I am abusive towards my boyfriend i would smack him or pinch him and he normally would not do nothing but put me in a wrestlingmove. i feel so bad the next day i dont know why im like this its very rare that i do this lash out in abusive anger what do i
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Go to a therapist, pronto.
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Grow up. Its being young and not being able to control your anger. It's not an excuss but I know what thats like. I used to break things when i was younger...i would feel bad afterwards but once i got older it all went away. You have to do something about it though. If you keep doing this i promise you he's going to leave you and so will the guys from here on out. No man will stay with a woman like that! So respect a man if you want him to be around.
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Realize (which you already do) and Self-CONTROL.
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get counseling - nobody likes a bully
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You want to know what to do? Stop being a bratty little bitch that's what. You're lucky he doesn't smack you back because you totally have it coming pulling crap like that!
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You need to develop more control over yourself. Sometimes this comes with age, like others have said. Sometimes professional help is required, like others have said. Either way, the first step is being aware of your emotions, your behaviour, your responses to various stimuli, etc. Basically, you have to study yourself. Why do you lash out like this? What prompts this behaviour? What are you feeling when you act like this? How were you feeling leading up to this? You say you feel bad the next day -- how do you feel immediately afterwards? What response does this effect in your boyfriend? (You say he puts you in a wrestling move, but then what happens? Do you go back to what you were doing before, or do you start doing something else?) How long have you been behaving like this? And so on and so forth. You'll also need to learn an avoidance technique -- like when you start to feel yourself start to act out, instead do X. Good luck.
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Keep hitting him! Spit on him too. Do you feel better? Well then STOP IT. How are you going to get over a bad habbit when you are feeling shame? Stop. If he can put you in a wrestling move, he is probably stronger than you are. If he doesn't hit back, he is much stronger than you are.
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First of all, If, you and I were dating, You did that to me, You can bet your bottom you will be in jail. I am a disabled man who is loving, kind, sweet, and will tolerate it at a certain extent. By no means, you WILL not lay a finger on me. So what kind of background did you have growing up? What kind of issues you had when you lived in your house with family, mom, dad, brother, and sister. Have you been sexually assaulted growing up? If you have answered no to any of these questions, then definitely you are a bully. I am a guy who will not take anything off a bully. If you smacked me, leaving a red imprint. It will be photographed, you will be arrested for assault causing bodily injury. If you pinch me, You will be arrested for causing bodily injury. And more over, Abusive actions do not warrant nothing but a bad reputation. If that is what you want. Then continue abusing your boyfriend. I will assure you he will find someone better than you.
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Do him a favor and immediately end the relationship and get some help. If you care about him, you will tell him to move on with his life and find someone else while you get help.
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