Maybe because everything starts to go "down south" a little bit after like the age of 35. I have no idea, i still think it is the woman who does not want sex after marriage, but im not married yet. Can't wait to find out!!!!

After i moved in with my partner i found that sex did slow down a bit,i'm not blaming him and i take equal responsibility for it.but we did discuss it and things have gone way up again.personally i think that its because we tend to fall into routine without realising it that sex slows/stops.I think i'm lucky as some people dont notice things change untill its too late

haha. funny thing is that they do slow down. like if thats wat they used to convince us n now that they hav us in their power they decide they can slow down. lol . . . false advertising . . . lol. we should greet them at the door w/asprin . . .

I was about to answer but my wife smacked me! :-}

I haven't noticed any decline in the women I have known. And I haven't noticed any deline in my desire.

As for my wife and I, we haven't noticed any decline.

Its not the man or the woman its the individual. People all have different needs. Alot of women and men have different outlooks on sex and its purpose in a relationship as the relationship grows. Take my wife and I for example. She was all over me when we first started dating. Now she gives me her back atleast 90% of the time. When we do have sex its awesome in my wifes defence. Her argument is that sex isn't important in a relationship and is minute compared to other things that people need to do to keep a bond healthy. I disagree. How can sex, the method of procreation and the way our child is to be born be called minute. our child that we will have together is the biggest bond of a relationship that i know of. In the long run, again its really the individuals thoughts on the whole subject. For some men and women(not all) they loose the thrill of excitement when the exploration or your bodies has come to a hault. In a relationship I feel that a couple needs to since this time coming and try to engage in new activities before one or the other becomes sexually comfortable with the other. Its not much of a thrill if you know that ok tonight I'll lick her, she blows me, we have sex doggystyle and repeat tomorrow. Alot of couples get this way. communication with each other is key. As far as my wife is concerned I blame hormones from being pregnant.

I think married people might not want as much sex because they both have each other and their lust dies down. I think it's true for both men and women. Then again, I am not married. :)

LoLz....hi sara, babieeee, guys want the goods because that's why men marry women. women have the goods to turn any man on, so use them, babieeeeee.

I call bull on your bull! I always want the goods, it's definetly more woman that hold out. Then again, i'm not married yet. Oh &... You're gorgeous! Put that in your fan mail. ;)

my dad would die if he heard you say that. it is exactly the opposite of what you said he wnts all the time but my mum just keeps knocking him back. i think its funny in some respects but he must be getting stressed not having any for as long as he goes without it i would die if i didnt get it at least once every two days lol

Maybe for a little while you might get into rut. But when you hit your 40's, and kids are pretty much raised, it is a free for all. Maybe we have wore the poor men out by then.

before i got married it was a few times a day everyday. then once we got married it was like once a day for a few days a week then just once a week now its once every few months. i dont know if she has a switch that she just shuts her sex drive off or what but i get tired of tring to get it and not get it so i just go with out. it used to make me mad but i am used to not getting it now. its been 8 yrs now that we have been married and the last few years maby only gotten it about 10 times or less.

Well, once your married to them, a lot of people think that you don't have to have sex all the time to be a good partner; you're married so sex doesn't count now. It's wrong and I don't think you should put the subject ALL on men. Sex is Sex, it's where babies come from and it isn't a neccessary function to live life, besides reproduction. At the same time, would you like to pull your pants down and see how wrinkly and stretched everything has gotten over the last 25 years?

I love lemon pie... But eating lemon pie EVERY week... Then after you eat the lemon pie, you have to talk to the plate about its day and how much you enjoyed the pie. You have to assure the plate, forks and lemon pie crumbs that you have no desire for pumpkin pie or chocolate under any circumstance. The fact you were seen in a diner eating a piece of pecan pie at the counter was purely a misunderstanding... Sometimes its easier just to jack off and go to sleep.

Of all the married people I know (alot, at least 100), this would be the first time I've heard of this phenomenon. You are definitely in the minority. Lord I wish that was my problem - - being with a woman who wanted it too much. The thing ism there would never be too much.

if the ladies keep the whore an slut out where there man can see it it won't slow down 'we get tired of the same ole thing ''get a little kinky. buy some stocking sexy panties, work at it. an i don't mean be sluty to others

It is like eating the same meal every night. Boring!

c'mon sara... u think i'd say know if u were my wife? be real ;)

Its not that we dont want it, its we are so damn tired that we dont make time for it. If we have to make time for it then it losses that special spontinaity feeling. Dont force it and just let it happen!!!!!! Trust me........It will happenif your marriage is good or your relationship is good

My husband and I went at it all the time at the beginning of our relationship.. Then it went down hill... We got married and it was a little better... Now he is crazy about it because he wants a baby... WHO KNOWS THE ANSWER!

Sometimes the mundane day to day grind takes over. Dont let it, keep up the experimenting and exploring. I would have to agree that with most of my friends they are the ones who want less, we all joke that I should just be the care taker for the group. LOL No thanks, Ill tend to my own. I heard a man complaining the other night to a friend that he swears the wedding cake at their reception gave his wife lock-jaw. Haven't heard that one in a while. Cracked me UP! Too bad for him!!

Maybe it all goes back to that theory of conquest. You desire something until you have it, then when you've got it, you don't try for it anymore. Something like that.

maybe your just shit at sex?

In my case, before we were married my wife was into everything including oral. when she moved in the sex had an immediate decrease. After we got married it virtually stopped. I feel jilted used and jipped. And I am angry about it. She says she wants kids but has no sex drive. I want the goods, my wife is beautiful and funny and the love of my life. She says I'm the best husband in the world. If I started making less money I guarantee she'd leave me. 95% of the time it's the woman's fault cuz of self centeredness

I say it is the opposite of what you say. Men have higher sex drives throughout their lives. ALmost all the men I know say that they have far less sex than they would like. Men have more testosterone than women do which is the hormone that triggers sex drive. Why do you think men watch porn, go to strip bars, hookers, etc. Not that those activities are good, but you get the idea.

I think that after marriage, many men still want the goods..... they probably just want it from different people. ;) I know, that's shitty.

many women SAY they are still sex mad, few of them rarely are. Nowadays women feel under just as much pressure as guys with sex as it's spoken anout so openly. Out of all the women i have ever talked to about it 80% didn't want it 15% lied and only 5% are still sex mad...

I know this may be a strange answer, but i believe once you get married its not "Sex" anymore its "Love" making. I mean when you first start dating, you both are just getting to know eachother and of course sex is going to be in your mind regardless of what you do. You both are so excited on just the thought of "Having sex" that once you do it you end up doing it like countless times in the excitement can die out if abused in being repeatitive. BUT once you get married its a whole different ball-game because you have to start thinking about important virtues like being faithful, and respectful, and "Loving" eachother. So the sex you have when your married it could be alot more emotional then what it was when you were dating because you're in love and your not just doing what your body is sexually reacting to as a normal human being. Of course we are going to get urgest to have sex regardless but when you love someone its alot different because your married and it shouldnt matter how many times you have sex as long as you both love eachother and treat eachother right? i see no harm in it. Of course you need to take a break once in a while and slow down from the sex, but regardless theres nothing wrong with sex in marriage its a wonderful god given thing.

my wife went from trying to bed me every day when we were dating to 1-2 per week our first couple months of marriage to once every 1-3 weeks for teh first half, finally once ever 1-3 MONTHS for the last half. every time we'd have sex she'd say "we deffinately need to do that more often" then not.

I totally and completely agree with this! My bf turns me down constantly and I'm like really I have to beg for sex?! Maybe its just me...I'm kind of a nympho lol.

I'm not married so I didn't experience it but I think the reason the sex life dies is because it become a routine. He kisses her here, she sucks there and that's it, people need variety. That's where good imagination comes in, if the couple has good imagination there would not be a problem with the sex life, there so many things you can do.

Chris and car audio crazy got it right. I've been married nearly 10 years. After 4 years the sex had really slowed down. I'm as horny as I was at 17. Not good. I've heard of the wives who are hornier than their husbands, but I have never met them. Where are they? Could you give me their address and phone number? LOL

Bull. Married and 33 years later, We are at it about every day. I know however most of my friends tell me they never if rarely do. I attribute , Drinking,tranqillizers,poor diet,street drugs and one or the other is having a bit on the side. You never know.

No I don't think so and it's not true. People who cheat, lie or dishonest people will think like that way. I think whoever addicted to too much sex with different sex partners that people only feel like that way. Otherwise they'll be in normal or regular way to do the things whatever they used to do.

I'm hard, well you asked.