I really need help/truth! My boyfriend of 3 years broke to me on Valentines Night that I was bad in bed, and kinda got cross because of how little I do... I am soooo hurt :( Can you help me, please?
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Miss Cookie Monster
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Perhaps I can give you a second opinion.
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firstly i think he could hae gone about telling you in a better way, and different day!! but, the fact he told you how he feels (about anything) is great, and most unusual for a guy.. so dont feel too blue :) Communication is the key, so, maybe next time your in bed together you ask him how he wants you.. ask him what makes him feel the best etc.. he will love this!!! i hope you find a way to make you both happy :)
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Thanks for your help. i really i'm at a loss as to what to do
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I take it that you wish to stay with him and work to "tmprove" your performance (in HIS eyes) Have you had experience with other men? If you are determined to adjust your technigues to his liking, then you must have a heart to heart with him.You should also ask your friends what goes on their bedrooms/ There's a terrific manual called, "the Joy of Sex," which will give you many insights--and, probably after you read it you'll know more than sonny boy. If you are willing to go to all this trouble sonny boy ought to see someone about improving his diplomatic skills.
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I'm so sorry pretzel sticks! I question whether he deserves you after the way he so callously hurt your feelings. After three years, he could have at least had better timing! Besides, he's obviously not such a good teacher :) Assuming he's worth the trouble, read men's magazine's (i.e. Penthouse forum) which are chock full of things he'll like, and maybe a few he doesn't even know about yet! If you are willing, you can also watch adult films together to open a dialogue about what he'd like you to try. Good luck and chin up!
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Here's how to really excite this jerk. Tell him that you want to tie him up and make love to him in all kinds of surprising and new ways. Once you have him tied up or cuffed, say goodbye to him and leave him there.
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I never had this problem cause I made my man marry me to find out that I am like a dead fish in bed. How could he tell you this and spoil what should be a day of love and special feelings? I think he wants to make you feel bad cause he cheated or is being tempted to cheat. Shame on him for putting all the blame on you. Maybe if he was a nicer person he would have got you a book or dvd on how to spice up your sex life together. He sounds selfish.
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If he is such an expert in lovemaking, why isn't he teaching you instead of complaining? Kick his butt out and go find someone who will treat you like a lover and not like a rude neighbor.
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Well sometimes people are looking for a way out of a realationship,it may not be at all. Maybe the person was looking to move on.
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Wow. I'm so sorry. Someone should explain "timing" to your boyfriend and then to add insult to injury he waited until the day that is meant to appreciate one another to break the "bad" news? I'm sorry my friend, but maybe its time for you to look for someone who appreciates you and isn't so selfish. Also, I would ask this "gentleman" to explain to you why he hasn't done anything to improve upon the situation himself. Surely in his ability to point out your short comings he would be able to offer some insight into his superior lovemaking abilities. I think the problem says more about what he's "not" doing that what you're doing. How can you know that something isn't right unless he tells you? What a PUTZ!!
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