How can i be nicer to people ...B\c i sometimes i don't say the right things to people and accidently hert their fellings ? my mom even told me to work on it and she made me feel really bad about my self
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Peacegirl
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Easy - say things which you feel are nice at all times to others. Anything deviating from that, is considered not nice.
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Well, its not always easy when you dont have experience to understand what plp will take as not nice. So I take it you are very young. So just remember not to respond until you are sure you are saying something nice. And when in doubt--just dont say anything. Just smile.
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Put yourself in the other person's shoes and think about what you say before you say it.
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You have to first learn to care for other people... put them ahead of you... put their interests first. If you do this, you will then be concerned about them and being nice to them will be natural to you. Until you actually are nice, acting nice is exactly that... acting, guessing, trying to be something you are not... and people will notice that, and you will be frustrated. Don't always think about what you would like, because we all have unique taste in lots of things, think about what you think they will like. It doesn't mean not being yourself, but improving yourself... and realizing that we can all use a little improving. Being nicer is definitely an improvement.
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In most cases it's not a matter of what you say but the way you say it. I'm always down for someone speaking their mind but if its said in a manner such as "I'm right and you're wrong: here's why", it can become a problem. To answer your question, you can be nicer to people by reserving unnaturally kind thoughts to yourself and only voicing the good things.
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its definitely something we all have to work on. i , myself, am one of the nicest folks in the world. but ive said thousands of horrible things, thinking i was saying something nice , silly or funny. ive even written lots of stupid things on here, trying to be silly or funny and just end up hurting or insulting folks. its a lifelong quest. but its wonderful that you are trying
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Let's keep in mind that you're not entirely at fault here. Weather you want to rephrase your manners of presentation or in what context your consideration lies is up to you, but as good and genuine as you want to be or are, you can't please everyone, if barely anyone. It's other people's fault too for misunderstanding, not taking the time to listen to what you said and how it was meant to be said, or taking things completely the wrong way, because they're too hot heated or self absorbed. You should just keep being yourself, because if you really are wanting to be nice, then do it because you want to, don't become a counterpart for someone's ego. We all have the right to speak as we will, and people need to listen to YOU too, not just listen to what they think you said. If you need to re-explain yourself or put it a different way, then so be it, but nobody should have to play interpreter or shrink to guess how people will react to your words.
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All of us (including your mother) have hurt peoples feelings whether it was deliberate or by accident and it will happen again. The trick is to be able to catch it right away and apologize. Be sincere when your doing it and don't just laugh it off saying 'Geez ..I was only kidding' because if their feelings were hurt you need to make it right. When your with your friends or family try really hard to be a good listener. It lets people know you care about what their saying. Body language is important too....and your tone of voice.
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I don't why thinking like this. But isuggest that one thing that u come in the world alone and go also, then what mattered that what people think about u . so u have to luve life as u want and don't be amberiss.Just enjioy ur life .OK
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Your mum needs to work on the very same thing she is wanting you to work on, so try not to feel bad about what she has said to you. I think you'll be reasonably well understood by those you interact with, if you think before you speak and consider the effect of what you intend to say to people (((hugs)))
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