My friend cuts herself when she is upset, I threatened to tell the school and her mom but I'm not sure if she is stopping. I don't want her to hurt herself, what do I do?
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I was a cutter. She's not doing it to hurt herself, she's doing it because it releases endorphins in her brain and makes her relax. This is especially true if she's ever told you "I keep them clean, they're not going to get infected." You're not going to get her to stop. Neither is her mother or the school. It is something she will have to grow out of and/or work out herself. You can choose to tell, some people here would say you absolutely should tell, but she will stop talking to you over it if you do. It's really up to you. Honestly, I would say it's not your concern, but I know I'm going to get razed for it.
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Tell someone, she needs help. people cut themselves when there is something so painful in their live that they feel the need to give themselves pain so as to numb the pain they have emotionally.
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to start I'd say dont tell the school or her parents. doing that is only going to cause problems which is obviously not what she needs. I understand that you want her to quit but sadly I dont think you can help her. If anything try talking to her about it more. find out what is upsetting her and is causing her to cut.
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i used to cut myself quite badly 4 a number of reasons i was angry at others but didnt know how to show it and cutting got rid of that anger. or just to punish myself. i was depressed and kept it from every1 slowly some people noticed and i hated it so telling teachers or her parents will make her feel worse comfort her tell her if shes angry or upset she CAN talk to you if she really insists on self harm advise this put an elastic band round her wrists and pull and release as this will let her emotions out in the same was as cutting with out the marks or scars i have lots of bad scars that i will always have and wish i got this info sooner
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Friends do not let friends hurt themselves, physically or emotionally. your friend has deep-seeded psychological problems. i think you know this. All her promises in the world, are not going to help her mental condition. First its self-mutiliation, then its suicide. If you are a true friend, you have got to inform her parents. leave out the school, she will hate you for informing school officials. it will embarress her. Meet with her parents and inform them. If your friend committed suicide and you did not tell, you could not live with yourself. tell it. Friends do not friends hurt themselves.
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I know my reply is to a question over a year old, but I think it is worthwhile to post because it could help someone else. I found this link on this topic. http://timschmoyer.com/2007/12/03/tips-for-helping-a-cutter-find-relief/
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