I'm 17 and i'm two weeks pregnant. I don't believe in abortion, and i'm going to keep my baby, but i haven't told my mom or my baby's father and i don't know how. I'm very alone right now and i don't know what to do.
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I am not trying to be rude. You have to Suck it up. Tell your Mom. And Especially the Baby's Daddy he has a right to know. Your Mom may be mad at first but she has a right to be. Hopefully your BF isn't over the age of 18 because your mom can actually get him in trouble.
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Well, you have to tell them sometime, so you might as well just get it over with. Just sit them each down (probably seperately) and let them know what you know. They'll find out eventually anyway and it's better to tell them sooner so that they can prepare themselves for the situation and be there for you. I don't know how you can be anything BUT alone if you don't tell anyone. *shrug*
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I'm a guy, what do I know :-) Talk to your mom, it may not be easy, but she will understand. You can't do this on your own, so take it one step at a time and your mom is the first step. Good Luck, and remember you can always talk to us here at AB, we don't judge or bite :-)
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OK sweetie, take a big breath in and let it out slowly. First person you need to tell is the babies father so that he can be prepared for what is to come and you two can make the right plans to raise this child (only you two know what is right for you). Then you both need to sit down and let your parents know. I hope your parents are the accepting type, but believe me it will be easier to tell them now then wait for later. another thing that you can do is find an adult you trust and feel comfortable with, tell that person and they can be kind of a buffer for when you do tell your parents. you also need a good, supportive friend right now. i wish you loads of luck and if you have any questions regarding pregnancy and babies feel free to email me through myspace. the link is in my profile.
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Hey there I know how you feel. Here is a link to a question I asked. http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/529822 good luck ! Be strong
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No one else can tell you what's right for you. We all only have opinions. Counseling can help. I do believe every child should have a mother and a male role model if a father figure is not available. So that would mean living with your parents until the child becomes an adult or putting it up for adoption. What do you think is best for the baby excluding everyone else's subjective reasons.
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first off,tell the babies father,you have to find out how he is going to take it,will he do right and marry you?( if that is how you wish it),will he not want the responsability?,does he have a job to help support you and the child. these are first,then when you have these answers,go to you mother and father and tell them,this way,you will have some of the answers they will ask you. I am sure they will have a few things to say at first,but they are parents,and will help all they can. as has been mentioned before,you will have all the help you can ask for here. Many Blessings. Mac
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I was in your exact situation, try not to stress too much but the first thing you need to do is tell the babies father. Then both of your parents. They may be upset about it but hopefully they will support you 100% after getting over the initial shock. People always seem to worry about teenage parents but as long as you stay in school, get a good education and be mature about it, it will all work out. I thought my future was ruined when i found out i was pregnant at 17 but I am now studying for my masters degree. Be Positive, hold you head up and just do as best you can, Good Luck!
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If you and the father decide its too much for you, please feel free to write. We have been looking and looking for a baby to give a wonderful home to. Good luck, Amy Amylynx@juno.com
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once your mum and family and boyfriend see that first scan picture evrything will be perfect trust me, it can change any person to see that!
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I have to agree with Jolene here,my mother was also a Catholicand as much as my sister disappointed her with her choice of boyfriends,she still loved her and excepted them into the house. The long distance between you and the childs father is a tough one,but he should still be told,he may not be in a possition right now to be much help monitarally,but if he is the right kind of fellow,he will do what he can to help. As for not exspecting any compassion here,this is what this board is for,help,not critisizm,please feel free to ask or just vent,I will do all I can,I am glad you are keeping the child. If you do not mind my asking,how do you plan on diapering the child?I really do hope you will concider cloth diapers and plastic pants. Many Blessings.
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I know how you feel, im 15 and pregnant and I dont know how im gonna tell my parents.
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I commend you for choosing life for your baby :D (((hugs))) You do need to talk to them. I understand you are nervous, but once the shock wears off, most people are elated. Even though you are young, enjoy your pregnancy and your new baby. This should be a wonderful time in your life.
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hey same issue! so first thing to do, see a doctor, get some vitamins tell the father then your parents i already have the vitamins, but im almost 18 so im not sure they'll get to mad
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First of all congratulations! Second of all i think you're a very smart girl, i don't believe in abortion and it's good that you don't agree with them too :) The first thing you should do is tell the baby's father, see wot he thinks and how he reacts, if he doesn't want anything to do with it then im sorry but tell him to get stuff, if you have a family friend that your parents are close to and trust see if you can talk to them and ask them if they be with you while you tell your parents they can help talk to your parents about what you're going through. You don't hav to go through all of that by yourself! Best of luck with everything..Don't worry im sure you're parents will be shocked and angry for a while but give them some time, they will come around(hopefully) if they do love you, they should be there for you no matter what, you made a mistake, everyone does, just hope you learned from it...Good luck!
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um i just wanna know if you're still prego and how you figured out you were two weeks prego when i do believe preg tests wont pick up the hormone at that part of pregnacy
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i suggest turning arount to your bf and saying hey sweetie you're going to be a daddy.. now.. and talk to him about what you BOTH want to do then sit your parents down and have a nice long chat.. good luck sweetie..
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well in the case of the parents, wait until the 2nd trimester, in case of miscarriage(if its gonna happen its ususally 1st trimester) BUT get prenatal care. How do you know your pregnant. You won't even have a positive pregnancy test at 2 weeks. I'm glad your gonna keep it, but I want to know why you think your pregnant
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speak 2 your mam first i was 18 when a had my first baby and a thought my mam would go mad abit upset at first but then over the moon now the past came back 2 haunt me my daughter who a had when a was 18 came in a told me she was havin a baby she was 19 i was devaststed 4 about 2 days now a have a wonderful 8 month old grandson called chayce who i need 2 c everyday there is always light at the end of the tunnel. tell your mam she will b upset at first but then she will take over organising everything like i did.tell your mam she will b ther 4 u all the way through. tell the babys dad 2 but if he doesnt want 2 know dont worry u can get by without him.
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If you want to keep the baby Then Be Strong. Take responsibility for your actions. if you rely on what other people would say, it would just make you weaker. anyone can raise a baby. If you are ready to do this on your own then you dont need to be afraid to tell your parents. who cares about your bf he will only count if he marries you and takes care of you.
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I had my child when I was 18 (preg when I was 17). I was scared to death to tell my parents. You are going to HAVE to tell your mom first. Then you and your mom can discuss it with the baby's father and their parents. Please do not abort the child. I will adopt the child if it is too much on you and the father too early in life (virtuoso9299@aol.com). I was blessed to have my son. My son was my saviour. He is 16 now and has a bright future. But DO take care of your unborn child now, dr's appts and all. The longer you wait, the worse it can be healthwise for the child
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if you have a myspace or facebook, please add me. my myspace is under HEATHER MERCHANT and so is my facebook. I would love to help you in any way I can. I have been here done that. ANd by the way, you would be suprised as far as your parents go and how they deal with this. Tell them.
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talk to your boyfriend, and make a decision with him...and once you have both of you guys talk to ur mom or dad...they will be upset for a while but then they will get over it...
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I'm sure all those involved know by now (I see you asked this last march). Did you have the baby yet? What are your plans?
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you should have been payed attention.children are not toys to play with .it`s not a joke . having children without having a family is a disaster,the baby must have a father and a mother to live normally ,not a silly boyfriend who doesn`t even care.having babies should be planned so that all the conditions that you are in are suitable for him. even if not planned be sure that you are married which means that you already have a family .kids like you in 17 years should still play with dolls ,not play around ith boys . good luck
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you have to tell them. it's hard, but it's just as much a part of their life as it is yours. even though, being a woman, i've always felt that an unwanted pregnancy is much more of a burden for the mother than the father. he still has a right to know though. and you should look into adoption. it's so difficult, but if you aren't ready for a baby give it to someone who can't have their own and would be a great parent.
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I'm just curious... I notices that it's been about nine months since this question was posted... So, how did it turn out?
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hey am 17 yrs old too. well congrats.am very happy your keeping ur baby :) i dont believe in abortion either. but talk to your boyfriend first then have a conversation with your mom about it moms are better to understand things SOMETIMESS. good luck!
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the way the gestation of pregnancy is measured is from the first day of your last period. 4 weeks is the absolutely earliest of confirming pregnacy. before you tell your mum or bf i would confirm the pregnancy and the correct dates with a doctor
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tell the babys father and your mom nicely and at a good time...like if you and her/him are having a conversation say: can i talk to you about something...then tell them
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Just be honest to your mom and boyfriend and tell them openly and as soon as possible. These things are best done as soon as you find out about them - and as soon as they both know what's going on you'll find out that your no longer alone in this. The best of luck to you!
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You have to tell them. It WILL be hard to do. Just think, the sooner you tell them, that is is one big stress lifted off your shoulders. Stress is not good for you or the baby! I know it is scary, but it wil get better!!! My son became a dad at 16. We were not happy, but we dealt with the situation. We have a beautiful Granddaughter that was born on our 20th wedding anniversary! She will be 3 in July, and we would not trade her for anything! Good luck swettie!
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i would tell them when your ready., and probably when your farther along so the father cant make you get an abortion. if he gets mad about the pregnancy then stay away from him. my friend got kicked in the stomach, cuz her boyfriend josh didnt want the baby to be born.
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yes i know how you feel i will tell you sumthing your not the worst one i know this girl she started her period at a very early age ... she is 13 and she thought it would be great if she had sex with a freshmen so she did and now she is pregnant and she doesnt want to tell her parents but she is already getting puggy and she is like almost a month along does anyone have any advise for this one ? but your not the only one struggling ... believe me you'll get threw it i believe in you... :D
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How are you two weeks pregnant? you either didn't, or hardly missed a period. How do you even know? Anyways, just tell them. Don't believe in abortion? Don't get one. I got preg. younger and I had to tell my parents too. They will likely help you more than you think, and won't be too harsh. Just say, "im pregnant." <3 x
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i understand this. this happended to one of my cousins about two years ago. the truth is the babys dad will loose his mind , maybe cry a little bit and probaly leave. but i give you props about the not beleiving in abortion. there is no easy way to tell your parents im sad to say. the best thing you can do is sit them down and explain what is goin on. theey will probaly be enraged for a while but it is better for them to know. dont hold back any details though or they will think you are trying to cover up some stuff.
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SInce this happened a while ago, can you tell me how it turned out?
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