Can be.

in a way it is

No feeling lonely is not a choice. However being lonely and being alone are two totally different things.

Yes, you can always find someone to share your time with if you try.

Choice for what? I don't think it is a big deal to be lonely. being with just one person is good. Being with alot of people is a headache. Don't feel lonely.

I think people feel a sense of being neglected or overlooked that is either real or blown out of proportion and this is what triggers the feeling of loneliness.

for most yes, for others, a way of life.

being alone yes feeling lonely no

I think feeling lonely and being miserable is an actual lifestyle choice for many people. They seem to need this feeling. People can and do fall in love with the idea of victimhood. It's not a great way to go about things. It will make a person bitter and prone to saying whatever they feel like saying. When taken to task on something like that they may claim to be misunderstood. I think loneliness happens to all thinking humans here and there throughout life but if it takes over. If it defines how you see yourself, then you've got some changes to make.

Yes & No. I didn't choose to be alone & I do get lonely sometimes but I just snap myself out of it by thinking of all the wonderful things I have in my life

Only if you let it be so. Me now, I live with my little bird and I don't feel lonely.

everything is a choice. If you feel lonely, it means you're not connecting to people for some reason. If you're connected to other people, you can be halfway around the globe with no one around (physically) and you'll never feel lonely. And the more people you can connect with, the further you get from lonliness. So if you find yourself feeling lonely then go make some friends. or not. your choice.

choosing to be alone is. feeling lonely???? after CHOOSING to be alone???? does not compute.

Being alone is a choice, but I've never been one to settle. I'd rather be with myself than with just anyone.

Sometimes It's a choice..There are some situations that you've going through that will surely makes you feel lonely or sad..and You can't help it.

Choosing an isolated life rather than one filled with company is always up to the subject in question. I for one have been single for 36 years (my whole life). It has been my choice because I have felt that I have nothing to offer to a potential mate. My friends (who are few) have shown concern and have expressed, in directness and frankness, that choosing the road to a lonely life is unhealthy. I, of course, have reinforced my position by implying that I would only do harm to a stranger if I were to bring that someone into my very poor and immature lifestyle. There are times when I suffer by this choice. Especially during the holidays when I see couples holding hands at shopping centers or when I am at the movies by myself. When I walk to my car after realizing my social isolation I imagine a beautiful woman (usually a porn actress) walking along side of me. As soon as I get inside my car I break down in the silence. It is only then that I say to myself, "God is with you. He knows your pain.". It helps a bit when I know that a greater being who might be responsible for my existence may know how much I suffer. But please know that this is just an example of the darkest side of the spectrum of a life of solitude. There are upsides to being lonely. There are no fights. The chances of contracting a STD are "zero". My wallet is always full. My freedom is gratifying. There are more reasons but I feel that I have overstayed my visit here. If anyone wishes to contact me I do have a myspace page (which is my business and it is mostly in Spanish but I do speak moderate English). My page is: myspace.com/notamala Please be aware that I am lonely by choice because I am a loser. If you think you're going to try to change me you will not. I can only offer dialog. Geru.

Being lonely isn't a choice for most people. Sometimes you don't really have a way out. I feel lonely because nearly all of my friends betrayed me and I can't be around them anymore. At the same time, though I would like friends, I can't help but think that the next one will be just like nearly every friend I ever had - a traitor who never really was my friend. So while I can talk to people and function as I need to, I don't have any friends by my definition of the word, because to have a friend means that I must let them in, and I can't do that. Essentially, I am completely trapped because I can't merely choose to trust, it doesn't work that way. It's not a choice, I didn't choose this.

Apparently everything is what we make it, but it sure doesn't feel like a choice to me. Of course, if the conclusions of one's choices aren't as expected or are not enjoyed, then it's time to revise and do something about it, or at least try. Ha ha look who's talking. XD Point is, as said by many already, we have choices in what our life will be, but nobody can do anything about how they'll feel about it, I guess you just have to work around that, and try to understand the reasons for feeling things.

No. Feeling lonely is like any other feeling: am emotion. Just like sadness, love, fear. You can't control what you feel. Being lonely may be a choice, but feeling lonely is far from it.

For some, it is. For me, not so much. Like pain is to a wound, the nagging loneliness is an indicator that something's missing. Something that no person should live without. And I'm not talking about falling in love, or being popular. It's an essential that I'm living without. And my loneliness won't die until I fix it. But I can't stand to try.

yes, but feeling alone isnt

Being lonely isn’t a choice, but feeling it is.