I have been dating a girl for 10 months now. She is 27 and I am 30. She has a 6 yr old daughter who loves me and calls me Daddy but when we are all together she is very difficult to deal with. When the child & I are alone she is an Angel. Why?
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Because as the father figure you are an authority figure as well. It would be my guess that her mother is pretty easy on her as far as discipline is concerned. Alot of mothers can't say no to their children, sadly giving them the idea that anything goes. If this is not the case, then you must possess some unnatural power over children!
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since the girl calls you daddy this would mean the girl look up to you , why not get to know the daughter, take her out for ice-cream, know what her favourite things are girl maybe difficult because she want your attention.
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It seems to me that she thrives on your attention. My daughter loves her stepfather to death. In fact she likes spending more time with him than me I think. He has a nickname for her and she has alot of the same interests as him. She likes to have you all to herself. You must make her feel special. When you are with her mom she isn't the center of attention like when you're alone with her. Then she has to share you.
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Because when you're all together she has to compete for attention from both you and her mother. When it's one-on-one she's in the spotlight by default.
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Sounds like my daughter and husband (her step dad) She is great with him but when I come in she is a different child (grows horns and all) LOL I think the child is trying to make sure you don't take her "mommy" away from her. Kids are very possesive over single parents. The child was probably the only one who had mommy's love before and now she has to share the love with you. It has lasted years for me, we met 7 yrs ago when my daughter was 3, now 10 and still the same thing. Has gotten better though. Good luck
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Her mother has never disciplined her or said "no" to her until just after we began dating. The child has always gotten what she wanted and is set in that way. Now I am having a difficult time with disciplining her and her mother seems to think that it is harsh and at times in denial that it is a problem. The mother has a very soft spot for her because she feels sorry for having the child go through seeing the arguing and abuse from her real dad. What am I to do because the mother and I argue a lot about her not seeing the child needing discipline a problem?
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Her mother has never disciplined her or said "no" to her until just after we began dating. The child has always gotten what she wanted and is set in that way. Now I am having a difficult time with disciplining her and her mother seems to think that it is harsh and at times in denial that it is a problem. The mother has a very soft spot for her because she feels sorry for having the child go through seeing the arguing and abuse from her real dad. What am I to do because the mother and I argue a lot about her not seeing the child needing discipline a problem?
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There's no question about it, she obviously adores you. She sees you as a father figure, and welcomes you for that role in her life. Everyone else is right, she just doesn't want to compete for attention. The best way to solve this is to speak to this lovely 6 year old and explain to her how difficult she's being, and how that makes you and her mother feel. I guarantee she will understand. Don't take her age as an excuse to not be able to comprehend.
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