Im in a healthy relationship , but i do have a liking to pornography. While being intimate with my gf, i keep picturing the women from the porno instead of her. Shall i tell her? i know she will go phyco, or does it show i dont find her attractive anymore
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AnikaStunz
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What would be the benefit in telling her. If you can think of a good benefit to letting her know that then go a head and tell her. Otherwise I would keep it to yourself.
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Instead of telling her and hurting her, why not try to stop looking at pornography? And go back to thinking about her?
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It is natural to picture other people while you are having sex, whether you are male or female. If it is all the time you may have a bit of a problem. You are also running the risk of cheating if you come across somebody who comes close the the porn star look or attitude (which happens all the time with drunk girls in clubs here in the U.S.) Would you rather be with a porn star all the time than your GF? You may need to stop watching porn and focus on the positives about yor girlfriend to get turned on. Maybe the fact that she has not been with over 50 guys and is turned on by you could do the trick. I still would not tell her. That will just make her insecure and most likely she will lose a lot more enthusiasm(sp?) in bed.
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Let me tell you now. Telling her this will result in your loss of the ability to procreate. In fact you might as well just castrate yourself. This isn't exactly normal if it's an "always" thing, once or twice-disturbing but not something to be worried about. More than that, you might want to see someone about it.
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just tell her that yu like porn. this doe
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Many people here on AB know that I'm an advocate of free speech and have no problem with pornography. With that said, if the two of you are incompatible in this way (she's totally opposed to pornography, and you're hooked on it), then your relationship probably isn't as healthy as you think. As I've said elsewhere, two people have to share fundamental value systems for their relationship to succeed--whether those value systems are liberal or conservative. I say it's not good to keep secrets from someone you should be totally open with about EVERYTHING. So tell her. If you can both compromise--she can be more open-minded about free speech, and you can cut back the porn, it might work out. But if one or both of you can't change, it's better to find out now when it's "just" a relationship than after you're married.
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