I like this guy soo much Words can't even explain it but my bff doesnt like him and said if i date him she wont be my friend anymore. wutt should i do? Who should i choose? Im leaning towards the guuy but idk.
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Tell your friend, that if she bases your friendship on whether or not you do what she wants, rather than supporting you in your choices, then she needs to find someone else to manipulate and be her "friend". Her reasoning is pretty shallow and immature. On the flip side, don't completely turn your back on your friend for this guy, he may not be everything you thought he'd be.
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ummmm ... I hope you don't base your whole life on what other people think. How sad ....
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And you call this person your "Bff"? That doesn't sound like a best friend forever to me. A best friend wouldn't judge you on something like who you wanted to date. That is obsurd, and I would say go for the guy you like, and if she is truly your friend she will still be one regardless of who you date. And if she decides not to be your friend anymore, than that is her loss. You need to do what is right for you, not what's right for anyone else.
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Does your bff say why she doesn't like him? Is she scared that it will affect your friendship? Ask her gently what's going on in her head. It really isn't a matter of having to choose. One is a best girlfriend, the other is a potential boyfriend. A g/friend would want good things for you, that make you happy - even when they don't involve her. She wouldn't put pressure & guilt trips on you like this, And if you allow her control over things that are important to you, then your friendship with her will be affected anyway, because you will very likely resent her for it. Kind regards
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Usually you should always pick a friend over a potential relationship, but if there is one thing that kill a friendship for me it's an ultimatum. Have you actually talked to your bff about why she hates the guy? I mean, if its something trivial like looks or "popularity level" then you probably should test the waters, but who knows, maybe her reasons could make sense
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you bff probably wants him for herself
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Tell her that you can't help having this massive crush on him so you really really need to know exactly what it is she doesn't like. You need to have her real reasons so you can make your mind up. Anyway if there was something wrong about him a friend would tell you, to save you from being hurt. Are you 100% sure its not just jealousy? Would she be OK with you going out with someone else, or does she think this guy and you might stay together and that she will not have you to hang around with any more?
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First of all, why is it that she feels so strongly about this? If it just a personal dislike, I would have a major problem with her wanting to keep me from being happy. If she is really your best friend, she will not end your friendship over this. Even if he ended up not being the guy for you, That is something that YOU need to discover for your self!
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I would ask her how else she plans on running your life? Ask her reasons. Just because she's jealous and doesn't think you'll have time for her isn't good enough. But listen - she might see something in your Dreamboat you are too blind to see for yourself.
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Well how long have you two been friends? Is it really worth losing her as a friend because of a guy. And really what is it that she doesn't like bout him? And your friends or family wont always like the guy your with even if you do.
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Maybe she knows something about him you don't. Hear her out. Don't automatically assume she is jealous of you.
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