My sister Is all concerned because her 8 year old son feels that his friends have more things, as in TV's, Games etc. I never had a child that cared about any of that. I told her what I thought, any ideas?
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I guess it depends on whether she feels guilty that she can't offer him more, or feels he is acting spoiled? If the former, I'd suggest she spend more time with him doing affordable activities (sledding, library visits, movies, etc.). If the latter, then she should sit him down and explain that different families have different levels of spending. I have an 8 year old daughter and she understands that we have to pick and choose. She also understands that she can save her own money for non-essential frills.
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She shouldn't give in to what they want if they're trying to go about it selfishly. Seriously. If she says no, then her no should mean no. (Obviously there are exceptions). "But, mommy, all the kids at school's parents buy them this and that and the other thing" = unacceptable behaviour. She needs to stand by her word if she is not wrong.
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I guess if the child is unhappy, he should be made happy, but not in a way he is spoiled. she should try things like tidy up games, for rewards, and he can gradually be rewarded these things that he wants. he will soon learn gratefulness and get what he wants and you will be happy too! hope all works out.
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It's really nice of you to want to help your friend but it is a bit irrelevant how your child compares. It is wonderful that your child has not been so affected by that but what matters is that society is forcing materialism on children and that is a severe detriment.
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well u say to her, wud u want anyof those things if no one else had it? not everyone has a tv in their room or a the latest ps or x box, ive got a ps2 and a computer and a tv in my room but i didnt ask for them, realy the only thing i want is a computer. but honestly , dont buy her things for the sake of it. eg. my step brother who was 9 got a psp 2 christmases ago and never plays it wot joy can 9 yr olds get out of gammin sysytems when they cant even read or write 100% correctly untill they are about 13,and he only wanted a psp becuase his m8 has one and he goes round to his house and sit like veg playing on 18 games and being violent. you shuold tell ur sister tht he would never play on it and wheres the fun in ging over to his freinds house to play theirs if her son had gamming systems. hope it helps.
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It doesnt have to be that the child is being materialistic, it would happen exactly the same if you told the child to be home eirlier than his friends had to be home, its mainly a peer thing. no one not even yourself wants to be told they cant have something or has to be in at a particular time, especially not a child. children are still primarily run on there ID (ill defined personality, this is the part of us that wants what they want when they want and they would do anything to get it. however children have also adopted the EGO which balences out ID and SUPER EGO, but if the super hasnt formed yet then there is still a power strugle between the id and ego, so the child may still seem "bad" in a real sense. hope this helps, all it mean sis its natural, and feeding the desires will only slow down the rate at which the super ego will emerge, by all means placate the child with a few things he wants to make time go easier, but dont give in totally
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Tell her to take her son to go see a homeless shelter that caters to families.
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