Ok your at a party and you see people picking on a girl that is Lesbian, do you help her or do you join in on the homophobia?
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Lissa
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Help her. I've been that girl - that sort of ridicule is unnecessary and cruel.
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Well, I certainly don't join in the taunting. A person of character would stop the ridicule, personal beliefs aside.
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I help her if she is obviously in need of some help (I imagine quite likely), and do anything and everything I can to stop the homophobic bigotry, then permanently cease contact with any of the homophobes, and go out of my way to make sure everyone knows they are bigots. If it was 'my' party, I would ask all of the people involved (all the homophobes that is) to leave -immediately- and never come to any event I organise ever again, under threat of calling the police to have them forcefully removed. ***** I find homophobia a rather distasteful trait, to say the least...
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ok first off.. i HATE people picking on others no matter what.. second off so what if they are gay..? that so angers me.all my life i have known gays.. no big deal to me and then my own son turned out to be gay.. again no biggie. he is my son no matter what.. his friends have always been close to me. who the hell are people that they feel it is ok to judge. until someones closet is clean with no rapists or theives or any of the above they need to back up
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Of course I would defend anyone who is being picked on - it would be cowardly not to.
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As a straight guy, I'd help her, either by defending her or posing as her date depending on whether she was in or out
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I would definitely join in and pick on her. I would ridicule her clothes and her hair and that thing on her nose. This is an edit: Don't you know sarcasm when you read it??
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I'd take her out. :)
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I have been picked on enough myself to be more than willing to come to the defense of anyone who is being bullied or picked on.
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I sure as hell hope I don't even KNOW people like that but I would 100% say something and then befriend the girl and bash the bashers!
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Any party I am at, wouldn't have people that dumb.
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To do that at a party is way out of line, I would never do that.
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Help her.
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I couldn't imagine being invited to a party where people engaged in this type of behavior. I can guarantee you that if I were present at ANY type of gathering where that kind of s*** went down, those clowns would be dealing with an angry queer guy...HELL YEAH! And they would probably never invite me back, and I'd say good riddance to bad rubbish. As one who was picked on through 12 years of public school, I will NEVER forget what it is like to bear the brunt of someone's ignorance and homophobia. The difference is, now I am empowered...queers bash back!
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Id help her. any way i could
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Help her.In a heartbeat.
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Beat em up and tell them after you are gay.
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you tell them either 'dont knock, you know you tried it' or as a male explain you are also a lesbian locked in a mans body , so would they like to try it with you (this ,of course, only works if you pump iron and have a serious scar which is visible)
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I might just go right up to her, face the crowd and tell them to back off and give her a hug. I might also tell her that if she ever needed anyone to talk to, I would be there for her as long as she could reach me. :]
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hmmmm I would stick up for her. Heck if I knew she was single....I would go kiss her and ask everyone if they had a problem.
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Absolutely stick up for her, no doubt about it. I'd pick on the taunter about their ignorance and immaturity. And (if it was ok with the lesbian, and I wouldn't do this for sexual reasons but for the point of sticking up for her and slapping the taunter in the face so-to-speak) I'd kiss her and dare the taunter to make fun of me as well. That oughta teach them.
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I would be at her side in a heartbeat!
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I'd kick the aholes out. People like that make me sick.
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as a lesbian myself, I would come to her defense, not stoop to the level of the bigots picking on her. but parties I attend are given by friends/family who aren't a bunch of homophobes....so, that has yet to happen at any party I've been to.
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I start kicking people out. I don't tolerate that garbage.
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I throw down and say "Back off my woman, punks!" And then I beat people, and she swoons. And then she wants to make out with me. I break her heart when I tell her I'm straight. Then I walk off into the sunset, years later she names her first kid after me. Seriously, I throw down. No one insults my gay sisters in my presence.
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Of course I'd help & hopefully I'd get my friends to help. BUT the lesbians that go to the same pub as me wouldn't need my help. I'm friendly with a few of them & they might not look it but if someone messed with them, they'd find that they are tough bitches. But gladly homophobia is not tolerated where I go
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I leave the party, and ask if she would like to come along to a gay club that I frequent with one of my gay friends. F*** the ignorant bastards at that party, man.
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i'd tell them all to go fuck themselves, and then i would confort her. it's a traumatizing experience to be singled out and tormented like that, regardless of the reason why. maybe i'd go make out with her to shut everyone up ;)
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I would help her and tell them about themselves rather forcefully. Nobody needs to go through garbage like that. However, I cannot imagine being at a party with people that stupid. Assuming that somehow bigots got into a party at my house, which they would not, they would be promptly be ejected, be it voluntarily or at the toe of my boot.
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I'd help her, and maybe make out with her some j/k
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I'd try and (to put it in an American turn of phrase) 'open a can of whoopass' if the people taunting her were guys, or I'd simply remove the girls picking on her. Then follow up with emotional support to the poor girl. If the guys were much bigger, and it made no sense to try and kick their arse, I'd pretend I was gay, and detract attention from her. If it was my party, I wouldn't care how many of them there were, they probably weren't invited if they're homophobes, so I'd kick them out, one by one. If all else fails, I call up two of the guys I know can handle themselves, and they give me a helping hand. Screw what some people say, violence can be the best answer in some cases.
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Step in and say "What's the problem? So what if she's a homosexual? So am I" Safety in numbers and all that.
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Considering I party with 99% lesbians, I don't think I would have to do much except sit back, make popcorn, and sell tickets to the inevitable ass-whooping.
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Help her out, for sure.
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I select my party friends very very closely. I would not likely be at a party where someone was picking on someone because of their preferences. Unless it was shoes, cars, or beer. Bring the wrong kind of beer, and my friends will light you up. If I were to go to someone else's party, I would befriend said lesbian and pull her into whatever fold I had at the party. It would be extremely rude to start hubbub with the "pickers" at someone else's party. Redirect, have fun and don't spoil the party.
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help her out and if i were threr id kick there ass for that.
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Help her then when all is calm ask to join her and her partner.
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I would help her. I know what it's like to be bullied. Not for been a lesbian but for other reasons. People are to cruel and don't stop and think how the one been bullied feels. They think it's cool to act big in front of their friends and to act like the hard one. It's pathetic in my eyes and they should stop and think that they wouldn't like to be treat like that. They should treat the way they would like to be treat. So I would help.
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kind of a stupid question no offence mate, but anyone who is being picked on for silly reason like that should be helped right? i mean its like picking on a ginger kid in school fuck sake people just need to get a life
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i would help her, im gay so i've been in that kind of situation before
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Help her, beat the asses of the homophobic and leave the party in handcuffs. But they'll be leaving in a stretcher.
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Help her :)
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Chances are I wouldn't be at a party with the sort of people who would find reason to pick on someone for something as irrelevant as their sexuality. But if I was, I'd definitely help out. And then ask her to leave and take her to a better party :)
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Help her obviously!
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all you people are liars helping her would be the right thing to do of course but most people have no guts to stand up for the girl..in your hearts you would want to but most would just sit back and let it happen chicken shits be a leader not a follower damn idealists!!!
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Well it's my party and I kick those people out... they can't be my friends if they were doing that BS... And then I call all my lesbian single friends and get them to make her feel better.
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For one, I wouldn't be at a party with people assholes enough to do that. And for two, you help people when you can. It doesn't really matter what for. Lesbian or not, if you see someone in trouble and being picked on and you don't like it, then if you can stop it, you do. *shrug* simple as that.
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assuming that i would even be at a party full of homophobic fools, i'd jump right in to her defense because most likely i would know her and not the homophobes. i have lesbian friends, bisexual friends, and gay friends (and of course straight) never will i stand for that kind of bull
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well i'd team up with her and start making fun of the hetros....
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I say something to rude and ignorant people.
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Oh, Jesus Christ! Just because people dislike homosexuals does NOT mean they are homophobic!!!! *sigh* This gets so frustrating sometimes, haha. Phobia is a FEAR! Not a freakin belief!............And yes, I'm ready for the negative points, lol. *FYI, I'm not a "homophobe" or "racist". I don't hate, make fun of, talk down to, or dislike homosexuals for that matter* P.S. Whoever keeps down rating this, YOU are an idiot.
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I'm a gay man and an angry one at that so I'd tear them up like a kleenex at a snot party. I hate homophob's with a vengence.
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I come to her defense. Then I leave the party, I wouldn't want to associate with idiots that behave this way.
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Go to her defense, then wonder why I was at this party to begin with. I don't generally hang with people like that.
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What I do is help her no matter if she is a lesbian or not.
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TOTALY HELP HER!
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I would help her. People need to stop picking on other people for being different, having different opinions or doing things a different way. A lesbian is a valuable woman just as much as I am, and should be treated with respect. I'd even go so far as to pretend to be her girlfriend and stand up for her! Trust me, once I did, they'd back off.
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I would stand up for her. I hate when people make fun of other people for stupid reasons like that.
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are you serious? Why would you join in on something so incredibly stupid? So how about if you're at a party and people are picking on the girl with the blue eyes and blonde hair, do you start picking on her too just because she has blue eyes and blonde hair? Unless you're homophobic, which you should not be, why would you do what the crowd does? You should absolutely stand up for someone who is being picked on by the crowd, you never know when you're going to be that one person and you'll be wishing your good karma was coming back around!!!
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Of course i go help her. People don't deserve to be treated like that no matter their sexual orientation.
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i would help her out
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I'd run up and french kiss the fuck outta' her in front of everyone then invite her to IHOP or somewhere similar
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Depends on what they are picking on her for. For her sexual orientation, yeah, I would defend her. If they were picking on her for lighting a cross on fire in the living room because she was a screaming racist, not so much.
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Of course I would help her. I don't tolerate such b******t.
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ID SAY LEAVE HER ALONE DONT BE MAD SHE DOESNT WANNA SLEEP WITH YOU !
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I'd help her I dont understand why people can hurt others like that its so retarded
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Being completely honest. I would probably mind my own business.
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I would quietly say something to the people who were making fun of her. But honestly, I can't imagine that happening at any party I would attend. My friends are not like that.
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Jackass's there will always be, Who pick on you or pick on me. Being A-Holes may fit them to a T, But you'll never see them again with me. I would ask her if she didn't mind, If we left those homophobic fools behind. And if they were Friends of mine, I'd kiss them off,and they could kiss my behind.
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I would teel everyone that lesbians are cool. Guys and lesbians have the same taste in women, so they can't all be bad.
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You help her out! Say, "let's ditch these assholes" and then hang out with her.
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I'd go over to her and talk to her and tell her to pay not attention to them and maybe have drink with her and make her feel safe and yack with her until she was ok.
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if she was hot i would go kiss her and give them something to talk about lol but thats just me :)
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Help her of course it is the human thing to do. Not about gay or stright but the right thing to do.
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Help her. Even if it means kicking some ass.
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yes help her
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*Cracks knuckles* "excuse me, did you have something to say to her???"
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heck no! i'd help her. seeing as one of my best friends is a lesbian we would probably end up in a physical fight with the ppl because she will probably end up running her mouth and starting something lol. but i would help her and drive her home, and stay with her to talk to her if i can. me and Christine met in a similar way like that except i was the one being bullied.
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Please! You know the answer to this one. Be a decent human being and go stand beside her. Have you any idea what it is like for her? Have you even thought about it? She hasnt chosen her sexuality anymore than she chose her skin colour. You didnt choose to be straight did you? Please, please, be the bigger person. I really hope that you never experience being victimised Im gay and i can tell you that it is the loneliest place in the world to be when you are young and surrounded by straight teenagers. Not only is it lonely, its is scary. My heart goes out to this girl. She is a person not a lesbian. You dont get any prizes in this world for following the herd. Well done for asking the question but you know what you need to do. You have the makings of a fine person if you choose the right thing to do. Dont be a cold callous bastard...it might be you one day (for whatever reason) You wouldnt allow the same thing to happen based on skin colour or disability would you?
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I would grab her by the hand and say, "Lets go party!" Then we would skip through the front door, pushing past all the ignorami, and PAR-TAY!
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omg i have never joined in hurting a person. people are people..tho i do not understand the human race.( reason i get along with animals best) i do not see the reason to hurt someone. i guess it would be as always if i see someone being picked on. i would stand next to them. sometimes you have to go to extremes and i can do that well. i have a big mouth.. so the ones doing the picking would hear me loud and clear.
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I would help 2 of my sister are lesbians along with most of there friends, I also have a lesbian friend and she is awesome ....
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I would start pickng on the dire straights for their close mindedness and get the girl to help....I am very close minded to close minded people.
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Help her out. No-one is picking on who they want to sleep with, why do they get to pick on her?
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well im straight but u know what i would go over and kiss her then see how stupid they feel for makin fun of her....
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I'll try to kick their butts and take up for the poor girl!
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I'd wait until they were alone, to get even with them (for her, of course). Either that, or humiliate them publicly. I may be a TAD vindictive, but it's only toward those who truly deserve it. Revenge is a dish best served cold.
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Chances are that even if I go over to help her, the group will simply call me a "lesbo" or "dyke" or whatever as well, which is only going to embarrass her further and give them more ammo. So I wouldn't exactly stand up for her, but something more like get her out of the situation. Approach her with a line like "Hey, I've been looking for you everywhere, wanted to introduce you to someone, follow me!" Hopefully she'd be smart enough to follow me and I'll just get her away from the crowd.
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Haha, I'd probably be the girl they were picking on, so it's a good thing I can stand up for myself. I'd probably go and ask her if she wanted to get out of there. We'd leave a load of losers behind. If its my party she must be a friend of a friend at the least and the friends that were at the party can get outta my house. The one thing I hate in my gruop of friends is close minded individuals.
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Help her. I am not gay but I know what it is like to be discriminated and all men and women deserve the right of life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.
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I'd totally help her, by telling the people off, saying such things as, why are u so concerned about her sexuality ? Are u not secure enough in ur sexuality that u have to put someone else down who is secure ? And most homophobic people who get in ur face are usually closeted gays who are denying who they really are.
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Totally defend her from the homophobic ignorant bastards!
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I would take a stand and help her. I would never join in with any kind of bullying, let alone homophobia x
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i would tell them to grow up then leave the party.
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at a party i would help her out because people shouldnt pick on people at a party
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