Most likely her feelings are a "conditioned response" to something that happened -- perhaps she was raped, or threatened, by a male when she was very young. I don't know... but I know how conditioning works. Think of any habit you have, like reaching for a light switch when you leave the bedroom. If the electrician moves the light switch, you will continue to reach for it for some period of time, right? Because you're conditioned by past experiences. But in time, that conditioning fades when it's not reinforced, the habit gets broken gradually. Each time you reach for the switch and it's not there, the habit gets weaker. The same thing applies to her reaction: it's irrational to believe that ever boy will rape her, and over time that "mental habit" will break quite naturally unless it's reinforced. Being raped would reinforce it. Another thing that would reinforce it is if she was getting a psychological "payoff" for reacting that way -- i.e. if she enjoyed the sympathy or attention that it brought when she said this to others perhaps. The best thing she can do is to recognize this as a conditioned response, and work on being aware of it when it comes up, and not let it dictate her behavior toward men. All she has to do is see the thought and say to herself "ok, there it is again. It's a habitual thought, it's not reality". Over time, the natural "wiring" of the mind will take care of cleaning out the useless and debilitating habit.