Well i can only give you advice based on what i think and mau not necessarily be what is true so its your decision to make it influence yours. While i have absolutely no problem with that, because it is a matter of loving someone who loves you understands you and can relate to you. However a problem that i am thinking about is that you sound as thou you have never met him, if so there is a famous saying where i,m from "come see me and come live with me is to different things". This meaning he may be ok when not face to face, but when your with him he may be a complete different person. Oh and i'm black as well in case your wondering.

Not too sure if this is advice, but maybe sharing my experience may help you. I am a 25 yr old African American woman, born and raised in a prodominatly Black area and up until now have only dated men of African Decent. I never have been attracted to White men, I always used to say I could never ever see myself dating a white guy myself, even though I have girlfriends who have and I'm cool with that it was never my thing. With all the taboos and stereotypes out there I always thought white men who were into Black women had some kind of obsseion or fetish, and they're interest was more curiosity. A month ago however, I met a guy while on vaction, he lives in NY and I'm in CA, this guy is AMAZING. He makes me feel so special and he likes me for me. At first I was in denial about my feelings and tried ignoring them, worried about what my friends/family would think. I didn't want people to think I was a sellout or that I didn't like Black men. Now I realize that I'm am so into this guy, it doesn't even matter what cultural difference we may have, what my friends or family think. My feelings toward this guy don't slight the love and pride I share for my culture and background. The only opinion that matter's is your own. Which is something I had to deal with as far as my own feelings toward interracial dating, racism, prejudice, etc. After you sort out your own feelings, it's about what makes you happy, and as much as a cliche that is it is so very true. Granted these may be uncharted waters(for me too), just take things as they come. Good luck to you.

My mother used to say to me "It is your life. You do whatever is required to find your own happiness." It isn't your parents decision to make. If you love each other that is all that really counts(I am assuming you are an adult). Your parents should understand this. If they don't I fear it will be their loss.

just follow your heart...its your happiness and his happiness and nobody elses ...if you both want this then do it your parents can offer you advise but they can't run your life its up to you ...so go for it ...its a whole new world now and old thinkings about many things are being shown for what they are ...rubbish ...good luck!

How old are you? If you're of legal consent age, your parents don't have a right to intervene. However, if you're still financially dependent on your parents -- i.e. if you live with them or receive support from them -- you will still want to consider carefully what their response will be to the relationship. They can obviously make life difficult for you. If you're not financially dependent on your parents, then I think it really comes down to making your own choices and asking your parents to respect that. This can be a tough experience, but it can also foster a lot of growth and maturing on your part. Every child has to separate from their parents on the road to maturity, and that includes learning to stand for your own values even if your parents disagree, and even if there's a price to be paid for doing so. It's possible that this is your time for that transition.

That's what parents do, they often disagree with their children for various reasons. I don't think enough info has been given about the guy. How long have you known each other, age, and just background sufficiency. Will he be driving down for the day, the weekend and if so where will he stay. This should not come down to being the responsibility of yourself or your parents. I'm not sure of your age, but there needs to be more communication from you to your parents. They may have a good reason for opposing your choice to invite him down and not that he is of a different ethnicity. Do your homework thoroughly and good luck.

This article may help you to deal with disapproving friends and family. "As a child you were probably told that it is important to stand up for what you believe in, however, this idea can often be thrown right out the window when it comes to a family objecting to your interracial relationship. You, however, need to evaluate why your family is objecting to your relationship, and if it is based solely on race, you need to take a stand." Continue reading here: http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/519423/dealing_with_a_family_that_doesnt_approve.html

I am dealing with EXACTLY THE SAME situation! I have no idea what to do, since we REALLY love eachother. Maybe we can talk about it? Please let me know when you come up with an idea or so.

Mmmmm that is a tough one but i would say it is probaly best that you dont tell your parents about him and just hide it from them (not that you have anything to be ashamed about) but i get the feeling your parents are still stuck in the middle ages way of thinking about love so i dont think you will able to convience them that you love this guy for who he is and not what colour his skin is I have read some women who are in the same situation as you and for some once they got married, reached the 3 yr dating mark or had kids they slowly started to accept them

Some people think doing that is wrong. personally i dont everyone deserves a chance and its just a color. im sure once your parents meet him they will feel different about and if they dont then thats there problem follow your heart

My sister is white, and her fiance is black. They have a baby together (my niece) and shes the most beautifulest baby I've ever seen anyway ... How does skin tone comebetween a relationship? What makes a black person diffirent from diffirent ethnic origins, perhaps if they are from another culture and brought up diffirently then yes maybe its a no.

Happiness can be found in any color.

Do as you please, but remember two things. It is the kids that pay the biggest price for interracial marriages, especially so diverse as white and black. Right or wrong, that's the way it is. Second, marriage is difficult enough with very similar backgrounds. The more differences you add, no matter how much in love you are now, the greater the chances of divorce. Why are you in this situation? You dated him. My mother was very wise when I used to say, "Well, I'm just gonna date her, not marry her." She said, "Consider every date a potential marriage partner". She was right.

your choice...just be ready to accept the consequences....my daughter did the same.....and 12 years later she has many, many REGRETS...she threw away LOTS .....

As some others have said, it depends on where you are in life. If you do not receive any financial support from them, you are free to do what you want, and their approval doesn't matter. But if you do live with them, you will have to approach them in a respectful way. First, do you know for sure they object to his race, or to the fact that this is a long distance online relationship (some parents can be weirdly conservative about these things)? If the former, then ask why they think it's wrong. They will probably just give a BS reason, but they might appreciate that you took time to understand their point of view (even if it is a f*cked up one). Explain to them that no matter what color we are, we're all human beings. All humans are 99% similar when it comes to DNA, so people are really very similar; the idea of separate races is only a social construct. I don't know what else to say, but if you believe you've found a great guy, fight for the relationship. Your parents may object, but if you stand your ground, eventually they will accept the relationship (however grudgingly). Here is one tip for his upcoming visit. If possible, have him stay in a motel so that you won't have to depend on your parents to lodge him, because they can--and probably will--refuse.

This is how parents will be anyway but it is your decision by the end of the day. It is tough but once you have distanced yourself from your parents influence and seen things from your point of view it will come easily to you to say yes to it. This is if only you truly love each other. my man is black and we are facing the same situation. I have made my mind that my parents should accept it the way i do. He is still thinking about it. Well, we do not live for other people but for us. Good luck and the best of wishes. by the way, black men are so hot.