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by Anonymous on February 11th, 2008

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My boyfriend is going away to college. im so depressed. i dont know what im going to do. he is my life. hes so scared and i dont think he thinks we can do it. advice of cheer up words please?

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  • by King of Sexytown on February 11th, 2008

    King of Sexytown

    Awww!! You will be fine!! Just make sure you have at least one weekend a month to see each other (if you're not more than a few hours away from each other) and call or email or IM or whatever at least every other night, if not every night. You just gotta work at it : )

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  • by Aliciaxoxo on July 6th, 2010

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    I am in the same exact situation, i am trying to figure it out as well i am sad, and depressed, hurt and all that.. we're very happy together... i am pretty much replying on *WHERE THERE IS A WILL THERE IS A WAY* i am going to keep myself busy, and stay in touch with him through phone calls, webcam visit if i can i do not want him to go away!! it's really hard but i will do whatever i can to make it work! COMMUNICATION LINES SHOULD ALWAYS BE OPEN! me and my bf - - have never dealt with anything like this, we're young, mature and in love... so yes.. i understand..i feel the same way but i am getting over it.. we'll make it work!

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  • by - M.C.S. - Dave on February 11th, 2008

    - M.C.S. - Dave

    Wheres theres a will, theres a way. Good Luck my FRIEND.

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  • by BillyGEE on March 4th, 2008

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    WATCH JUDGE JUDY...

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  • by Ilyena on June 14th, 2009

    Ilyena

    If you guys really love each other and want it to work out, it will. No distance or hardships will break the two of you apart. Specially since you seem so depressed about it and know that he is a very special person in your life.
    But if the two of ya'll are doubting already even before you seperate, then chances are it's not going to work out. You two need to be strong for one another.
    Seriously though, talk to each other about future plans, or even how you two can manage to see each other. College is going to go by fast, believe me, so if you can endure it, your relationship will last.

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  • by Sunglisten2 on February 11th, 2008

    Sunglisten2

    Sure it can work :) It is depressing though thinking of not seeing each other esp. if you have seen each other everyday. But really, you will see him more often then you think.
    Get a webcam they are lots of Fun :)
    Meet every night online and talk before bed. Time will pass in no time.
    You will also find other hobbies and stuff to keep you occupied while he is gone.
    You will be amazed how much of your time he took away.
    Look on the bright side.
    Your house will be clean and laundry will be done..

    hehe..

    :)

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  • by PerfectlyPink on March 4th, 2008

    PerfectlyPink

    I believe it can work as long as both parties (the two of you) are on the same page about your relationship and what you are working towards with your future with this person as well as your goals in general.

    My SO is in the Military and away a lot of the time but we are building our future together which with his career means he's not always able to be there. We both know it's not forever and we know what are goals with one another are... it can be hard and loney and some times scarey but as long as both of you are mature enough to handle a long distance relationship, it can definitely work.

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  • by Cubaneyes on February 11th, 2008

    Cubaneyes

    You will each find someone new. Don't be blue. You are both very young, too young to tie yourselves down. this point in your lives is a milestone. Be glad you had each other but understand that you will be moving on.

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  • by allyxox7 on January 21st, 2011

    allyxox7

    My boyfriend goes to college next year and i have 2 years until ill will be going and hopefully he will only be 4 hours away but you never know. but any jerk who says find someone else is just stupid and doesnt understand how it feels. you have to be sure of yourself like im trying to be. If you know you two love eachother it will work out. Dont let anyone tell you otherwise.

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  • by allyxox7 on January 21st, 2011

    allyxox7

    Dont let anyone be a jerk and tell you to find someone else. they dont understand how it feels. you two will work out. im in the same situation but my boyfriend and i have been together a year and a half and i dont go to college for another two years. but all you can do is be sure of yourself. Stay positive and stay busy if he really loves you, you will stay together through anything

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  • by Daniel2121 on March 4th, 2008

    Daniel2121

    Ill make this short. My shy gf and I dated for 14 months before she moved for college. her mom hated me, made us work 20 times harder just to have a normal relationship while we were physically close, and followed her daughter to college. GF moved back to be with me, it has now been 4 years of the total time that we have been together. Now, she has decided she is too wrapped up into this to make good decisions for her life. So she is once again moving away. We broke up, but still act like bf and gf, and will try and make this work in the future, but despite all the obstacles, we made it 4 years and are still trying. Just make sure not to make him your life, that's not healthy, and it's ok to love someone. And hell, people will tell you that it won't work and to get on and move on with your life, and that you'll find someone else. I'm not going to feed you garbage about true love holding you guys together and that everything happens for a reason. The fact is that i very much doubt divine intervention is going to help you through this relationship, HOWEVER, love in the end is an action, if you guys love each other emotionally that's great, but you need to ask yourselves if you're willing to sacrifice for the other person even if you feel like you question your love sometimes (and yes that's normal!). Good luck to you. I agree with the above statement, where there is a will, there is a way, i spent probably 12 thousand dollars seeing my gf while she was away and while i was away studying in europe. I by no means am even well off, but where there is a will, there is a way, and i do think life is too short to give your heart out multiple times, and it's stupid to try and justify moving on with you'll find someone new, because even then, chances are you'll break up with that person, and follow that cycle until you find the person you feel you are going to marry (and chances are you would get a divorce). So if your relationship right now is not abusive, controlling, and you 2 are genuinely happy together, then try and make it work. If I'm juding your situation correctly, you 2 are very serious, just remember that it's ok to fight the hardest for someone you want to be with. To argue that you should just let go and not fight to be together undermines the concept of love. Sorry this is so long, but just make sure you don't foul up too much while you try and make it work.

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  • by Orbtwt55 on June 14th, 2009

    Orbtwt55

    I'm going to be a senior in highschool in the fall and my boyfriend of almost two years is headed for college in a couple months...14 hours away. I am in the same situation as you. I can't imagine what I'm going to do without him. He's the world to me. I cry at least once everyday now thinking about how soon he's leaving me. we agreed that we are going to try to stay together but obviously we both have doubts as to how realistic that really is.

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  • by Mangomat on February 11th, 2008

    Mangomat

    I know it can be done, cause this is my second year of doing it.. and now this year, my girlfriend is 4000 miles away instead of 400, so i cant see her for 3 months... if the Love is there, and communication lines stay open, it can work!

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