I met a guy from internet dating site and we've been talking on the phone and even doing sensual talking by phone but he can't seem to like a webcam chatting, so i am confused if he is serious for me. I like him much already and i feel he does to me too.

Well, considering my husband and I met on the internet, and yes I moved 2000 miles from my friends and family for him.... IT does raise red flags that he will not show you his "true" self! I do know what it is like to have feelings for someone you have never met, and THANKFULLY!!!!!!!!!!!! He was/is real, WONDERFUL, WONDERFUL, WONDERFUL,

Your internet persona is not exactly the real you. his internet persona and yours get on well. keep it that way. don't delve further.

Enjoy and like the relationship for what it is.

Sweetie... Take it for what it is and just have fun.


It is fantasy, as long as you never have to meet them or see them... You can fantasize about even doing that, knowing full well that it will probably never happen.

Over the internet and over the phone are ways to be connected to someone, even sexually with none of the bullshit or nonsence *or diseases for that matter... That in person interaction sometimes brings along for the ride.


I suppose it just depends on how much you like drama?

I don't... So phone sex and internet people... are just that! Never the two shall mix!

I've been in your shoes. I kept accepting the excuses he gave, especially about being shy. I will share with you my experience and perhaps you could see if there are similarities.

1. He had an internet "persona" (who he wanted others to believe he was).

2. It turned out he was married and obviously didn't want anyone viewing his webcam seeing his wife walk by in the background.

3. Did he use an actual photo of himself on the dating site where you met? If he is married, heaven forbid a single co-worker of his wife who is checking out the dating sites, recognize him. The man who tried to dupe me had signed up for internet dating services claiming to be separated on some sites, and widowed on other sites. He never used his photo on those either. Instead he used a gung-ho type American type icon to win the ladies trust and instantly earn respect.

See if any of these sound familiar to you and go from there. Good luck.

Does he even have a web cam?

His true self just may not be what you expect. Put on the brakes until you know what you are dealing with.

Does he have a webcam? He doesn't want to show you what he looks like. Don't get serious about this guy. If he can't show himself, then he obviously has something to hide.

You have to meet him in the real world. One cannot really be serious about someone who you have never met. A webcam is hardly a good method of communication. Nothing better than in the flesh communication.

I didn't have a webcam when I met my g/f. I also had no intention of showing myself on camera, online. I didn't know her enough to know whether i was being set up, if anyone else was with her watching, whether it was being recorded. I had nothing to hide, just a lifetime of creeps, cheats and tricksters.

He has trouble operating the webcam 'cause he's 650 lbs and trapped in bed.