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by James Larrick on June 10th, 2004

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I find it difficult to meet girls who have my interests (video games, books/comics, anime... stuff some people consider 'geeky'.) Where can I meet a girl with those interests?

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  • by andreinla on December 1st, 2004

    andreinla

    Imagine reading this question asked by a girl. What advise will you give her?

    ---- "I find it difficult to meet guys who have my interests (shopping, fashion, chick flicks, gossip, baby showers... stuff some people consider "girly") Where can I meet a guy with those interests? " ----

    You may find a girl who likes anime. Or a girl who is into comics. Do not expect to meet a female copy of yourself though. Interests are not the most important thing.

    Much more important is the polarity you have and the attraction you will feel for each other. Find a girl you like, not one who has exactly the same interests.

    And, by the way, you don't have to spend all your free time with your beloved. Be a geek with your geek buddies, be a charming smart guy with your girl.

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  • by Grandma Roses - my avatar is my real dog on October 12th, 2005

    Grandma Roses - my avatar is my real dog

    The other answers are good , but here is another idea. Try taking a night school class in one of your interests; the variety of these classes at community colleges is mind-boggling . All the girls in the class will already share your interest and some of them will be 'single'. Just strike up a conversation with them and see what develops.

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  • by smartperson001 on November 13th, 2006

    smartperson001

    one answer you like anime so try to meet one at an anime convention.

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  • by PunkiiMunkii on August 4th, 2006

    PunkiiMunkii

    Ok...I have a simple answer...I'm gonna answer a guestion with a question..
    How old are you?
    If your over 14 ..
    NOWONDER NO ONE WANTS YOU!
    Guys over 14 SHOULD NOT play video games and love anime..!
    sorry if its harsh but its true..

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  • by Great Teacher Largo on October 27th, 2005

    Great Teacher Largo

    Not to suggest anything, but to tell the truth, there are a lot of girls who love these stuff just as much as you do! I mean me and my best friend are obsessed with anime!! Just search.

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  • by Too Much Time On My Hands on October 3rd, 2004

    Too Much Time On My Hands

    MP1116's advice is excellent and probably all you need, but I thought of a few other things, for what it's worth:

    -- You could meet people in the stores where people buy all that stuff, although it's not something you would set out to do intentionally. That could work if you're an outgoing sort of person, but I know it's not for everybody.

    -- If you're a student (high school or college, but especially college), there might be some clubs or organizations where people will share your interests. There was an anime society at my university, and I believe it sparked romance between some members. Also, some colleges participate in an online facebook (thefacebook.com) where you can list your interests and search for people who share them. But MP1116's links may be more useful to you than that.

    -- Another random thought: are you exclusively interested in finding a girl who shares your interests, or are you just worried that a girl who doesn't will look down on them (a thought that came from your choice of the word "geeky")? It is possible to have a fantastic relationship with someone who has different interests, especially if you make the effort to learn about each other's favorite things. My boyfriend taught me everything I know about classical music, but I like it now. And he originally laughed at my tendency to relate everything to children's literature. But I got him hooked on Harry Potter, and now he reads books he's heard me talking about and admits that he likes them even if he'd never have opened them otherwise. People try all kinds of new things when they're in love!

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  • by Andy Is Wicked Married to Penal Colony on June 10th, 2004

    Andy Is Wicked Married to Penal Colony

    In reference to online personals, an excellent bit of advice from MP1116 (who, by the way, is very accurate/reliable in his other answers in "Dating") in another answer from this section:

    Probably one of the easiest and most fastest growing places to meet people is online. Not in any regular chatroom, but through online friend/dating services. These services have boomed in the last several years, and thousands of successful relationships have boomed from them. Many of these services allow to fill out an in-depth information form that provides lots of information as to what kind of person you are. Lots of these services are even narrow enough to allow you to locate people who live no more than 5 miles from you or your zip code. If you embark on one of these sites, I suggest putting up a very good photo. Its unfortunate but about 90% of the people on these sites wouldn't give you a second thought if you didn't have a photo, especially one that isn't clear and shows a good shot of your face. Try these sites that I'm gonna list:

    http://www.match.com - the best one out there. New people pop up on it every day.

    http://www.lavalife.com - one of the first popular matching sites. Its not as popular as it once was.

    http://www.cupidjunction.com - an ok site, but very innacurate in terms of location matching

    http://www.yahoo.com - their Personals section is among one of the most popular

    http://www.love.com - an AOL/AIM service that allows you to log-in through your AOL or AIM screen name. A somewhat decent site.

    http://www.americansingles.com - one of the most popular ones out there

    Now to the other part of your question. Try meeting girls at shops that sell video games, comic books, etc. For example, if you see a girl checking out the anime section, strike up a conversation with her on the topic. Same goes for the video games. Lots of females like these things. . .you'd probably be surprised by how many. I know it's not easy for everybody to approach the opposite sex, but when there's a will, there's a way. If you get snubbed. . .keep trying. You'll find one eventually. Good luck! Hope this helps. :)

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  • by A on May 28th, 2008

    A

    That reminds me of this girl I know personally. She tends to avoid dating people, though.

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  • by aihime on May 5th, 2006

    aihime

    Well, first off, I happen to be a girl who is an otaku, I'm addicted to RPG's, and I like to read books, comics, and mangas. Not one of those is truly thought of as geeky, for i am one of the most popular girls at my school. You can pretty much find girls like me at any type of place.The GameStop in the mall, Dylans Candy Store, Borders Bookstore, Starbucks, And the Hyatt(If you even know what that is). What happens to me most of the time is I'm looking for a certain book or RPG at the store, and i might be thinking out loud, so this guy would come up to me and ask me if i was looking for what he had in his hand. Its really nice that they come up to me like that, trying to help me. You should try it!!! I met my boyfriend in a stupid way though. I was drawing and he handed me some paper and we started talking. Either way, if you use your insticts, your manly insticts, you should easily be able to think like she thinks when you find that gir with the same intrests as you, and you'll hit it off in a second!!!

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  • by Great White-GWsFBA on November 9th, 2005

    Great White-GWsFBA

    You know for me, I think looking for something that are important (Really Important) to your life in some else is the most important part. Sometimes those really important things for one does not match what you like or are (I know it sounds strange but it is true) and sometimes those really important things does match what you like or are.

    For me it is: her appearance (not thin, thick curves and perfer Black and Hispanics-yet I am thin and White, etc), political believes (must be non-Republican/Right Wing, etc), Vegan and Animal Rights person (is a huge plus, because I am a Vegan and Animal Rights person)....

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  • by whatis on September 27th, 2006

    whatis

    Lolz...I LOOOVE Video games (DDr Roxx) and Anime!! ^^
    -------->....a bet chu will find the girl soon!

    Hang out at a nearby Arcade!!!
    & U will find lotza cool guys and kute gurlz too! (or at least in my arcade--> ^O^) And you can INTERACT!!! ^^
    ANd ur not a GEEkkkkkkk urr coolzz!!

    good luck!) *^o^*

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  • by Miss. Tandra on October 31st, 2006

    Miss. Tandra

    EHARMONY.COM!! lol jk but yet it could work....

    well n/e way if u really want to look for a girl like that go into those type of stores aned see what girls are looking at that stuff and try to talk to them. OR even casually bring iat up in a conversation and if any girl has any idea what ur talking about shes worth a shot. but hey have u ever considered jsut trying to look for other things in girls and not that? like hey try goin shopping with them or if they like the nature hang out in the nature with them,. u may find a new hobby that nu never knew that u liked!!

    But if thats whast u really want just wait and that right girl will eventually come along

    and find u <3


    (((HOPE DIS HELPED)))

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  • by Defective_Brain on January 20th, 2011

    Defective_Brain

    E3
    comic-con's
    cosplay groups
    W.o.W

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  • by tony b on March 30th, 2009

    tony b

    The library at the tech section. Tell her you have your own computer...

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