutral position is the safest bet!

You can stay out of it. You could suggest they spend some time doing something together though - hopefully something they both enjoy, or in which they will be working together towards the same goal, but I'm not sure how that would pan out. It might just resolve itself.

I think if anyone takes a stand on the issue between your daughter and soon-to-be d.i.l., it would be your son. I mean, it's his sister and future wife who have the issues with each other. If I were you, mom, I would butt out and let them make their own amends.

yes, I've been there done that. What's up?