I was just wondering......what do you think you would do if yo asked a father for his daughter's hand (in marriage) but you were rejected?
by 
saffyanne
ANSWERS: 18
-
I would take comfort in the fact that it was not her father that I asked to marry me. It's a tough one but when it comes down to it, you do not require the blessing of her parents (or yours), nor do you require their permission, to marry and live happily ever after. It would be nice to have their blessing, but it is not essential at all. Perhaps you should ask the lady in question for her hand in marriage - she is the important one here and it is her answer that is the deciding factor.
-
I would probably already become a lesbian, waiting for a gay marriage.....
-
i would give him a chance to change his mind before i steal my love away without his permission
-
Try one more time....And that's it.
-
I would conclude that the father doesn't want his daughter to marry a 55-yr-old female.
-
Elope, of course--and my father-in-law would save a fortune on the wedding which he could give us to build a hous
-
I would tell him that it only courtesy that makes me ask him because I fully intend marrying her anyway :o)
-
marry anyways, your in love
-
Do exactly what I did, wait 2 months until she turned 18, and marry her anyway! 28 years and still going!
-
Marry her anyways if she was 18 years old or above. Younger than that and he is in his right to deny your request.
-
"I'm sorry that you disapprove of me, I know that you only want the best for your daughter. But I know that in my heart that I will do anything for her, and would make the most incredible sacrifices to make her happy. We love each other with all of our hearts, and we complete each other. With all due respect Sir....I am marrying your daughter!" Kinda tacky, huh?:)
-
Marry her anyway. This is why you should bring it up with her before you ask him. Sometime when you're talking about marriage, just a quick, "Should i talk to your dad about it? the whole asking permission thing?" Maybe the answer is "no, I don't talk to him," or "no, he won't approve because he insists i marry a doctor" or whatever. Maybe she'd be insulted that you would ask *his* permission-- she's an adult, what does his permission have to do with anything?
-
well i'm a girl but I've always wondered that...i mean do you say...."um well let me rephrase, i'm going to ask your daughter to marry me...just a heads up. I gotta get going, later"
-
I personally would be very impressed with someone who respected my daughter enough to do such a thing. No one does that these days..at least, no one I've ever known! I think it is sweet, charming and very old-world. Now, if my daughter were too young, of course I would reject that person..or if that person had no steady job, no plans for the future, then I would also reject that person...but not forever, just temporarily. :)
-
Insist on a dowry!
-
I didn't ask permission, but I did ask my wife's mother and step father for thier blessings and approval. Mostly out of old-style ritual. We had already planned to get married, but we all went out to dinner, I asked for an acceptance into the family, and was approved. We "officially" exchanged rings. And here we are 14 years later.
-
i asked my father in law, he replied saying "well, (she)'s the one you have to get a "yes" from, but you have (our) blessing". Afterwords I told him that I had planned on waiting a while before actually proposing due to finances and not wanting to do anything on credit i didn't have to and he smiled saying "those sorts of judgement calls are why you will never get any hassle from (his wife) or I about marrying our little girl" and he had a tear in his eye. If he hadn't said yes (for some bizarre reason) i don't know what i would have done. Maybe talk to my girlfriend about it?
-
I'd then do the following. 1. Offer cash. 2. Offer drugs. 3. Offer to videotape the nuptials. 4. Offer him a free "Eradication" of anyone who he dislikes. (This would include the MIL)
call me Kat RELATED QUESTIONS
Copyright 2023, Wired Ivy, LLC