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It's not nice of her to lie to you by any means. But I can see wheres shes coming from. I'd let it go, unless its worth it to you to get in a fight with a friend. (Then be sneaky and find another way to get the email address)
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Wait a sec - you haven't had contact with this potential suitor for 14 years, yet you "know" that your friend is "lying" when she says this guy doesn't want to speak with you? What exactly are you basing this on, your greatly-enhanced-by-time feelings from 14 years ago? If she did lie, I agree that this is a bad thing. However, she is forcing you to make a decision. Which do you value more - the friend that you have had for (it sounds like) 15 years, or the potential to see someone who has probably changed greatly in that time? And who could be married, or gay, or in the clergy by now? :o) In short, tell your friend how this makes you feel. I would not suggest you accuse her of lying, but that you "want to understand her feelings in the matter" basically to be able to figure out if you are being fed a line. Good luck!
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let it go. It was 14 years ago and she just wants you all to herself and not share you with her....BROTHER!
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Thank you everybody for your answers. Look, he is married and with a kid, I know this. I just want to say hi. We were together for 4 years, yes ages ago, but there is no harm in wanting to get in touch again. I do not have proof that my friend is lying, but she tells me he asks how I am all the time, and our last conversation was ever so friendly and nice. My mistake was asking her for the email address, I shouldn't have involved her-have I learnt nothing from the past?! But I knew no other way of finding it out. If she lied, it sucks. If he really wants no communication, then this sucks too. I can't win :-(
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Let it and him, alone. If he wants to talk to you, he will get in touch with you.
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