I told my boyfriend not to send me flowers today because they are too much money....I really am hoping that he's going to send flowers. Do you ever say you don't want something hoping you'll actually get it?
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Ahh yes....it is a classic female tactic. I have done it myself a time or two. Here is the problem, most guys don't understand - so don't be insulted or upset if he did not get your incredibly veiled and hidden, reverse meaning :o)
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No. I don't play those games.
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No. If I tell my wife not to do something, then she doesn't do it. I tried that with an iPod for Christmas and did not get an iPod.
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If I live to be a million years old I will never understand you wonderful women, He is in trouble if he does send them and in trouble if he doesn't, clever people you ladies, keeping us on our toes :o)
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No..if you say you don't want something while actually hoping you will get it, you are leaving yourself open to be disappointed. Even though you have no right to be. If you wanted flowers, you should not have said that you didn't. I hope you get them anyway, though. :-)
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No I've never done that, but I'm male.
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When I want something, I either tell someone who will get it for me, or get it for myself. If you don't get flowers, you have absolutely no right to make him feel one tiny bit bad or guilty for not doing so.
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I learned a long time ago that's the perfect way to never get what you want, LOL.
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No, good way to get your feelings hurt. You set yourself and your partner up for a fall.
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when it comes to presents for my wife i dont seem to listen to her. i know her better than i let her believe its more fun that way. i know when she says she doesn't want something and she really does i hope you do get your flowers you deserve them. GXX
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Thats what turns me off a girl- she says one thing, but does another. For anything else other than flowers, I call that a hidden agenda. Its not cool . Thats manipulating your partner to get what you want. My ex used to manipulate me into buying her gold earrings, watches, etc.. I thought I was being a good partner by buying the stuff she said was too expensive. Then I heard her talking to one of her friends, saying that "Oh I've got him around my little finger! I just tell him that it costs too much, & he goes & gets it for me! I can get anything I want from him like that!" I came into the room, and she went beet red. Flowers- yeah, I'll play along. Thats ok. Anything else- No way, I'm not here to play games. If she wants something, she'll tell me straight up what it is.
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Not a man alive that thinks that's "cute". Please dont do that. I know you dont intend it to be mean, but please dont do that.
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No, I don't do that anymore..i used to...then i realized that if i expected people to take the things I say seriously..I should be up front and honest at all times.
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Sometimes I do. I don't want the other person to do something expensive, but I know that deep inside it would make me so happy if they did.
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Men generally don't. I'm guessing.... Happy Valentines Day Sugar! I'm busy with a sick friend. Catch ya in a few days. *Kiss*
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Thats a good way to get some flowers where you don't want them... Like some prickly roses maybe. :-P
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No, if I want something I won't necessarily ask for it, but I certainly never tell someone NOT to get me something, thinking they'll get it anyway. That's confusing the other person!
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Why the hell do you do that?!?!? Its absolutly frustrating...especially for a guy who listens to his wife or girlfriend. How can he figure anything out if you are being so friggin elusive?...arg...
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Don't expect flowers and don't get upset when you do not get them
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With other dats and with my wife, when she tells me she does'nt want something like flowers it tells me she is tired of the same-ol and then i go out and get something completely different to surprise her.
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More in the past than now.
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No, I try at all times to say exactly what I mean.
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I use to do that, but I share a secrete with you, men are not that clever. You have to hit them in the head with a brick in order for them to get the clue.
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I like bricks!
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No, I say what I mean. If he is going to do something the chances of changing his mind is slim. What do you care about the money he spends anyway?
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Over the years, i have learned that just because a woman says "no", does not necessarily mean no. Sometimes "no" means "yes". It takes a clever person to interpret the difference.
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no. i have said oh i want that but its too much money,but never hoped for it after i said no.
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No, I learned that it makes me sad when I say I don't want something when I actually do- cause I don't get it. Guys want us to be honest. If we want flowers, we say "I want flowers". Otherwise he'll take you serious and be confused later.
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Can't say that I do. I always say what I mean People hate that sometimes, but normally it's ok
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question: what do you want for your birthday answer: nothing real answer: lots of things! yup i often say dont bother with planning on anything like resturants or flowers hint hint we want the guys to make the effort and saying the word 'flowers' we hope to put the idea in the head even if we say we dont want them
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