I don't think anything is wrong. I think a lot of women get jelous after the fact.Maybe what is turning you on is the fantasy of you being with a woman and not necessarily including your husband?If that is the case maybe you can work it to where your husband watches and does not participate.

you are perfectly fine its jsut a fnatasy. i can only get off when mastubating to having anal sex with a girl, but i could never have anal sex with my girlfriend.

There is absolutly nothing wrong with you. There are a few reasons when you could be feeling mixed up about this. You could just not be ready to live out your fantasy yet. You may never be ready, and that is fine. If it makes you feel good just to think about it, super! You get jealous when you think "actually" think about it because you are weighing the pros and cons of the idea, and the idea includes another woman having sex with your husband. Last time I checked, it was perfectly natural for that to make you jealous. Best of luck! Try it, or don't, but never think that what you fantasize about is wrong or not healthy. Everyone has fantasies.

Nothing wrong with you but it is a sign that you are not emotionally ready for it. I had this experience before with a few GF's. The key to having a threesome is putting aside your feelings and realize it's just sex. This is the emotional conundrum or confusion. Feelings and sexual attraction are different. Love and sex is different. Making love and having sex is different. The question is do you want to see your husband with another woman having sex or do you want to have sex with another woman? Which is the stronger desire? This is a very complex subject and needs to be talked about with hubby. Maybe he doesn't want to do it. I always suggest that a woman experience another woman before she does the threesome. It will eliminate awkward moments and uncertainty, a little experience goes a long way. Then again some things are better left a fantasy but it can be added to your love making. Especially during slow intercourse if you talk about your fantasy as though it were a commentary of a porn movie. Like a blow by blow description so to speak. I have done that and it really did ramp up the physical feeling and we had mutual orgasms because it also brought the mental aspect closer together and that made the timing of our orgasm closer. We both exploded at the same time. One suggestion is to have the first time with a woman who really only wants you and is not interested in him. So it would almost be like having two men in a way, almost like having a MMF with purely heterosexual men. Which leads me to another question, do you want to perform on her or do you just want her on you and you with hubby? Do you want to experience performing sex on another woman? You can start by doing a show for your hubby, girl on girl then have sex or make love with him. Sex is only constrained by ones imagination or lack of. If you can think it, you can do it. But you have to be ready, like training for a sporting event. You must be mentally and emotionally ready. Start slow and build up to it. Don't jump into something like that, it could damage your relationship. Something to think about, maybe hubby doesn't want to share you with anybody period. A lot of men are afraid that if their women experiences this he will loose her to another woman, it happens.

Hey there, I have the same fantasy.. A little while ago it started really bothering me so i told my boyfriend about it, which made me feel a lot better- got it all off my chest. My boyfriend is great, we've been together three 1/2 years now and we're lucky to be able to talk about everything openly. Anyway, i then watched this progtam on TV about poeple's sexual fantasies and it might interest you to know (as it did me..) that people often have fantasies that really upset them- for example we might think about our partners with other woman and in the confines of our own personal imagination or during sex this might really turn us on, but as soon as we've had an orgasm.. or when we start to really 'think' about it, then it actually becomes a source of real upset/anger. On this program they explained that when people are hurt or threatened by something they will often sub-consciously construct fantasies about these things in order to 'turn them into something bearable/positive.' This makes sense if you think about it.. because most woman who have this fantasy are actually quite jelous/ have experienced men cheating on them before etc.. the last thing they genuinely want is to see their partner having amazing sex with another woman. But they have somehow managed to turn this fear/experience into a good thing by sexualising it. I hope i've explained this well enough, because it's something that i think is soo important for people to know!! It will help explain a lot of feelings and emotions. Personally i believe what you are experiencing is nothing to do with 'wanting' or 'not wanting' a threesome, its FAR more complex that that. When people are faced with situations or fears they will often sexualise them in order to deal with them. In the TV program there was one woman who hated herself because she fantasised about an old man 'coming on to her' when she was a child, but the fansasy seriously upset and disturbed her. She hated it but couldn't help being aroused by it. It turns out that when she was younger she had actually experienced this situation and in order to stop herslef feeling 'fear' and 'hurt', her mind 'took control of the situation' and it became a sexualised, complex 'fantasy' whereby the experience 'turned her on' and no longer threatened her. However because this is such an 'animal instinct' it doesnt take into account our human morals.. we end up feeling 'weird' or 'abnormal', sometimes upset or angry because we don't know why we appear to 'love' the things we 'hate'. What you have written makes absolutely perfect sense! You say you feel jealous when you really think about it so you have (without realising it) taken control of that fear and sexualised it, it has become source of sexual pleasure- although it somewhat unsettles you. I have this exact same problem. I have told my boyfriend about it and we talk about it in bed, it turns us both on.. but for all our sakes, this is one kind of fantasy that would be VERY different in real life!! Don't let people tell you that you want a threesome (sometimes i think i do..) because that's NOT what we want!! it's the exact opposite!! That's why we have created this fantasy in the first place, to help us cope with our fears and jelously of it!! Have you ever seen you parents cheat on each other? Have you been hurt in the past? Have you got issues anywhere along those lines? Because sometimes we don't realise it, but theres always an reason...hidden..deep down there somewhere.. Good luck and don't feel upset by it anymore, you are obviously a fighter and a strong, sensitive person, or else you would never have created this fantasy int he first place. x p.s. i dont think threesomes are bad.. i just think they need to be carefully considered before hand

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DO IT WITH A DWARF AND or A CLOWN.....It makes a big difference. You do not feel threatened due to the make up and/or size. It normalizes the relationship, and also usually takes up less bed space. My GF prefers a male dwarf/clown...so that is it for the time being...in time I hope to at least introduce a transexual or haemaphrodite, as a sort of half way house....

Hiya! There is nothing wrong with the emotions you are feeling. It is a difficult thing to fathom, however, just explain to your husband that this a fantasy of yours and be open and honest with that you would expect from the experience. Let him know where your boundaries are and really think about it before you decide to go through with it. My husband and I have been active swingers for several years and it has added quite a bit to our relationship but we communicate to eachother what is expected. Hope this helps! Dawn http://www.swingtowns.com