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my bff jana says it might be bad on the first date...but sucking him on the second date is borderline ok, esp since he really likes my personality…he’s a really nice guy i think he’s seeing me because he wants to get to know me. i know itd be ok to suck him if i was seeing him just to have fun (obviously!), but would it also be ok since i’m looking for a relationship? i think it sounds like it would be ok unless he just wanted to hook up (and he doesn’t)…any1 else have an opinion?

It's fine...do what you like! Guys aren't going to think you're "easy" because of a blowjob!

Hammer down - Make sure he leaves your 'tip' on the nightstand.... You are one classy 'lady'.

You can make that decision for your self, but in my case I wouldn't. I would take a wait and see attitude.

Since you were after a long term relationship, I think you did a good thing by waiting until after the first date to have oral sex cause it gives him a chance to get to know you. A blowjob on the first date isn’t necessarily bad, it’s just that most people haven’t built a connection after a twenty minute coffee date. So I think waiting a little bit was a better idea. I'm sure you know that a lot of girls would have already had oral sex with him on the first date, and it’s NOT something that makes a girl look easy. I’d say as many as HALF the girls I’ve ever dated ended up having oral sex with me by the SECOND date. So I think the CONNECTION is what really matters to whether or not the relationship moves on to a higher level. If you’re in a club and a girl you barely know starts giving you head, it feels great, but there’s no connection and it won't go anywhere. If a girl just wants to have some fun, then great. But girls should realize that if he doesn’t even know your name, there’s not too much reason for him to call you back. Anyway, that's fine for most girls since they're not looking for a relationship anyway. Personally, I'm almost 33 and my girlfriend and I have been together for the past three months. We met in a club and we ended up having sex the same night. But I called her after that and we're together right now because we really had a connection that first night. So, since you wanted a long term relationship, you did great by building an emotional connection. I’m glad thing are working out for you.

i think you did the right thing by waiting.to me oral sex is way more personal than what most consider it.so if a girl gave oral sex on the first date it would leave me thinking how many guys has she sucked off?to put someone elses genitals in your mouth to me is a big deal there should be love there b4 that happens.