ANSWERS: 10
  • What a sucker. He doesn't want the package deal, then he can't buy single items either.
  • If he can't be there for you AND your boys, then find someone who wants to be and dump this chump. He shouldn't be allowed to date you without being involved somehow with your children.
  • What he's saying is he still wants to have sex with you, but doesn't want the responsiblity of a true meaningful relationship. Dump the jackass and find a real man who will help you raise your boys together.
  • Run as fast as you can. There are decent men out there, ones who will love you for what you are and love the boys as their own. This imbecile can't see what he's got. Run as fast as you can. Or better still, chase him out of your life with a broom!
  • Faeri, I'd agree with the consensus here, this guy is being a total dickhead.
  • My motto is that I'm a package deal. If you love me and want to be with me, you must accept my children as part of "me". I would do the same for my s/o.
  • Does he have children of his own??
  • I'm sorry to hear that He is smart for doing what he is doing. Don't push him into anything he is not ready for. Let him go. I wouldn't waste my time dating him though. Meet someone who wants to marry you. And don't move him in with your children unless you are married. You want to teach them better values and morals.
  • Like the rest of the posters, faerie, I have to agree that your boyfriend is not good Daddy material. If he doesn't want to be a father to your children, then there is no reason you should treat him like your husband. He wants to "continue dating"? Oops, wrong answer. He hasn't been dating, he has been co-habitating and to continue anything less would be an insult to your intelligence. Say goodbye at the end of the lease and move on to someone ready to help you parent your boys.
  • It is a package deal...that is what I live by. No man is worth giving up your kids happiness. He does not want to be "dad" then tell him to go find someone who does not have kids!! You will find someone who is willing to take all of you.

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