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  • There are no shoulds or shouldn'ts in a situation like this. I would suggest that you try and separate your immediate emotional response from your deeper emotions though if possible and, if that feeling is that you love and want to stay with this person, then you would both benefit from being clear with each other why this happened and if it points to deeper troubles or potential troubles in your relationship that aren't being addressed. When discussing the situation though, try to avoid statements that begin with, "you make me...". Instead it's helpful to say, "when you...I feel..." If you get what I mean. This way you are taking responsibility for your own feelings and actions, not projecting the cause of them onto the other person. Above all, do talk about your feelings and don't ignore what has happened.
  • Your girlfriend can actually get drunk enough to sleep with someone against her better judgement? I wouldn't condemn her outright but I would give our relationship some very serious thought.
  • she got drunk and had sex with someone else. So what that means is when she drinks she has sex with anyone willing to do her...um well either she never drinks because she can't handle it...or you leave that type of girl. I would cut the ties. Not really worth it. Plus she'll need to learn and you wont be able to trust her.
  • We've all been drunk before, but not all of us have slept with other people (while drunk) , and used that as an excuse! How about just admitting that people do things because they can & also they can get caught in the moment? Someone's there, and your a horny corn dog...the end. Lets not blame it on the alcohol. If you can stand a life with a mate who going to drink get laid by someone else...and blame it on the booze...then the girl your with, is the one for you. Use protection, u don't know what she tapped into.
  • How committed are you to this girl? If you are really, actually, truly in love with her then you will need to learn how to get past that. Personally, I would be very hurt and I would also not reserve the blame only for her. The colleague is to blame to. That said, she should, at the least, leave that job. If she is truly ashamed, that will only continue to eat at here if she were to remain. Definately start using a condom if you aren't already, and she needs to be tested, maybe over the next 6 months (some STDs take a bit to incubate). You may want to consider separating temporarily. Couple counseling would probably be very good.
  • It depends on if the work colleague was female, or interested in a three-some. And it depends on if your girlfriend is honest. Would she really do ANYthing to stay with you, as she said? Would she never drink alcohol again? Well ... see how honest she is about that.

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