I'm an attractive woman, but the guys just don't hit on me anymore. I'm not sure why, but it sure has hurt my self-esteem greatly. What's the best way to attract and get meaningful attention from a man?
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jenm123
ANSWERS: 37
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Have an out-going personality, center your attention on the guy, don't be clingy or co-dependent, wear plenty of makeup that is appropriate for your age and wear clothes, which are modest, and fashionable, but NOT flashy or over-the-top and that are age appropriate. However, don't be overtly flirtatious, or aggressive. Bottom line: Dress modestly, wear makeup, be out-going and personable, and positive! Good luck!
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Perhaps they are intimidated by you. Often men are less likely to approach a very attractive woman, particularly if she has an (intentionally or unintentionally) aloof air, than they are a girl who is just moderately pretty. They fear rejection, or believe she will laugh at them because she's out of their league. they may even assume that someone good looking would obviously have a boyfriend already, so don't bother approaching her. Your best course of action is to bite the bullet and start doing a bit of chatting up yourself. You don't have to be overtly sexual if its not your bag, but try smiling or winking at guys you like across the room to give them the signal that you're willing for them to make a move. Also try talking to guys, something simple along the lines of "come here often?" is fine. You could even offer to buy him a drink- most guys love the unconventional approach. Be a little more pro-active and see what happens.
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Taking your clothes off usually helps. If not, as many as you can get away with.
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Get him to talk about himself.
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Show him your tits? But seriously, good conversation!
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i was in this situation, not too long ago. i can tell you what not to do: NEVER LIE-lieing never helps.. or holds attention very long. and when it getts out that it was a lie, the guy wont talk to you any more. and what you can try: -asking him for help on homework, or for help in a class. -talk to him about your/his day -get him into conversations. this will help you get closer. getting closer always helps, then when you want to talk, he'll be sure to llisten. and then maybe, if you wait long enough, youll get so close, youll go out. but that is not garenteed. good luck!
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Hold a gun to his head. If you don't have a gun, have a real conversation with him. Don't be shy, quiet, or reserved because that will just drive him away (I know). And if you really like this guy(s?) then make it OBVIOUS that you're interested in him!!
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I don't know if this will help you at all but it immediately reminded me of a little story I was once told. In one of my classes, the teacher told us that she met her husband on one of these single people dating things, she's a Psychiatrist that saw a Psychiatrist, before meeting her husband she asked her Psychiatrist that why is it that all the ugly guys she meets on her dates calls back but all the sexy ones never do, the answer was that, when she's with the sexy guys she feels like she has to impress them so she pretends to be someone she's not and with the ugly guys she's always herself because she does not feel the need to impress them - people can see when you are pretending so if you really want someones attention and keep it my advise to you is to just be yourself spiced up with a bit of wittyness
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If he's extroverted and outgoing, he'll assume that you're coming on to him (even when you aren't), so let him come on to you. And how strongly he comes on to you will give you an idea of the kind of guy he is (some women like a guy who comes on strong, and some don't). But if he's shy and introverted, he'll have suffered a lot of rejection from women and may lack confidence. In which case, if he is THE guy for you, and he doesn't seem to be taking the hints, then you need to do the asking out.
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Find out what your interests or hobbies are. What are you an expert in? Take a class in a subject that you are interested in. You might people there who share your interests. Stop looking for attention, and start giving others attention. They will recipricate.
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I would say Lady Fushia is right on target, I can speak for myself that I am actually intimidated by attractive women, i feel like I wouldn't stand a chance in hell talking to her. But I find enough courage and eventually have a great onversation with her. I wouldn't change a thing about yourself, You are you and always will be. You will attract meaningful attention, Be yourself.
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BE WITTY. Don't do the whole, "laugh at every single thing he says." Be HONEST. Lying gets you nowhere. Casually flirt, compliment a LITTLE. Don't overdo it. The trick is to be subtle. Brush his arm, look his way every once and a while then look away. (Although, not creepily)
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Some guys are intimidated by woman who are independent because they feel the woman will have upper hand over them, what you should do is loosen up a little, give eye contacts and act flirty. Also go to the club at least two times without a friend because some guys are afraid to approach woman when they hang out with alot of friends.
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In my experience, confidence.
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i find that men tend to find me quite intimidating. what i recommend you do is get to know men and when you find one you fancy give him the attention, if he likes you then he should reciprocate, if he doesn't then move on. personally i am tired of hearing about women who wait around for men, why? take the reigns in your own hands you are just as capable!
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Smile girl...........lots of smiling.........
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maybe you are just too pretty. :)
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sleep with everyone
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As a guy, I have to admit, that I find it silly how we are initimidated by women (really attractive women). But that's just how it is, it's wired into our hard-drive lol Probably has more to do with fear of rejection than anything else but that's just one factor. What you need to do is take the initiative and talk to guys yourself. Pep talk. Nothing big. When you approach 'em, guys might seem to be all casual like but inside believe me, they will be like, 'Ok, don't screw this one up, now. She's a hottie!' So don't worry about anything, just be yourself.
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It could be your demeanor, either that you're coming across as TOO independant and unapproachable, OR too needy and dramatic. I know GORGEOUS women who never get hit on, for either one of those reasons. I'll often ask my guy friends: 'what is it about such-&-such, why don't you ever go talk to her?' I get the above feedback from the guys. I really believe that you've got to be confident and love yourself first (but not to the point where you're arrogant!), and wait & see what happens--the guys will come along in droves. I wouldn't say that I'm any more attractive than "average," but I seem to always get hit on (which weirds out other women!), and people say it's because of my positive attitude, my healthy self-esteem, mixed with my approachability.
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It's nearly 2 years later... Jenn let us know if you found a man yet. Also, post a picture, I need to see what constitutes and "attractive" woman.
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Maybe you're too intimidating. Try acting more innocent...that's what attracts me to girls of course.
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Show us the goods. ( o Y o )
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It could be one of two things, either there itimidated by you or you are embellishing the perception of yourself...I would say try to always be friendly with both guys your interested in and ones that you arent as well. Nothing is a bigger turnoff than a woman/man who is insecure and tries to put on a fiscade(?) of being overlyconfident.
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Ew....stop being so passive about it...why should guys chat you up, if you dont chat them up. Where on earth do these odd rules come from? If you want something, go do stuff to make it happen, dont walk around your life hoping for things...blokes included
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First of all,don't allow it to hurt your self-esteem because your attractive which puts the ball in your court. That's normally the first hurdle to look good for men. I don't know very many men that wouldn't like talking to an attractive women. So all you have to do is open up your pretty little mouth and socialize and you will have no problems getting attention from men. Just out of curiosity what do you mean by meaningful attention?
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I just saw an article on MSN about 3 weeks ago call "How to flirt." If you Google it, I'm sure something useful will come up. You're still not wearing that fake wedding ring that you used to wear to keep guys away, are you? Just go about your life, be yourself, act friendly to everyone (not just men), be nice, act intelligent but not haughty, participate in activities where people come together, such as walk-a-thons or a committee at work. Act a little sexy but not like a cheap tramp. Depending on your age, you might want to unhook an extra button on your blouse or wear a sexy skirt or shorts - stuff like that really does get a second glance from the guys! Look for opportunities to chat with men with similar interests - that's always a good ice breaker! These are just a few tips, I'm sure you'll get more.
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Smile, make eye contact, and flirt a little.
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The tricky bit here is the word "anymore". So you were OK, and then something happened. Any guesses? Maybe you've moved into a more sophisticated environment, where "hitting" on a girl is seen less casually. I know for sure that women who are considerably younger and more attractive than me intimidate me in that I wouldn't like to be seen as a sleazebag. And no-one likes to hear "I like you as a friend ... now, take your fecking hands off of me or I'll taze you again" more than necessary. If you're really that attractive, maybe you have to give the guys some positive, verbal encouragement once in a while: "I've noticed that you're interested in me ... I would like to get to know you better, too". Good luck!
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i agree that men can be intimidated by a beautiful woman.....as a guy, i really don't hit on women or use those cheesy pick up lines....just be yourself......you will meet a nice guy some day......take care....Brian.....
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there is not meangful attention from a man.. also if your TRYING to get men to notice you..thats when they dont..so just dont try and you should be good :)
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ive got heaps of guy friends and i tlk about all of this stuff with them, weather they like to hear it or not. All of the guys i have met, and they never seamed to hit on me and then after a whilei became friends with have told me that they were so intimadated of me. So ive learnt over the years you have to make the first move if u like someone,unless theyre goodlooking themselves then that a different story, they will come to u
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it's been nearly 3 1/2 years ... wonder if she is still not getting the attention???
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maybe if you see a fellow you like, you can ask him this exact same question, and see what he says/does :> teehee :)
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Do research on body language. You have to look confidant AND be confidant. Good luck changingminds.org/techniques/body/body_language.htm www.learnbodylanguage.org
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Women can't make up their minds. They spend their first 30 years complaining that men hit on them and then they spend the second 30 years complaining that they don't.
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Get out there ans start a conversation yourself. Men may be intimidated by you, but if you show an interest in them that intimidation will be replaced rather wuickly.
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