Just how did you find out about them french kissing? I mean, were you there? Or, did she tell you? If she told you, she's giving you a big clue. Either she's trying to make you jealous - maybe the kisses never happened at all. Or maybe she's too timid to break up with you - and hopes you do it for her. Either way, I wouldn't french kiss another guy if I had a boyfriend. Answer me this - how would she feel if you did that to her? Would she forgive you?

She can't be too sorry for what she did, if she is talking to this guy all the time and sending him texts. Did she cheat? Yes. Is she still cheating? Yes, I think so. It would be hard to forgive her while she is still talking with him and texting him. So can you accept what she is still doing? Or ignore the situation?

I found a letter she wrote to her girlfriend and asked her about different scenarios and she knew I found the letter.

she's a cheater...

Your girlfriend is not committed to you. I know it is painful but if you are seeking a committed relationship, you should consider breaking up with her. Otherwise, you will only be in for more pain down the road. Your girlfriend is not bad or a "cheater" she is simply not in the same place you are emotionally and probably not ready for a committed relationship at this time. Good luck!

I just had a feeling because, she would talk to this guy everyday and night, even when we would be spending time together. Holding each other & watching TV or anything. He would text her and tell her to call him and she would call him and leave the room and talk for about 1 to 2 hours. Another time I put her in bed and left to watch TV as she had to go to work at 6 AM and I let her sleep. She received a text from the guy and she immediately went online and chatted then called him for an hour. She would talk semi-loud, but at the end she would always whisper "I LOVE YOU" to him. She said she has not had contact with him since the kisses, but then we drove by one day and she texted him. But now she says she shuts her phone off. & last night he texted her. But she did not respond as we were working on this and discussing it. What should I do?????

If I french kissed another girl she would be devastated, she always worried about me finding someone else and I always had to reassure her I Love only her...

When we talked about what she did, she said, the first one was a French Kiss and she said it was a stupid mistake and it just happened and she did not plan it, and then the second one she said was only a peck, but how can I be sure? She wrote in the letter that she was falling for him to the point I myself noticed something different between her and I. This is what she wrote in the letter: "It all started as a fun project. You know just for me to have fun. At first we had lunch a couple of times and then we went to the hills and we kissed. He and I can talk about anything and everything." "I got attached to him, but not intentionally." "He came to work one day and we saw each other and we kissed. He said he was sorry for what his parents did and that he was happy to see me. And he asked that if we were still going to see each other?" "I my stupid self said “YES”, but that if we were going to do this, then we would have to be each other’s secret-He couldn’t tell anyone about me or talk about me to anyone and same goes for me about him. As far as anyone is concerned we are just friends that see each other at work and have lunch once or twice a week." When I confronted her she said the whole story about seeing each other was just something stupid. But as you see she laid it all out there like a plan. She is also looking for a house and says her and I can date, but just not live together anymore. When I confronted her about this whole thing, she said she was sooo sorry and she said 'forgive me' over and over again.

I would let her go. You deserve better. But only you can make that decision. From experience if it happens once it will happen again.

If I were to forgive her & stay together? How could I? Everytime I see her I imagine the kisses. She said she would never do it again. But how could I ever trust her again. In our relationship we had no secrets at all. And then she did this to me. If I did not find the letter I would never have known and she would still be talking & texting this guy. She said the guy makes her feel good and she can talk to him about anything and she thinks of him as her kid brother. She said the kiss was just something stupid. How can I forget & forgive? All I think of is that. When I see her I just feel sick to my stomach. She said she would never do it again, but she did it...once is enough. Help me guys:)

Um, sounds like you're getting played.

Another item is. My Brother passed away a few years ago and she said it changed me, she said I was not the same person, I told her I might not be the same person, but nothing changed in my mind towards her, I told her & tell her all the time I Love her more than anything. She said the guy was just a stupid mistake. Another time after the kisses before I knew about them. We were going somewhere and we passed the guy and she texted him to say "drive safely; I worry about you."

She said to forgive her and I said would she forgive me for something like that. She said probably because, it happened to her before. But this has never happened to me. I mean if I did not find the note, she would keep it from me and we said we would never have any secrets. Some days I try to forget, I talk with close friends, but then something just triggers a thought. HELP

I mean I could forgive her. She said if I do forgive her then we would forget about it and just be together and she keeps saying it will never happen again. She said she was looking for a place of her own. Then she said I could move in with her if she found a place. She said she would marry me, but does not really want to. HELP

I mean. I feel like forgiving her during the day, then I think, she cheating on me, kissed another guy, why??? How can I forgive her for this act when she means everything to me and I never have thought or would ever think of doing this to her.

She keeps telling me this was a one time stupid mistake and that they no longer talk and she has not talked to the guy for a long time, but then last night when we were talking she received a text from him. My friend had a similar thing happen to him, but his girlfriend had sex and not kissed. and he took her back. But for me, I mean, how could she do this to me? We've been together for many years. I mean, how could she do this? HELP

You should introduce her to the curb. I know, it sucks, but the sooner you dump her and get over it, the happier you will be.

Another thing is. She has a Child. Who is 14. This Summer she was going to Driver's Education Class & she absolutely Loves my family.

You have made the right decision, let this workplace Romeo have her, he will get cheated on too eventually.

Listen sweety, you sound as if you are deeply in love with this person. But this person is not acting in respect of you. If I would be you, I would leave her and tell her that I would not tolerate her kissing another person. If she really loves you she will come back after you and maybe she would learn her lesson. If you get back with her and she does that again then I would never get her back. Send her with this bastard who she is texting or texting her. Good luck.

dude i just had the same thing happen to me, me and my girl were engaged but since shes a jehovahs witness i have to be baptized, so i been studying past 6 months and im close to baptism date, but the elders said we needed to make a clean break while i study. so we are on break and she stil tells me she loves me, but she has the most random guys texting her like old ex's and some guys from work that are friends, but she made out with a guy in the pharmacy then left before anything else could happen. She tells me she loves me, but she cant promise me that she wont have sex with anyone else. and we stil sneak together every now and then and mess around and cuddle. but we work together as cashiers and she has some customers texting her, firefighters and what not. what do i do? is she seeing someone else? shes getting her own place next month and im afraid that now her parents arent watching shes going to be doing the unthinkable...