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by AJ Sacher on February 25th, 2008

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My gf and I have been going out for almost 11 months. I found out recently that a guy likes my gf, and she kind of likes him too. she keeps telling me that she won't act on her feelings. we don't see each other often, so she gets lonely. How should i feel

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  • by Anonymous on February 25th, 2008

    Anonymous

    Like you're about to lose your girlfriend.

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  • by Brand Y on February 25th, 2008

    Brand Y

    That bit about "not acting on the feelings" is critical. You can't really expect your girlfriend to not find other guys attractive, that's like asking her to turn off millions of years of evolution.

    But you CAN expect her to restrain herself from acting on those feelings. That's all that any of us can really expect from our partners. So she's doing the right thing.

    However, it probably would have been wise for her to keep those feelings to herself -- if she volunteered them, I would advise her not to do that again. If you "pried them out of her" with pointed questions, I would suggest you stop doing that sort of thing. Be content with the fact that she's being faithful, don't expect sainthood.

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  • by Account Closed on May 26th, 2009

    Account Closed

    I can not tell you how to react I can only tell you how I would handle the situation.

    As sad as I know I would be I would break it off and encourage her to not hold back her feelings. She made it evident that she is. And she will always hold this against me when things get a bit bumpy.

    Love is suppose to be a bond that no other can touch. both equally as much with no doubt. I do not need a woman who has doubt because that only means to me that it is just a matter of time before it does crash and I would much rather it crash now then after months even years into a relationship.

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  • by Jane on February 25th, 2008

    Jane

    angry, jealous, scared

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  • by brian646 on August 16th, 2009

    brian646

    i have had some long distance relationship's as an adult....don't really know your whole story and all, but long distance relationship's are really tough stuff.....i wish you luck, tho.......Brian.....

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  • by Imnottellingyou on May 28th, 2009

    Imnottellingyou

    trust ur girlfriend, take it from me I am in a long distance relationship, Im a girl... and i get lonely lots when my man is gone... I find this one guy at my work really attractive and cute and even had a crush on him before me and my boyfriend started dating, he always flirts with me when he is working (he is a contracting and only comes when called in) but I would never ever do anything with him cause I love my boyfriend, infact I was told he def likes me from another worker and he wants to take me out and I flat out said no... TRUST thats important

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  • by Simply Salsa... on May 26th, 2009

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    id be worried... :|

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  • by angel1 on May 26th, 2009

    angel1

    Ok I am just going to say it how it needs to be said. No sugar coating! When ANYONE is in a relationship that they feel is going to work out as in marriage is the goal they don't start looking elsewhere for attention. My girlfriend and I don't see each other ALL the time and there are times that we go a while without seeing each other BUT neither of us look for other people to bond with or spend time with another person when we are lonely. We call each other when we are lonely, we text, For her to say she has feelings for another man and he has feelings for her there is something going on! This isn't something that happened overnight! I would dump her and find someone that is loyal and will NOT cross those boundries! I'm sorry this has happened but she WILL act on her feelings... it may not be soon but she will eventually if she continues to talk to this guy...

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  • by unknown on May 26th, 2009

    unknown

    Start looking for a New Hotter girlfriend!

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  • by salim1 on January 12th, 2009

    salim1

    kick here out of your life !and start searching for another

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  • by Marco_Samson on September 15th, 2008

    Marco_Samson

    She probably slept with most of the guys she told you about. I had a gf do that to me, I found out she was cheating on me with every guy on campus.

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  • by Runs with scissors on October 4th, 2009

    Runs with scissors

    Let her be free to explore.If you two were meant to be,it will land that way.I think the tighter you hang on to someone,the more they want to be free,you sound young.Meaning theres a lot of relationships and things to learn from each one.

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  • by DEE DEE on November 5th, 2009

    DEE DEE

    how should you feel! what do you mean! is it love there, REAL love there, if so what done in the dark will come to the light!

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  • by A on August 22nd, 2009

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    It's hard to say since I don't know your girlfriend. It sounds to me like she is being honest with you, though. Whatever you do, don't rip on this other guy just because she has feelings for him.

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