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  • Go with the gay thing, it could work in your favor. I had a hyper-shy friend that couldn't talk to women at all, another friend told a couple girls at a bar that he was gay and just looking to chat with the girls for the night. The girls wound up taking him away and hours later we heard he was making out with one of them, trying to "un-gay" him.
  • Change your look and try to meet a girl you never met, mabye at a job or something./
  • The fact that people think you're gay may actually work in your favor, if you play your cards right. Here's my theory, based on first-hand observation. First, move to a major city, where the gay population is more dense, and make friends with a gay guy. The reason is that gay guys often have fag-hags with them who are straight women, and who LOVE gay men. If your gay friend doesn't have a fag hag, I bet he has multiple friends who do and could introduce you. Guys who are straight, but seem gay are like walking porn for some of these girls. Don't be afraid of the gay bars. I've met plenty of straight guys in gay bars, and as long as they know you're straight and not feeling threatened by the fact that you're in a gay bar people will love you that much more. Just make sure your gay friend takes you to bars that welcome a more diverse crowd, or you may well not meet any girls there at all. In fact, you may not even have to move at all, if you live in an area with a pretty good sized gay population. Of course this will only work if you're comfortable enough with your own sexuality to be comfortable hanging out in a gay bar.
  • The way I look at it everyone deserves someone, and things happen for a reason. I dont know if your a religious person, but if you are then i would suggest praying. Even if your not really that religious you can still pray and God will listen.. But if you prefer not to do that, then you could maybe just find someone your interested in, and maybe go on a double date with a few friends... But If you just give it time and have faith, then that special someone will come into your life.. Good Luck and God Bless!!!
  • Get comfortable with yourself even if you don't have a girlfriend. No girl worth going out with will want to go out with you if she thinks you just want any girl, they want to know that you are interested in them personally. You could also ask out one of your friends who is a girl. I can't tell you how many girls I knew who wished their friend would finally ask them out. Of course, that can be risky, because there are also some who think of their friends like brothers.
  • ive learned that sometimes u cant just sit there and wait u have to go out and look for that special someone u know? so just get out there and find the girl of ur dreams and maybe sooner then what u think ull find it. :)
  • Your friends are right. Part of "wanting a girlfriend" is that sometimes you appear desperate. When you can feel comfortable around all your friends, male and female, and maybe even not really looking to find someone, they may find you. Happened to me with my first girlfriend. Don't sweat it so much. Live your life. Be happy with who YOU are. You're a musician. Write some love songs. Record them on your computer, put them on a cd, and ask your friends what they think. If they like them, a friend of THEIRs may hear them, and ask them about you. Meanwhile, you'll get a batch of songs you can play for almost any girl you go out with. ;-)
  • Yes, go with the gay idea, when i was in the Navy, there was a gay guy in our squadron, and everytime you saw him he had girls all around him. I think they all wanted to try to un-gay him.
  • Try to find out what about you makes you look gay,and then change that. Trust me that is all it takes.
  • The problem starts with "I want a girlfriend". It's too abstract. WHO do you want? If there isn't a specific girl who you really connect with and care about, what the heck is it that you want? Someone to admire you? Someone to help you fit in with other's expectations? Someone to make you less anxious about whether or not it's OK for you to be yourself? Someone to have sex with? (Ok, that one actually IS legit! :) Really, those 4 words are a huge red flag -- you're not interested in some specific person, someone who lights up your life and makes you want to join their club -- no, you're after "a girlfriend" -- you have a job opening... you should advertise in the Help Wanted section or something. So that's a bit sarcastic, but the point is this: whatever is going on with you that makes you say you want a girlfriend IS the problem: all those ideas you have about how you should be and what would allow you to fit in or what would make you not lonely, etc., that stuff is in the way. If you let go of all that, and just focus on life's basic assignment ("be yourself") there may come a time when you meet someone who rocks your world. And all of this talk about "how to get a girlfriend" will become ridiculously irrelevant to you.
  • Thanks everyone, but since I asked this question in January, I've pretty much gotten over it. Like BigDaddy BS and Brand Y said, that's pretty much what I realized.
  • Dude, if people think you're gay, that will make you like an automatic Babe Magnet!! Just keep doing what you're doing.
  • i am in the same boat as you all my friends say wait your man will come because you are such a good person i say ya right he will never come
  • Your friends are right. You need to be patient. My boyfriend was the same way before I met him. He only had friends that were girls but had never had a girlfriend before. Then one day we met and everything just clicked.
  • It really is true. The right girl WILL come along, in a lot of ways doing a bunch of dating is just a waste of time because it is all meaning less and just hurts in the end. When you stop looking she will find you. Happened to me and pretty much everyone else I know that is in a true lasting relationship.
  • They are saying it because they are your friends, we say the right girl will come along because it happens more often than not, just keep doing what you're doing and eventually you'll get there, the gay thing? Whatever you know you're not and that's all that matters
  • its possible thats why they are saying it, but in all honesty, its perfectly ok not to date in high school or younger. just wail till you reach a new level in your life and see who you find, dont go looking. be yourself and eventualy someone will catch your eye and she will be crazy about you now that i can promise and its true cause i dont even know you.
  • honestly, my guy friends are really great guys, but some are considered gay or angry or scary. i only tell them the truth with a fine layer of sugar coating-- if i have to. but even if i do, i say so little that the truth shines through. i cant say exactly, but if your friends are true friends, they're either saying that because they know you and they truly believe it, or they're telling you that to make you feel better and want to believe it. either way, they sound really nice. and don't worry, your girl will come along. i promise. :)
  • 1. Have good personal hygiene. You don't have to be Brad Pitt to get a girl. For the most part, just caring about how you are is enough. Wear clothes that fit, and make sure your body is clean. (Keep white Teeth, trimmed nails, clean Hair, Shave unibrows, etc...) 2. Keep up a good posture, walk steadily and smile. Women do not like slouchers. Bad posture gives the impression of low confidence. Smiling makes a guy more friendly and welcoming. A good walking style,(straight back, a hand in the pocket and taking well-distanced strides) gives the impression of intelligence. 3. Wearing a large amount of cologne is Not a good idea, wearing 2 or more different types of cologne is an even worse idea, and always remember with your smell, a little goes a Long way. 4. Pick a location frequented by a significant number of girls where you feel fairly comfortable, perhaps a place that is conducive to a skill of yours: music, public speaking, or a private intimate conversation. Go out and have a good time. Guys who stare and walk around constantly looking for women immediately lower their value. Go out with your friends to a bar or club (or any public place, such as a bookstore, if you're more of the studious type) and start out by genuinely having a good time. The Internet does not count. 5. Be funny. If you're not naturally funny, don't try too hard around her. Pitch jokes to other people first and see how the jokes do with them. If you get no laughs there, just pray, because it's gonna be hard winning a girl without humor. 6. "Plant some seeds". Flirt casually with waitresses. Make a passing comment and smile to a girl walking by. Toast a woman at the bar. Then go back to having a good time with your friends. In a short time, you'll notice women slowly gravitating to you. 7. Qualify them. Don't be a jerk about it... but in a fun, playful way, make her prove her value to you. Something as simple as "Are you open-minded? Cool, because I like open-minded people." 8. Talk. Silence is uncomfortable. (On the other hand, women or men who do nothing but talk and never listen can be annoying.) 9. Learn how to flirt. Flirting is an art, and is easily the most important social skill for men to learn. Try taking a comedy class, or talk to her like she's your little sister...but do so with a smile, so she will know you are kidding. 10. Connect with her. Find out what you have in common, and reward her with a smile and a story of your own if she tells you something unique about herself that you can relate to. WARNING: If she gives you something like "Oh, I like to go shopping", don't reward her for that. It's not unique. Instead, ask for more information and then connect with it. 11. Look and touch. Looking into a girl's eyes shows respect and interest. A firm handshake, a gentle pat on the back, a light touch of the hand and other subtle gestures allow the girl to feel connected with the guy. 12. Feel great. The feeling will radiate and affect the lady too. 13. Don't pretend to be someone you aren't. You may think you will win her over with like mindedness, but in the end she will find you out. Find a common interest, something you both like instead. 14. Show your interest. The best way to get out of the "friend trap" is to avoid it from the start. After finding common interests, make your intentions clear. "You know, I just realized it. Not only are you pretty, but you're fun to talk to." 15. Ask for her number. Give her your phone, tell her "Put your number in my phone and I'll call your phone so you'll have mine." 16. And once you establish that special, exclusive relationship of boyfriend and girlfriend do not--I repeat--do not stop the chivalry. Women are too special to only be waited on conditionally. The best way to show her you care is to continue to do the little things for her. You still need to open her car door, walk her home, kiss her goodnight. ALWAYS call her at night to bid her goodnight (it's best to wait a few hours after your date to do this, otherwise you'll seem a tad desperate.) Remember, show affection and respect and you'll get affection and respect.
  • Your probably like looking at that girl saying like should I go talk to her should I just stay here???? If taht girl looks at you and smiles or notices just dont sit there freaking out. Relax and be more approachful. Tlak and be more outgoing. I was a loner and now I ahve a hot babe for a girlfriend and some new really cute girls as friends. The gay guy always ahs more female friends....USE IT!!!! Your really lucky that you ahve that Idea of you..I wish I had that.(i'm straight though)
  • oh hell no man u no what you remind me of myself but u no what i dont know how old u are but ill give u a piece of my advice YOU CANNOT EXPECT SOMEONE TO COME UP TO U LIKE THAT YOU HAVE TO MAKE IT HAPPEN WAYS TO DO IT 1. GO OUT INTO ANOTHER SOCIAL GROUP AND MAKE A NEW FRIEND EVERY DAY BUT DONT FORGET UR HOMIES 2. GET LOST (NOT BAD WAY) I MEAN GO OUT AND GET LOST AND JUST START UP GENERAL CONVERSATION THEN FIND SOMEONE YOU LIKE AND TELL THEM U WANT THEIR PHONE NUMBER 3. MAKE SURE MAN U NEVER FORGET UR HOMIES
  • there 1/2 right about the right girl coming along part you shouldn't just sit around and when you say girls don't like you maybe those certain girls don't but surely for every type of guy there's the same type of girl....unless your a serial killer idk know about that
  • hey i am a girl and i didnt have a boyfriend for a really long time. you just have to be yourself and wait becuase if u change yourself to get a girl then they wont get to like u for who u actually are. I took my time and even though the guys arent lining up I found someone who likes me for who i am and i couldnt be happier. just be patient and put yourself out there for girls to see the real u.
  • You are 14 years old and not a 25 year old. Why are you trying to rush things? This world is crazy if you feel you must have a "girlfriend" at your age. Don't girls still have "cooties"? Enjoy life, study for school, play sports and stay active. Come back in 5 years if you still don't have a girlfriend.
  • GAHH STOP PLEASE. This is old, and I'm more mature at this point. Please stop answering the question! I haven't a girlfriend still, but now, I can deal with it and can wait! I was just feeling a little sad that day.
  • i think you should try to get to know some girls either at your school of online I'm 16 and i do not have a boyfriend
  • Sit back and wait. The right girl will come along when you stop fretting about it and giving off negative vibes.
  • If they say you are a great guy, then you are... believe them. Would they hang out with you if you were not? No way!!! Great Guys are always in. One word of advice, Be yourself, women want a genuine caring person.
  • write a list of all the qualities you want in a girlfriend, put it up somewhere you see everyday, and truely BELIEVE you have her. She will come to you through believing you already have her :) (philosophy from 'the secret')
  • you should wait it out because im sure that one day some lucky girl will realize that youre a great guy. your friends are probably telling the truth. some girls are just stupid and think that everyones gay, even though its not true. dont try to be all macho either tho, because a lot of girls are turned off from that. just be yourself and when its meant to happen, itll happen, but dont force it :D
  • If you really think about it, there are a lot of people on this planet. And if you really believe you are going to spend the rest of your life alone, then you are mistaken. Patience is something that can't be taught, it is learned. I once saw a fat, ugly midgets with sever acne who had a girlfriend - not to say a fat, ugly midget with sever acne is unattractive, but they are unique and yet there she was, a normal, attractive woman was right there with him. They were kissing and laughing and obviously happy. Depending on what your tastes are, you may want to broaden your horizons and attempt approaching and/or dating women out of your preconceived comfort zone. Look outside of your race, age group, go online and do the profile matching (it really works, but I don't have time to explain the best approach, post that question on AB later and I will take a stab at it). The thing to remember, you are not alone. This is not a pep talk, it is reality. GO GET THE PUSSY, there is plenty out there... TM
  • man listen to me my nigga fuck them bitches, just start tricking we all do it,i go every week, if you was from my hood i would take you to the hor house, just look for a hor house around u my nigga, 1
  • They might be saying that because they feel like you just want a girl, any girl, and they don't want to be just any girl. "The right girl will come along, so be patient" is most likely a polite way of saying "I don't want to date you because you are way too desperate."
  • Follow each girl, you will find one.
  • sounds like you're being too effeminate
  • You didn't say how old you were. If you are under 15, it's probably just not your time yet. Don't be upset if other guys have girlfriends before you, it's not a race! If you are over 15, you might need to change your image. Find a girl who is a good and sincere friend and assign her the project to make you over into a babe magnet. Have here pick your look, your haircut, your clothes, and have her tell you how to act and what to say. After she succeeds in doing this, take her out to a very nice restaurant for a really good meal to say thanks for being such a good friend.
  • don't be gay
  • change the way that you dress and ignore pretty girls blatantly. trust me when i say i go after the guys that are not in my face but have confidence inthemselves
  • You're desperate, and possibly feminine. Hit the gym, stop caring about women, act a little more self-centered, and you'll be drowning in pointless, empty relationships in no time. Once you figure out what you want in a woman and why you want it instead of begging for someone to plug that hollow void in you with, you might start meeting people that you could date. Also, women think you're gay when they've been hitting on you and you don't respond or hit on them. Go get some antidepressants or anti-anxiety pills and guides on how to treat women like women while you're at it.
  • lol..girls dont like u!?? thats probably not true. a girl cud like u but b too shy or wait for u to make a move OR she might be waiting to c if u like her or not before shes asks u out also, i know this guy and his friends tease him that hes gay. hes not though. its jus that he doesnt show that he likes a girl even if he does. so maybe some girls think that cuz ur friends tease u bout it or cuz u dont really show that u like girls. but ur friends r right..if ur a great guy ull find a great girl. what u shud do..lol/ u shud jus b patient. and jus continue being the great guy that u r and eventually a girl will see how great u r. but dont go around jus looking for any girl to date. that sounds desperate. and its better to have a person that actually likes u for who u r. also, if u like a girl make a move..dont jus wait for her to. gud luck :]
  • Get off here. Go to the lake the mall or any other place girls are. You will find one.
  • 6-19-2017 Get concerned about appearance. Find somebody to show you how to shine your shoes and then shine them every day for the rest of your life. Be sure your clothes kinda match, even if you have to buy them at the thrift store. Carry a comb so you can comb your hair occasionally. Go to a church on Wednesday evening. You don't have to believe anything. Every church does something different, so if one is not interesting you can go to another one. Don't tell them about your problems, just say you heard you could meet some nice people. If the church has a dance, ask a girl to help you learn how to dance. Go to a book store and ask for Elizabeth Browning. Ask a girl to listen to you read it and critique your presentation.
  • maybe you should ask some of those girls out that say that

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