Should a single mother stop seeing someone just because her kids dont want her dating?
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No, there are plenty of things kids want parents to do that they should or shouldn't. You can't trust the children to make decisions for the adult.
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That is a hard one. If the new person you are seeing poses as not being in the best interest of the children, then yes, you should stop seeing that new person. If it's that the children are upset because it's bringing a new person into their lives and they want their parents back together, try to work with the family as a whole, including the new person. Family counseling with the new person can help because it's an outside source that will give his/her honest opinion of the children's views and wheter or not the children are being brats or that it is truly not a good idea for this new person to be around.
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No. I did that to my mother and made her very unhappy. If I had to do it over again I would encourage her to find a companion.
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I think that she should be allowed to date, but she should date someone who accepts her kids. If he does not accept her kids, then he is not worth it. My friend recently had to press charges against a guy that she had just married about two years ago, because he molested her 10 year old daughter.
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A single parent needs to have a life and interests outside of her kids, regardless of what her kids might want. That having been said, I'd be very careful about shacking up with some guy the kids aren't comfortable with and don't want around.
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No. We teach our children what is right and wrong, and do what they are told to do. Children should not be taught that they have control over what their parents do, or how they behave. The single mother above, should ban her kids from dating until they are 18, and see how they react. Personally, I asked for and openly received my children's thoughts on my dating, however, I told them that my listening to them and feelings, did not mean that I would do any more than, listen to them. Kids don't want lots of things, homework, vegetables, rules to follow, but they still have them, because wanting something doesn't make it good for you.
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No and if she allowed her kids to control that part of her life then they will try to run other parts as well...what you wear, lose some weight, your hairstyle etc.
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No, unless they have a valid reason for that particular guy. I do think they should be talked to and explain why it is important for mommy to have some company too.
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