ANSWERS: 38
  • You don't question yourself, you question the action of the person who pretended to be your friend.
  • People are fickle. Popularity comes and go with public opinion. It also could be related to the fact that guys often just want to use women for the obvious and then bolt, preferably without paying.
  • Maybe they are sexually attracted to you.
  • Commonly known as users, if you have nothing to offer to these so called instant friends then they have no use for you. Not worth the effort even knowing or thinking of these individuals.
  • Don't question yourself. It has nothing to do with you. The fact that you pose this question shows you care enough for others to be your friend----the fact that they stop being your friends show that they are either insensitive and uncaring, or irresponsible, or both! And because you show me you care means you are deserving of better people in your life. In other words, you're worth it.
  • Who would stop being friends with you?! That doesn't make any sense at all. People are just idiots. They'd have to be. So don't start questioning yourself, you might even get more confused than me :)
  • it's not your fault...they're just fake.
  • Some people are only out to use you and get something from you, and when they've gotten what they want...they jet. Speaking of which, we really need to go do something.
  • That is what is happening to me right now! I'm just going to try to distance myself away from her because it's just plain rude to be like that because I respect myself to be treated like crap. Good luck!
  • Sometimes people just have a lot to deal with in their own life and lose track of the people they once cared very much about. Things keep them away from their friends for extended periods of time and they begin to feel out of touch and don't know how to get back on track with the friendship. Sometimes people just change and grow apart. Sometimes they have issues within the friendship that they feel uncomfortable to talk about and slowly drift apart rather than facing and resolving the issues. It's sad to lose friends, but sometimes it just happens and all one can do is accept it and move on to new friendships (((hugs)))
  • People change, and people have to make decisions about their own lives. Sometimes someone feels like they have to let go of someone to make room for someone new, and sometimes people just grow apart. The ending of a friendship could happen for a million different reasons, but you have to keep the faith that the good ones will stick by you no matter what... don't push them away.
  • Drastic, I don't think it's you. I think it's them. If you wanna know more details, ask me on AIM. Okay? :P
  • Because those you are mentioning are acquaintances, which I suppose you know means it is people you do not know too well nor for a long time and see them on occasions. Friends are like cousins, they are close and generally know many things about you therefore you trust them very much even with your life if necessary. I think you are confusing things a bit. Make sure you know who your "true friends" are before you start calling them your "friends". Regards.
  • Your question dictates the mystery of my life. I am looking forward to reading the answers! ++
  • Don't question yourself. "Friends" who are like that are reliving middle school. Don't worry about it
  • Mostly people that do that are triying to use you for something or to see what they can get from you.
  • girls are fake guys are jerks people change life goes on if they dont stay in your life they werent meant to. Everything happens for a reason
  • I don't know...I think it has more to do with moving on and life changes than it does something personal against you. Don't get down on yourself, I think you're a great guy! :) (for what it's worth)
  • I'm trying to figure that one out myself as far as one particular ABer goes.
  • Because they SUCK! Do you have reason to question your self?
  • "They are pretending", to be your friend. Some people get busy in their life or are having a hard time, I have bad days, where I dont feel like talking, that is okay, we all do. But most, only talk to you when they want someone to hear them or to pump their ego, for their own selfish benefit, after they are done, getting their usefulness out of you, they move on to the next victim.
  • Friends stay friends as long as they have common likes and dislikes or stayed friends long enough to develop a special bond. Think of the many friends you stopped seeing because you didn't have anything in common. It was uncomfortable but it happens. Friends, unfortunately, can be easily replaced as simple as a passing weekend. Since there are no official break up rules for friends, it requires no calls or just evading each other can turn into the simple protocal if that's case. Sometimes it's better that way - so the best way to recover is finding new friends.
  • They want that "quick fix" if you will to calm their loneliness and void. Once they get what they want from you, they move on to the next person who will agree to be friends thinking they wll be friends forever, and after a day or two, the other person,(the screwer) moves one and screws other people. The screwer in this situation continues on in a vicious cycle of hurting people, one person at a time, untill some one comes in the vicious cycle and catches on to the screwer and puts a hault to him. Sometimes, it really takes some time to stop the screwer in action, but when that person is finally called out, they are most likely going to stop their cycle of hurting people, and stop. Sometimes, it takes something major for something to happen in order for someone to make sense of the situation, for a revelation, perhaps is the best way to illistrate my point. But people learn one way or another. It is normal to stat questioning your self as a person, asking things like, what did i do to make that person not want to be friends with me anymore? What us unlikable about me? Do i give off a bad vice to this person? Am i annoying? I mean these are sample questions to what one would ask themselves in a situation such as this one. But 9 times out of ten, it's always the other person that is the real problem, b/c they have insecurites about themselves that make them act out in a way that would hurt some one else, whether this is intended or not from, that person. I think it all starts with how that person was treated, and what kind of childhood they had, and life expereince they had that make up for this behavior. The way a person acts, and is composed, in this situtaion is reflective of how he/she has been treated by others growing up, or in general. People that have thoae insecurities don't realize that it affects others around them, and givent he possibility of a bad child hood, it would be fair to say that, the person has possibily always had difficuly with human relationships. It be where, the attitude they emit is well i have been screwed over and over in my lfe, so to make uo for it, i am going to screw other people over to make myself feel better and more equated with the treatment i got in my life. That's wrong, obviously. So it;s THESE people that need to be set in the right path and be counseled in, essentially, becomeoing better people to themselves, and to others. Is seems to be that this "poser friend" hasn't been shown respect, and therfore, she/he doesn't know how to apply that in her life with other people that she/he tries to be friends with. I really think that this person needs time to figure stuff out in her/his life on order to become a better friend, really, an "actual" friend to anyone to make it work out. This person needs to work from the root of her issues and actually work through them and stop running away from them. Sure we have all had struggles in our lives, but we need to work through them and be willing to change for the better, to live better, to lead a more fullfiling life. She/he needs someone to talk to, it sounds like she/he is lonlely, no support system, no on in her corner when she/he really needs it. Everyone needs someone to talk to. I would say that if you chose to be her friend, or if you come across anyone like that, be cautious in trying to help them, b.c they think they have it all figured out, when really they need so much help and guidance, and they may get defensive,so just watch out for that. However, if they are receptive to advice, then kindly and calmly give them sound advice and don't pass judgement. Let them know that you are there to help, and that you will listen to what they have to say, and won't judge. Again, this is only if you choose to. Hope this helps, good luck!!
  • Well... You say- they stop being friends with you. But maybe they are feeling the same way. And you have stopped being friends with them. Maybe you just havnt spoke for a while. Or maybe they were using you. But people change.
  • You should always take a look at yourself AND the other person when it comes to any kind of relationship. It could just be them, but if it is a continuous pattern, I think now more than ever you should reexamine your life. Take a look to see how much you have grown or not grown. Maybe your ideas and the things you share are no longer compatible. Don't obsess over it, thought. Reflect and then learn from it.
  • Nope... It's probably not you. Sometimes friends believe they've found something about you that they don't like for some reason, though you've never changed in any way. It could be nothing more than another friend you converse with. If that friend doesn't like (for whatever reason) one of THEIR friends, they feel that since you are associated with that one, then you can no longer be friends with them. Even were you to explain the situation, some people will not accept that you can have friends or acquaintances who don't like each other. (BTDT) That said, if you said or did something, and it could be almost ANYTHING, even if they laughed at it, or even if you never said or did it to them. It could also be NOTHING you said or did. Maybe they've become friends with someone that doesn't like you. Either way, it's questionable whether they were really a friend in the first place, isn't it. DO NOT put the blame on yourself for that. Friends can discuss and talk about almost anything. It's those who are only friends when they can get something from you who can't.
  • i had a best firend only a couple weeks ago we got into a fight or something and i don't remember hwta it was but all fo a sudden she wouldn't hang out with me.
  • You know I am not sure why that happens, but it does alot! Maybe its jealously. The best thing to do is just don't worry about and don't show that it bothers you. They will come around.
  • Personally I think it is a clash of dreams, they don’t really want to tell you That their new dream doesn’t include you, ‘way too hurtful’ and they won’t give a reason anyway just in case they change their mind or you win the lotto A bit cruel I know but that’s life :)
  • When someone out of the blue stops being a friend and you really have no idea wheat is happening, the answer is usually one of 2 things. Misunderstanding or fear. I know someone who did just that to me, and no matter what happens in the future, I will always be there for her and support her...even when she doesn't know about it. We haven't said boo to each other in 9 months. I think in this case it was both misunderstanding and fear. I was looking for a long-term relationship, thought I found someone (big mistake) at that point she stopped talking to me. I don't think she understands the "love of a friend". She wants me to stay away, so that is what I do. If and when she is ready to talk, she will have to be the one to start the conversation. I don't want her hurt. I would love a long-term relationship with her, but there major differences between us. I can't say it would work, but one can only try. I will, but only if she wants. That may or something similar may be what is happening with you. The problem you face may also be one of the biggest problems hitting the nation in the world of relationships. Fear of commitment.
  • they are called fair weather friends! stay away from them and avoid being one.
  • I think it is a natural part of life that friends come and go. Do not take it personally. I have let friends go in the past who were too bossy or overbearing. I have been let go because I whined too much about boyfriends etc. But everyone loses friends now and then it is natural and no big deal. It gives you time for yourself and new friends.
  • People are strange, what you have to realized is that people come and go. Friends are very rare.
  • Sometimes I believe the other person feels you might be a threat. I also know some people who are only a friend if you don't ever disagree with them. If you have a mind of your own some people feel threatened. All of this happened to me a year ago, we haven't spoken since.
  • Well there are many underlying reasons why people make friends, for popularity, because they need a favour from you etc. But the main reason that propels the termination of friendship is the fact that both parties do not make an effort to keep the friendship alive. Every relationship needs its dose of effort, and it is indeed an arduous task to keep it kicking and alive. Ask yourself if the relationship means anything to you. If it does, it is time to put in some effort and revive it.
  • its true some people do and it might be because they have a boyfreind or a girlfreind and they are trying to make ago of it ask them
  • Never question yourself if you know that you are a good person and did nothing wrong. It happened to me, and only afterwards did I realise that they were just using me for a while to get somewhere else.
  • to be brutal honest they never considered you a friend in the first place and just held on too you because you were the first one they could reach

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