If you can't find out what is right with your self. You must do all that is possible for your kids. They are the most important people in your life.

She's on a hormonal roller coaster at the moment so I wouldn't stress too much on how she reacts to things. Wait until 6 months after the baby is born and then reevaluate. Once that baby smiles at you, it's all over. You are no longer your own man for the rest of your life.

she's been doing this even before she was pregnant. we're on our second child so i know all about the kid stuff. lol. i just still feel like something is wrong in the marraige.

I'd have to have an example of what you mean by makingi your feelings seem invalid... but, from what I can tell, it sounds to me like you need to discuss this with her. Tell her openly and honestly, "when you say this or that, this is how it makes me feel" and if she doesn't try to change the way she is effecting you, then it is time to reevaluate the relationship. It is true she is on an emotional rollercoaster, but coming from someone that's been there many times over; it's not right to treat you that way. maybe seek out counseling...?

Love is natural for a woman to give but respect is not...and for a man to feel respect its like his "air hose". For a man respect is natural to give but giving his wife love is something that he in turn has to learn....this goes both ways with the women learning to respect their husbands. It means more to a man (in most cases) for a wife to say "I respect you, I honor you as my husband, and I am proud to be your wife" vs "I love you" or the wife that says "I cook for you, I clean for you, I do all this stuff for you to show you I love you and I feel like you dont love me" When if she just told him how much she respected the little things that he does in turn he would WANT to buy her flowers..be there for her to talk with etc....its give and take. There was a survey done some years ago in CA and they asked a 100 men and 100 women if they has to chose between getting love or respect for the rest of their lives what would it be? The out come was amazing almost 95% of women picked love and 95% of the men picked Respect.... After hearing this it made more sense to me how the military has done its training all these years...Best of luck! www.loveandrespect.com

You two need to get with a counseler ASAP. It is a common problem. I know that I have had to learn how to argue correctly and still sometimes slip into bad habits. If I am right you probably also think your wife twists things around to make them your fault, gives you guilt trips, etc. This is a problem with both of you, not just her, and you will learn to communicate effectively with her if you try counseling. I know a lot of people don't feel comfortable with this, but it is a problem between you and your wife and therefore you owe it to your children to work at it. Not only do they want their mom and dad together, but they will learn how to deal with problems just by watching their mommy and daddy, no matter how you two deal with things, whether positively or negatively. And which one do you want to pass on? Good luck!!

Don't worry and don't leave her thats not the solution. I know its very hurting. Espcially when you are jobless, or when something went wrong. Most of the wifes think like that and I am sure the wife of Einstein thinks too, that he is a stupid. Ignore the arguments and be silent and ignore her few days, too and don't give your opnion on anything (some thing very hard to do) and things will be much better. With all the best wishes. RK