If we constantly punish a child for excessive talking during their younger years, are we not training them to silence themselves when they reach a point in their lives where they should speak up and be acknowleged? Please see continuation in answer...
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I'm missing where there is a part of their lives where they shouldn't speak up and be acknowledged. I think the key is to teach children when and how it is appropriate to communicate their thoughts and feelings. This means punishing talking over others, interrupting, etc. This also means acknowledging, validating, and responding to appropriate communication.
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Although I see the need for children to follow rules, why should they be punished in elementary school for asking questions during a lesson or wanting to add on to another child's answer? My 6 yr old nephew has recently been chastised for "speaking out of turn" in class. But if he doesn't learn to use his voice now, what will happen in high school when his teachers take points from his grade for not participating in class? I remember the same experiences in school growing up and how by the time I reached high school my teachers were constantly nagging me to participate more in class and downrating me for only answering questions when called on. But, in elementary school, I was punished for answering questions without being called on. Are we not confusing the youth of america by contradicting what we want them to do? When is it acceptable to tell a child at one age to do something one way, and then at a later age to do the exact opposite? Feedback please!!!
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Yes. People need proper guidance in order to learn correct communication skills. Sometimes it is much faster and easier to punish for undesirable or excesive talking. In my opinion, punishment in place of proper guidance is way too common.
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I have a very talkative child, that has gotten in trouble in school a LOT for speaking out of turn. He dosen't seem to have that problem as much at his new school as he did his old one. I can see both sides of this issue. Children do need to be encouraged to speak and ask questions, but they do need to learn to do it at the appropriate time. They need to learn to raise hands and not "blurt out" their information. For one thing, if the outgoing and/or smarter than average child is constantly speaking out of turn or blurting out answers, that doesn't allow the child that may need to think a little longer or that is a little more timid, or the ones following the rules to ever speak. Then they don't grow up learning to speak up in class. While I do think the behavior needs to be corrected, so that a child can learn to communicate effectively, I do think some of the punishments doled out for this "crime" are a bit over the top.
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Losing recess is a small price to pay for learning that valuable lesson of when it's an appropriate time to speak. Otherwise, think of the adult chiming in with his two cents at the wrong time at a company meeting- or monopolizing the conversation on a first date. We all know these people. Maybe if they had lost a recess or two they would've learned the rules governing social interactions and speaking.
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