A lot of men don't considering this cheating, and while technically it isn't, if its something you don't want to tolerate, by all means break up with him. In my opinion, I would probably be okay with the boards as most men look at porn, but the commenting and communicating would have crossed a line with me.

You do have a good reason to dump him though. You dont like that, and you should make that known to him. Plus, if you consider that snooping, it's not that bad of snooping! If what he put is on the internet, its public! Everyone reads everything on the internet. If he is upset about you looking at it, thats retarded. He's the one that posted it up on the web for anyone to view, even you.

Its not as bad as what he did. Dont feel guilty about it. if you really want to confront him and cant tell hi you searched it just, tell him a friend of yours searched it, or maybe you were trying to show a friend his myspace or facebook or whatev. through google.

It's your choice. I would worry that he WILL cheat.

I wouldn't say it's necessarily cheating, but that doesn't matter. What matters is that you find it disrespectful and hurtful. Talk to him about it. It could be that he sees it as no big deal. I didn't know there was such thing as porn forums!

i would tolerate the porn, not the communication with other women.

You go for it! If he belongs to this forum, he belongs to other porn. Your life will be miserable.

I wouldn't tolerate that... it may not be cheating exactly, but it sure isn't being faithful!

My opinion is DUMP him, if he hasn't already he prob will cheat, I wouldn't like it one bit, the porn is one thing but talkin with other women! No Way hun! Good luck!! You deserve better!!

I don't know if I would call it cheating, but shit. It's cause to dump him if you want to. I probably would. If he said those things to women in real life, you'd dump him. So I don't see how he thinks he's doing right online.

Honestly, it doesnt matter what anyone else would do in your situation...or if they would mind. YOU mind. YOU think its wrong and YOU dont like it. Dump him. Youll be much happier without that kind of worry.

No... It's not cheating. Porn, in and of itself, should not be considered cheating. There are some women who don't agree, and many who don't like porn in any way. For these, this is a "deal-breaker". If they confront their man and he refuses to stop (or says he will, then they find he hasn't) it's over. Some will dump him just because. By your comments at http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2523788 , it seems you're ok with porn itself. The comments, themselves probably should not be considered cheating, either. Comments are comments. Communication is questionable, but not cheating. For example, you're commenting and communicating with people here. Are you cheating? The problem is, while you don't MIND the porn, you DO mind the comments and chatting. THIS is where you have to decide. If you want to try to make this work, you will have to talk to him seriously about what you feel about it. Tell him the porn doesn't bother you so much, but the rest does. If he doesn't want to lose you, he will stop that part. There are plenty of porn sites out there without the communications. HOWEVER, if he refuses to stop the talking to them, YOU have to decide if his arguments are good enough for you to accept. If not, make sure he knows this. If he still refuses to stop, leave. Fantasy is one thing, but when in a committed relationship, you should NOT be chatting sexually with anyone else (unless the s/o is involved, too), and I would SERIOUSLY wonder why he was posting pictures of himself on the 'net for ANYONE to see. As for telling him how you found out, you COULD say you were just curious what those files and historical links and/or favorites were, and when you found all you found, you felt ill... Like you were losing him. Whatever he says to THAT may color the way you feel about it all. Ultimately, it's your choice. (And NO choices are "mistakes" if things are not right in a relationship.) Good Luck.

One thing you could be curious about is if he is a sex addict. If he is that's why he is one their. No girl would want their guy looking at pics of other girls (clothed or not), but looking is not cheating. It is completely up to you if you want to stay in the relationship, but he isn't cheating. Cheating would be if he actually met the girls.

I don't see it as cheating but.... This is your relationship and if it beyond what you are comfortable with and willing to deal with then dump him. I rather have sexual energy in my relationship forcused on me. When my s/o looks at porn, we usually do it together.

This is only my personal opinion here and i think that you should go with whatever you are feeling. If you can't tolerate his comments and pictures then you should either confront him about it or dump him, its entirely up to you. Personally, i do see it as a form of cheating. As far as i'm concerned you don't have to have sex with someone to be unfaithful to them. I also don't accept pornography simply because that are a LOT of very sad stories about people who do things like that, but i'm only one person and i'm not going to tell anyone how to live their lives. To me there is nothing more disrespectful then having the person you are commiting yourself to start flirting with other people, over the internet or not. Its like 'your not good enough' or 'they're looking for someone else to fill a hole you can't fill'. I made it perfectly clear with my partner exactly where i stand on pornography and cheating, i will not and never will tolerate it, not even once. My father used to watch pornography and flirt with other women and i watched my mother become extremely ill because of it. It is from my own personal experiences that i draw my opinion from, i do respect other peoples of course. In any case, you should do whatever you feel is best in this situation. You could talk to him about how you feel and deliver an ultimatum about his talking with other women and if he fails to respect how you feel then there is no reason being with him. Whatever you decide i hope things work out for the best for you. Good luck!!

You both like porn! Get him to post pictures of you and see what the comments are!! He will either not post the picture, or he will and you will both get enjoyment from the comments. your choice, your problem not his.

Its not cheating at all in my opinion.. I do think this one is on you sweetie!! is it something you can put up with or not?? Frankly it would not bother me being on porn sites and looking at or watching porn..What would bother me though is if this is really a premise for meeting girls!! talking to the girls who have their kit off and taking part in the porn is damaging to a relationship..porn is suppose to be a fantasy world a place for people to indulge a little with out hurting anyone.