How old are you, and how comfortable are you with this person?

Ask him what things you do not do that he would like you to do. Buy a book on the joy of sex or something like that. It is good for couples.

Drink a few glasses of wine. Turn off the lights. You'll be comfortable in no time !

My girlfriend has the same issue sometimes. I'm not exactly sure what it is, but if the issue with you is your not sure what kind of positioning/transitioning to do or feel awkward the talk to him. If your not confident with the flow of your intercourse then I would definitely recommend it. It's quite embarrassing for me and my girlfriend to discuss at times, but if I start something new she feels more at ease knowing where I'm going with it. I call it sexual tactics. I know it seems a little weird, but I would definitely sit down and ease into the topic of your sexual activity/flow. Communication! Good luck, hope this helps. ;)

Most guys would love to have a woman take the intaitive. First thing is communication, do you talk about your sex life at all with him? You really should try, if you are not. Let him no you are shy, but would like to try it sometime, that way you can do it in your own time, and not feel pressured. Really you just have to go for it, I am sure his response will be at first, maybe a little shock, but he will love it. You will also, it gives you a sense of control, and that can be an arousal for you. Try it, I think you will love it.

You have to start in your comfort zone and slowly explore with each other... It is human nature to feel shy because you are opening yourself to another human being therefore you can in a sense feel vonerable. I always feel the most comfortable with the lights off or very low light, but the closer the two of you become and the more comfortable you feel with each other the shy feeling will disappear. Communication is also a big part of intimacy, expressing how you feel and what you want and finding out what he wants and findnig that comon ground of what you feel comfortable experiencing with him.

Hi, I know how you feel. I used to feel very shy for a number of reasons. I was a victim of sexual abuse, I was self-concious about parts of my body, Sex was always portrayed as dirty and nasty in my childhood. I learned to overcome my shyness by embracing it as beautiful and learning to love myself and my body. Stop thinking about the act so much and concentrate on relaxing and the intimacy of it. Look at the definition of shy Main Entry: 1shy Pronunciation: ˈshÄ« Function: adjective Inflected Form(s): shi·er or shy·er ˈshÄ«(-É™)r; shi·est or shy·est ˈshÄ«-É™st Etymology: Middle English schey, from Old English scÄ“oh; akin to Old High German sciuhen to frighten off Date: before 12th century 1: easily frightened : timid*********** 2: disposed to avoid a person or thing <publicity shy> 3: hesitant in committing oneself : circumspect****** 4: sensitively diffident or retiring : reserved; also : expressive of such a state or nature <a shy smile> 5: secluded, hidden maybe you should do some soul searching and find out how you feel about sex and what you've been taught about sex. Sex before marriage etc. Maybe you have some hidden feelings that need to be brought to the surface so you can deal with them, or maybe it's a new relationship and it will take time. Whatever the case good luck :)

perhaps a drink or a smoke might be helpful,

I am a virgin:-))but here's what I would do:make a romantic feel of a foreplay before sex so it will ease you being with him and you'd feel more connected to him.It's like trying to speak spanish when nobody around can speak it but when a native comes along it comes naturally to your mouth.Shyness isn't bed but exploring each others bodies must be something you need to work on.Hope I helped,stupid of me when I never had anyone.:-)