If you want to get prizes at the lottery you must buy the ticket!

So call her already! If she gave you her number she must have been a little interested. If you wait too long she'll think you are too busy to see her very often and she will LOSE any interest she may have.

If you got her number then she is interested. Give her a call now!

There was a girl on here earlier in the week asking the other version of this question, she gave her number and was waiting for the call.....it may be you she was talking about..go for it, what have you got to lose :o)

Mandatory three days of playing it cool. Then call her and tell her you were cleaning out your wallet and came across her number. J/K...call her, already.

If she gave you her number........Call her! SOON!

Pretty simple...you don't ask, you don't get. What's the worst that can happen? She says no. Rejection ain't all that bad.

If you want to know what she thought of last night then call her when you feel ready and ask her. However, if you leave it too long she probably won't think you're interested because if if it was me i would definitely think that. When you do ring her just ask casually what she thought about last night and whether she wants to do it again. If she rejects you then i'm sorry but you seem like a really nice guy and at least you tried. There will be plenty more girls who would be willing to give you a try i'm sure of it.

just call her for Christ's sake! if she likes you she'll see you again. if not, not like you would marry her right?

She is probably checking her phone every 10mins just to see if have called. I reckon she thinks your pretty cool. Just give her a call. Don't wait too long!

Bro... She gave you her number, she must have enjoyed your company. Just call her and ask her out, it doesn't have to be like a date, just ask her out. It can progress from there, but for now, you can just call, ask her how she is doing and ask if she wants to go out to lunch or something.

dude ....... call her

Calling her is a major no brainer. Do it before someone else does.

Good for you! Some people gave me advice once to wait a day to call back just so you don't appear desperate. I don't see that answer in the top 10 so I am assuming others are ok with that. I think the better question is what you should suggest as a first date. IMO, I'd rather go somewhere quiet where we can talk, and don't bring her to a place with a lot of your friends for a first couple dates because she might feel intimidated with all of your friends and none of hers.

Call her as soon as you can dude!

Don't do the dick-head guy thing and forget about her for 2 weeks call her next weekend and invite to something you guys might enjoy together. She must like you 2 if you have the number.

You should REALLY call her today. if she gave you her number then she wants you to call. the longer you wait the less interested you'll seem to her.

Call her. she gave you her number ...she's going through the same thing

she gave u her number...obviously thats a sign call her, talk to her even ask her if she enjoyed hanging out with you ask her out on a date u just gotta stand up thats what us girls like

Whatever you do don't listen to anyone who actually believes that you should wait a couple days to call. Because if she did enjoy your company then she can't wait for you to call, and if she happened to not enjoy your company then it's best to find out now instead of wasting extra time still wondering if you're even going to call her. Think about it. It actually makes plenty of sense.

lol well she must have liked you to give you her number but don't move too quickly or you'll creep her out, start off as friends or she'll think you're only after one thing!

If she enjoyed you as much, I can't see where it would hurt to put anytime between your call, well besides the fact of "right away". Sometimes, it's healthy to put at least a day in between. It gives you that time to remember how great your time was and hers as well.

Give me the number, I'll call her for you.

Oh man, even though this situation doesn't require urgent replies anymore, I'm going to have to pipe up here, since most of the answers on the first page are amazingly black and white. Have you ever heard of a thing girls do, called "evaluating"? If you haven't, let me fill you in on it: when out with men, women are constantly on lookout for things men do and don't do, evaluating them to find out whether or not they fit the description of a dreamguy that's embedded somewhere deep in the girls' minds. If enough imaginary boxes on "the guy of my dreams"-list get ticked, you win the prize and get another date! Fairly simple, eh? So now that the basics are covered, I'm going to have to loudly disagree on some of the answers here. Do you know what is one of the worst mistakes a guy can make - after the initial encounter or in general - in relationships? Being too needy. Needy transfers to clingy, and it is definitely a huge box on the imaginary list of "how he should NOT behave" in the girls' minds. Now you get her number and call the following day - or even worse, the same evening? How do you think that will come across? You got it, needy. You want to come across as self-confident and the opposite of clingy, whatever that is, by waiting for a while after getting the number. What I do is wait for around 5-7 days. Someone always questions the long perioid of time and say that it only shows disinterest, but the thing is, think about it this way: Sadly, not every girl gives you their number because they are interested but because they don't have the guts to say that they aren't interested in your face. These girls will not answer your calls, or will figure out a thousand excuses not to go on the first date. It goes without being said, these are nothing to be worried over, just move on to the next one. The ones that actually are interested will expect your call within the next 3 days. The thing is, you won't call, and they'll wonder why you don't. And while they're wondering, they're actually thinking about you, which actively raises their interest in you! This is powerful stuff, I tell you. Now lastly, some of the girls might be too full of themselves or have an attitude, and respond in a hostile manner when you actually call after, let's say a full 7 days, but hey, would you want a feminist or an egomaniac in the first place? So on the side, it's a good way to filter the good ones. Just make sure that when you call, you'll be self-confident, and if she asks why you didn't call, you just say "I did", and when she asks "oh, when?", you reply "5 seconds ago." Neat, huh? So you got her number, now seal the deal by getting the first date - and remember! Keep the phonecalls short, no useless blabbery, just set up a time and a place and get the info you need. You'll do great.

for some reasons guys will say wait a week... don't! 2 days at the most... a girl loves to know she's wanted or interesting, go for it babe, and Good Luck

yea i call the ones i like the next day, they aren't gonna be mad as long as you don't seem needy, just say hey i wanted to talk to you, you seem pretty awesome, i thought of you so i called you. girls have a way of letting you know how well your doing, by how they talk, what they say, and whether they pick up the phone. if you got her number that's a good sign, just don't worry too much and have some funny stuff ( or at least somewhat interesting, not boring) things to talk about when you do call. that's the biggie. a day or two should be good, she may forget who you are after a week. just relax, and don't get all worked up over it. it will show in you conversation how nervous you are.

If she gave you her number she wants to talk to you. Do waist time. Give her a call.

Call her today. Set up a date for Friday night. Men waste a lot of time playing silly waiting games. When a woman is interested, you can call her 10 minutes later and it won't be "too soon." If she acts stupid and disinterested, it still isn't "too soon" it merely means she was not interested. And for a man it is better to find that out SOONER rather than LATER so you can throw out that woman's number and move on. Ms. HeartBeat http://www.askheartbeat.com

Call her whenever you think the time is right! There's not set rule. If you enjoyed her company and she obviously enjoyed yours because she gave you her telephone number. However, if she gave you the wrong number, she didn't feel the same way that you did.

Young man, young man, you call her now. Be yourself and tell the truth. Say hello, and tell her that you enjoyed her company and that you would like to see her again. "Can I take you to dinner?" The worst she can do is say no. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Best of luck.

just call her....call her anytime..i don't see anything wrong with calling her...u said she was really cool and it seems like you guys have something good going on there..hope i helped hun:)♥

wait! like 2 days. be yourself, and ask her somewhere that is low stress like coffee, then if that goes well....real date

Give her a call why not ask her how shes been doing and later ask her out!

Call her and see if she wants to hang out with you. Tell her you thought she was really cool and would like to get to know her better. What's it gonna hurt? It ain't going to help if you just sit there wondering is it?

Just go for it, man. Don't think too long. Girls did not wait long for your move. Daon't try to think on negative side because it will halt your decision making.

I say wait a few days. I never liked anyone who immediately glommed on to me. It seemed like they didn't have anything else going on in their life therefore wanted to focus just on me. Some girls like that . . . I'm not one that did. You cannot read her mind and all girls are different, so I suppose . . . just call and get it over with.

HEY: DO THIS, GO AND SAY HEY AND FLIRT ,SMILE WITH SOME DIFFERENT WOMEN. EVEN STOPPING THEM TO ASK FOR THEIR NAME. DO THIS TO SOME GIRLS. YOUR CONFIDENCE IN WOMEN WILL BOOST. CALL HER AT THIS TIME. THINK TO YOURSELF, IM THE MAN SHE SHOULD WANT ME IF NOT , WHO CARES. DO NOT TAKE THIS SERIOUS! YOU CAN SCARE HER OFF. come off like its no big deal. remember, the more you flirt, the less you will be worried about her. the more confident you will come off to her. cold hard facts

call her u never know until u try

A simple phone call can't do any harm. You don't want her to think that you forgot or your not interested. Otherwise she might move on thinking that you've moved on. I think you should call her and just talk to her without asking her out. Then talk to her over the phone for about 4 to 5 days, then you could ask her out.

24 hours is a good time to wait. Call her.

I haven't read the answers you've received so you may have this one already...there's a 2-day rule...

Dude!! I just talked to her this morning, and she want's you. What are you waiting for, Christ to come back first? Make the call, or I may ask her out. Oh yeah, she don't like anchovies on her pizza.

Three days. Any earlier looks too eager, any later looks too indifferent.

find her on myspace and send her a message. then find her on facebook and send her another message. girls LOVE messages!! Then find her address in the phone book and go put roses all around her house. girls love roses. Find an advertisement for free kittens or puppies. buy one and put a bow around its neck, then drop it off on her front porch. girls love kittens!! this should really win her over and make her fall in love with you!!! Good luck!!!

Call whenever you feel like calling. Just don't call more than once if you leave a message on her answering machine. If you only have time on the first day, call then. If you only have time five days later, then call five days later. I don't think girls really care that much about that. Just call and be confident so you don't seem needy. Keep the call reasonably brief after arranging the date (hey, I'd love to chat longer but I've really got to meet a friend, etc).

Call her now!! i know my self thatwhen i have give my number to some1 i like i sit and wait for that call.she will be so happy you called it shows her you are interested.

Hi: Good question. You should definitely call her within 24 hours of receiving her number. However, please wait at least ten hours or so before calling her. In one instance, I gave a guy my phone number 9pm that evening, and he called (my answering machine) a few hours later, at around 2am. That was a little creepy. If she gave you her number during a night-time party, try giving her a call the next day after work hours, like around 5 or 6pm. No need to talk about anything serious - just a quick hello, remember me my name is - , thank you for (insert something plausible). You'll want to keep the tone very conversational, and if you do find something in common, try asking her out for coffee to get her advice about (insert something plausible). Whatever you do - please don't wait over 48 hours to call her. If she's really as great as she seems, then she's probably got tons of prospects. Waiting a week or two to call her will send her the definite message that you're not that into her and that she should take other prospects more seriously than you.

wait like a day or 2, then call her and ask her out

wait 2 days then call she will think you dont care then wen u call she will feel twice as good

This could go many different ways.. Being the girl, I have always liked the guy to contact me like a day after. None of these games etc. I don't see why if two people like each other then any of this mind playing needs to go on. What is the point.. Or you could wait a couple of days and she forgets about you or loses interest. Or you could contact her and she isn't interested. My advice is just go for it. Nothing bad can come of trying and it may go really well! She did give you her number so there must be something there ;) Keep your texts or whatever short and sweet. Oh and don't keep texting her. You want to seem interested - not desperate. Good luck

no matter what this is me tho, what i would do is wate atleast 2days then call so u dont look like omg... ya no. plus it will give her more time to think an wate on u ;) u will prolly be able to tell wen u talk 2 her if she enjoyed ure company.. but dont get it twisted if she dont sound enterested still ' Because wen u call at that time ure gonna catch her off gaurd' ;) so just take it easy

give her a call to arrange another date, you gotta try, at least you will have 50% chance to let her to your girl friend, otherwise, 0%!

well, if she gave you her number then that's a sign that she had a good time with you as well :)... don't sit there and hesitate to call her.. i mean, don't call her over and over and over again and make yourself seem desperate ... but call her and see how she's doing.. maybe bring up a few things from the other night.. share a few laughs, and see where that takes ya!

call her now and tell her that u want to see her again and again

call her b4 she forgets about u in the crowd of guys that has her number already

If you're a gentleman (as it sounds like you are) there's no such thing as a "time limit" to calling someone back... Yes, you want to give them their personal space, but no, you shouldn't let something good pass you by. Just remember, not everyone you like is going to like you the same in return. Just make sure that when you call her, you don't jump into a "hey, do you like me" conversation until much later and when you do, bring it up casually so it makes her rejection easier (explain later) like saying something like "I really enjoyed hanging out with you last night, did you have free time soon so we could do it again?"... As far as the casual for her rejection thing, today's rejection is tomorrow's acceptance. Giving her space by not coming on to her is a great way to show a woman that they you respect them. If you come on to them strongly, they might just be upset about it and never talk to you.

simply call her. if you're meant to be you need not play a game but simply be yourself

Say "Mandy? its Dave. I was nervous about calling to soon after I got your number so... Ill call you in 10 min. if thats better for you" If you have a great initial meeting. I call about 3 minutes later. "Mandy! Hey remember me it's Dave, God I know I took kind of a long time to call you but how about if I make it up to you tomorrow (tues) or wed with dinner/lunch." Something extreme she doesnt expect. 4 months ago i got a girls number on the highway. This hot passenger and I was riding so my bud pulled up and I wrote a note on the window. "Hey! NH Girl 555-555-5555, (my number) whats yours? We are headed to NYC" She called me 5 seconds later and I now have a date with her anytime I am in town. Balls. Doesnt matter what you do if you do it confidently, make her laugh and separate yourself from the herd.

If she gave you her number, she is not only interested, but probably wondering why you haven't called her yet!

go for it!!!!! what have you to lose?? actually, think about it this way the worst she can do is say no.period. so go on and good luck!!

3 days

Be cool and confident. Call her. Tell her you have some errands to run. Ask her if she wants to go along. Grab a bite to eat. Have fun. Be spontaneous.

you should call her now! ask her hows she doing. make a conversation! set a date for the weekend! because if you don't call her now she will think your not interested in her.

go to her and ask her if she wants to go out to eat and then ask her inside if you know what I mean

im a girl ino what im talking about and call her she wldnt have gave u her number if she didnt like u. And girls just look for someone .they get along with dnt listen to some of these guys some of there answers r absurd. Most of us or its just me are black and white. we ether like u or we dnt

just take it easy.. do it slowly.. and make her like to be with u too.. then, it's easy for you to take her out again..do you love her?

If you met her last night then get to know them first, keep in touch text the next day and say you had fun hope she did as well and thats it, she will reply if shes interested and if not there are cooler girls.

go with the three day rule. Dont call 4 atleast three days

if its and buts were candy yand nut you'd have rotten teeth. You should just ask, then you won't wonder what if you call her

Call her the next day set up an outing.........while out on said outing keep things casual light and fun.don't discuss relationships (good,bad,past or present)have fun keep it cheap(not to cheap) and simple.... and casually at the end ask if she will call you when she gets home.Judging by that phone call you will know if there is a chance.I promise Ive been there.if you have a lot to talk about good a lot of dead air bad.

Call her, she may think you're playing games if you don't call!

wait a day or 2. U dont want 2 call 2 soon and seem clinqy but call 2 late n seem like ur not interested . Plus u never know, she's probably waitinq 4 your call

usually 3 days is a good guideline. but it depends on the day (probably best to not call on a monday). dont worry about being rejected though, its nowhere near as bad on the phone.

You must know, if she enjoyed you.

Wait about 2 days. it'll keep her waiting by the phone and if she had a good time she will ask you for another date, and if she doesnt, ask her right before you get off the phone

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Clothes, accessories and car may give a clue. Rich is nice, but seldom happens, so stop dreaming. What you really need is someone who is capable of providing well for you and the offspring when you need support. Socialization. He should be comfortable and confident in this social setting. It is a sign of maturity and human true alpha maleness. You observe he has good posture and very few extraneous body movements. It is good that he DOES NOT have a weird personalized strut or walk with arms flailing about and looking around to see who is watching him. It is good that his arms and hands are not in a protective position holding something directly in front of his stomach or chest like a shield. This open body language indicates little fear, honesty and that he is self revealing. It is especially good if he walks directly up to you with a slight smile on his face indicating, "I am friendly. I won't hurt you". His strong direct approach may even stimulate and excite you. As he walks towards you, look at him from head to toe. If the light is right he can tell from a considerable distance that your eyes are scanning him fully. He likes that, but at that moment he will be mostly worried that you might reject him. So let a welcoming smile SLOWLY fill your face. Your smile will greatly relieve his terror of rejection by you. You will also start his hormones flowing now that he knows you are pleased to see him come closer. By the time he reaches you he will want to be jumping around with excitement like a puppy! Check him out closely. Let us assume now that he walks up directly in front of you. Notice if he keeps his social distance or if he invades your personal intimate space and makes you feel invaded. This check of his body language will be important to your analysis of what type of guy he is. Controlling, pushy and manipulative guys move uninvited into your personal space right away. Use caution with these guys and if you can't control them or get them to back-off, escape! You will save yourself a lot of trouble later. About guys and their 'opening line.' An 'opening line' is the first comment a guy makes to the woman he approaches. Most guys work hard developing an opening line. There is great fear that they will be rejected and will be made to look like a real loser or worse. This initial approach to a new woman is a terrorizing situation for a guy. At his deepest old brain limbic system level it is all about hunting, survival of his genes and proving himself as a great hunter. He feels like everyone there is watching to see how good of a hunter he is. So he does a couple of things to minimize the damage to his ego if he is not accepted or is publicly chastised for daring to approach! Here is what many guys do with their opening line: They try to be unique and show that they are not like all the rest of those 'dirty guys'. They try to be so clever that it impresses you intellectually and guarantees their acceptance. They try to be humorous so that if their approach to you fails, it will appear to be all in fun and there is no loss and no embarrassment. They try to impress you with a carefree and even rude approach with an attitude that you are not really important to them. Again, nothing lost to them if you say, "Buzz-off, Buster!" Some guys try to shock you so you can't even respond. Example: "Nice shoes! Let's f...!" You should escape fast from these vulgar clueless guys! The uncountable bad opening lines used in the past all attest to the fact that this is an extremely stressful situation for a guy. At this moment the woman has the power to destroy his ego and make him look like the worst kind of loser in front of all the other men and women there. Rejection in front of everyone there is what men fear most when approaching a woman in a public place. So if he is doing his body language right, as he approaches he will look into your eyes and with a pleasant gentle smile, he will speak to you. No matter what his opening line is, he should essentially say who he is (his name) and that he would like to talk with you. It is a very stressful anxious moment for him until you signal your acceptance of him into your space. He needs reassurance that it is OK for him to approach you, and that he is welcome to talk with you. Don't delay in acknowledging and welcoming him. Repeat his name if he gave it to you. If he did not give you his name, ask him for it and repeat it often. That will make him really pleased and impress him with your interest in him. Some women take advantage of this stressful moment for a man when he approaches them. They act resistive and indignant, putting him at greater stress and enjoying watching him fumble. Don't be that cruel! You have great power over him, for he is terrified that you are going to reject him in view of everyone and make him look like the worst scumbag-sleazeball on Earth. Make it easy on him and you will be half way there to making a new grateful friend. The first 4 seconds are the most important in making a good lasting impression on him. Welcome him with class and charm! About shaking hands: Whether to extend your hand first for a handshake depends on the culture and environment. Recently in the U.S. it has become the custom in social situations for women to follow men's rules in handshaking. That means to make sure your right hand is free to shake hands if he extends his hand. If he doesn't extend his hand, you may extend yours for a handshake, if appropriate. This will make it clear that you consider women and men to be treated and respected equally. (Depends on where you are here, but this sends a clear strong message that may scare some guys!) So if it is appropriate here, extend your hand for a handshake when you approve of him joining you. His type of hand shake can be an excellent clue for evaluation of him! Here is what to watch for in his handshake: If he rotates your hand so his hand is over the top of yours (his palm facing down, forcing yours to face up in his) guess how he wants his body to be in relation to yours? This is a very controlling guy and he wants to "jump on your bones" right now. Watch out! Only the two hands equally vertical shows a sense of equality between you both. If both of you have your hands vertical, then the strength of the grip is most revealing here. Firm grip-- Has self-confidence. Takes care of self. Sincere. Weak grip-- Lack of confidence and insecure. Limp grip and arm-- Wimp. Needs a lot of support to get things done. Looking for a "mother". Swinging your hand side-to-side, instead of up and down-- Trying to disarm you for manipulation later. Also watch to see if he makes eye contact and smiles, at least briefly. These are two friendly good signs. You do the same. If his eyes disconnect immediately looking off to the left or right, he is disinterested (or afraid) in really getting to know you and investing much of his own honest self in you. Letting him into your space and life. Hopefully by now you have read enough of his body language to feel safe. So now you want to find out how interesting he is and if he has interests similar to yours. The talk should now center around data gathering and finding common interests. What you are really interested in, is how you each live your life in order to determine if you two have a good chance for long term compatibility -- or at least some fun together for a short time. That is your interest. Most likely all he is interested in, is how you look naked and how soon he can "climb on your bones". (Guys are wired differently, in case you haven't noticed!) This communication process is more difficult than it appears, and it is the point where the connection between you both can abruptly break off. This may not be news to you: men don't think like women. Therefore to make the best impression on him (and maybe to even 'get through to him') you need to talk differently to him than you do to your women friends. [NOTE: There is an interesting article explaining why women talk differently than men linked from the main page. Study it later!] Summary so far in Step 2, Using Body Language in Flirting and Dating: You have gotten his attention, given him a signal that it is safe to approach you and welcomed him into your space. Now you two must do some data gathering and find common ground on which to build a continuing relationship. Your evaluation of him will be based mostly on his body language. He will also be watching your body language, so use it to your advantage in the next steps. To link to this page just cut and paste the following web address: http://www.aquiziam.com/female_body_language.html READING FEMALE BODY LANGUAGE The Single Signals - Female Body Language There are literally dozens of ways that a woman uses her body language to communicate her interest and attraction to a man. Reading female body language can be simple or complex but the real trick is recognising clusters and progressions. The images shown on this page are some of the most reliable individual signals. However, the use of a single signal by a woman does not indicate total attraction but is rather an indicator of interest. As the individual signals become more frequent, clustered and obvious, the more interested (or desperate) is the woman. For example it's quite common for woman in a nightclub to be subtle in her signalling early in the evening but as the night progresses and she still hasn't attracted a man these signals can become increasingly obvious. Contrary to what you may have read elsewhere about reading female body language, there is no sure-fire way of perfectly understanding these courtship gestures every time. Women may project them consciously (and sometimes just for sport), or they may be totally unaware of what their bodies are saying. A woman may even show physical interest through her body language because she subconsciously wants to be desired while actually rejecting a suitor because she is consciously aware that she is married. This is self reassurance behaviour. Reading female body language also requires a high degree of honesty on the part of the man. Many men overreact to simple signals or, because of their desire to be successful, actually see signals that are not really there. One simple and fantastic piece of advice when reading female body language is to take it nice and easy. If her signals are subtle and understated then a man's responses should be just as balanced. If hers fade away then her interest has been lost - if they increase then it's safe for a man to respond in equal measure. However, before exploring the progression of signals it is vital to be able to recognise some of the basics. For most men "seeing" even the most simple of signals can be challenge. Fear of rejection is the reason. This page should help with reading female body language. The Head / Hair Toss: The human body is pretty hairless. Other than a gene manipulated cat and near extinct shrew; there are no other mamals that are as hairless as humans. (We don't include fish, reptiles or birds in this analogy.) Long, flowing hair has always been a sign of feminine health and thus sexuality and child bearing ability. By tossing her hair a woman is essentially saying: "look at me and my suitability. I am happy, confident and very healthy!" Long hair is feminine while short hair is masculine. If this wasn't the case why do so many (male) lesbians shave their hair as a statement? The Lip Nibble: (left) Oh my God! Men love this body language signal. It's origins and the reasons why it works are still a mystery. There is nothing like the Lower Lip Nibble to subconsciously give a man an injection of pure of testosterone. The lower lip is gently gripped by the teeth and with sensual slowness allowed to slip away. Done well and without awareness this can drive a man to his knees - done badly it becomes a parody. Strangely, this is a powerful sex signal between women (lesbians) and is used by the submissive female to indicate interest in the dominant potential partner. The Hair Flick: (right) Reading female body language has never been easier. For women, twirling or flicking their hair is a favourite flirting gesture. Why this has such an effect on men is a hotly debated subject. The ‘Definitive Book of Body Language’ (Allan and Barbara) allegedly claims that it allows a woman to expose her armpit and thus "waft" pheromones to the man. (Huh?) Another explanation is that it is a casual way of exposing her neck - a well known erogenous zone. Some researchers even claim it attracts attention to her "healthy" hair. We admit it - we just don't know. Still, it's a great signal to watch out for. Tilt and Smile: (left) This is a classic and is perhaps the most common of flirting and attraction signals. It indicates a submissive, interested and alluring mood on the part of the woman doing it. Most importantly it is "shorthand" for: "I’ve noticed you and I like what I see. I can't look away so I’m sneaking another look. My Smile is to let you know I'm feeling good and want you to know it." Generally the gesture is quite quick and meant to attract attention. If the man doesn't get it after several attempts then the woman usually gives up on him as "just too stupid to mate with". Neck stroking: (right) The neck is one of a woman's most sensitive and erogenous zones and touching it will attract a man's attention. Why does this work? Well, apparently, men are attracted to soft smooth female skin and the neck is the most socially acceptable to display. Smooth skin is a reliable indicator of both youth and health - critical factors when a male is "hunting" a mate. The neck is also a very sensitive part of the female body and touching it stimulates a gentle, soothing and loving sensation. Try it for yourself by tilting your head to one side and gently stoking the exposed neck. Feels good doesn't it? Toying or Object Stroking: (above) Psychologists believe that people often transfer inner feelings to external objects. So by stroking the stem of a wine glass (for example) a woman is using female body language to say "stroke me". By running her a pen across her lips she is saying "kiss me". These female body language signals should not be confused with "agitation" gestures that indicate that the woman would rather be somewhere else. The difference is in the speed with which they are performed. Slow and sensual is good - fast and "jerky" is bad. Wine glasses, table ornaments, sun glasses and pens are common objects used for "toying". Knee Pointing: This signal is about interest and focus. By turning the knees and legs towards a man, a woman is using female body language to indicate the person in which she is currently interested - thus creating a personal space triangle. The outer legs also present a barrier to others who may intrude. Translated, this signal means: "You are the person I am focusing on." Legs and knees that point away are a bad sign - particularly if the knees are aiming at a door. In a sense they become a barrier to the nearby person and an invitation to others. The more leg exposed the more sexual the signal. The Vagina / Womb Gesture: To the right is a picture of a woman wearing an average pair of jeans and yet the way she has placed her hands is a powerful “turn-on” for some men. The reason is that her hands are creating a frame for her Vagina. Although sometimes mistaken for "male" gesture, her hands are actually "spelling-out" what's on her mind. Her female body language is actually saying: "This is the part of me that I want you to notice. I'm telling you that this area of my body is available for the right man!" It is a confident signal indicating aggressive sexual availability. Self Stroking / Touching! (above) This is both subtle and obvious at the same time. Essentially it means: "I'm stroking and touching myself because I'd really like to be stroked and touched by you". Also, by touching herself in this way a woman draws a man's attention to those erogenous zones that she thinks are her best assets and will appeal to him. Thighs, neck and ankles are all favourites. It is fair to say that women are very aware of the way that this subconsciously affects men and will do it deliberately. Where it is subconscious it is a truly reliable indicator of a woman's feelings. The Shoe Dangle: (left) Reading a female use of shoes and her feet as part of her body language could fill a book on its own. We may later dedicate an entire page to this form of subtle communication. The Shoe Dangle is a strong but subtle message to a man. Translated it says: “By half slipping off my shoe I'm indicating that I am relaxed, comfortable and may be willing to undress further." Also, for many men (even those that won't admit it), the female foot is (strangely) attractive. Women worldwide spend Billions of Dollars on footwear and pedicures and they do it for a reason! All images used are of models that have assumed poses for photographic purposes. Thesee images in no way imply any negative characteristic about these individuals. “ Being a woman is a very difficult task, since it consists principally in dealing with men.” Joseph Conrad Terms Privacy Contact Links

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