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by mermaid baby on January 8th, 2008

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I hate my ex! we have not been together in almost 7 years. he still trys to control my life. we have 2 children together. he is raising one child and i am raising the other. he told me i couldnt see her anymore unless i have sex with him. what do i do?

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  • by Gideon on January 8th, 2008

    Gideon

    You tell him to grow up and get counseling. Then remind him you can get court orders of custody if necessary.

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  • by SAGE2 on January 8th, 2008

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    Report him to the authorities.

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  • by Anonymous on January 8th, 2008

    Anonymous

    Where there is a will there is a way.....never forget those words

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  • by Anonymous on January 8th, 2008

    Anonymous

    Grow up. Hell you know that no one can run your life unless you let them. Courts are there for this type of situation. I would not even answer this but I was bored.

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  • by Andy Is Wicked Married to Penal Colony on January 8th, 2008

    Andy Is Wicked Married to Penal Colony

    Don't sleep with him for starters. Don't let him control your life. Do you have an agreement of some sort in place for visitation already? If so, is he violating the terms? Probably, but I have no way of knowing that. Also, you might be able to file a complaint/grievance with the court.

    No money for an attorney? Two words, law library (some courthouses have them and they are typically locale specific) or the public library might be another option. It's not easy, but it's free. I spent hours and hours in the courthouse library when I divorced (couldn't afford an attorney). I walked away with everything except him and his car.

    Here are a couple of online resources:

    www.nolo.com

    www.legalzoom.com

    Good luck.

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  • by mermaid baby on January 8th, 2008

    mermaid baby

    and NO i cant afford a lawyer to get do legal action. I havnt seen her in almost a year cuz i refuse to sleep with him. he disgusts me! and he could care less if he sees our son or not.

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  • by bookdoc on November 8th, 2008

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    Go to the tribal authorities.

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  • by andthenitsgone on November 8th, 2008

    andthenitsgone

    That's trash. Go legal.

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  • by ALM4 on November 8th, 2008

    ALM4

    call your lawyer, he has no right to do that and control you...you can have the kid taken away from him, if he treatens u like that, but i guess u have to show prove

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  • by gabriel on November 8th, 2008

    gabriel

    not have sex with him because that's blackmail and if he is speaking this way to you and your child who is with him is hearing this, you should have custody of that child too. Did you each decide to have just 1 child each because you need to be sorting out what's the best for both of your children. Surely being siblings, they should be building up a relationship under the same roof together. This I cannot understand. Get some advice. All the very best.

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  • by A on January 11th, 2008

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    He can't deny you the right to see your daughter. She IS your daughter, after all. You might not be able to afford a lawyer, but do you have a Children's Aid Society of any kind in your area? I know you might think this is a bad idea. You don't have to follow it. It's just a suggestion. They are there to help handle situations like this one.

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  • by scrappy on November 9th, 2008

    scrappy

    You mentioned that you talked to the chief, is there a counsel of tribal elders? If so, are there women on the counsel? Appeal to them. I have been told by some of my Native American friends that the counsel is where the real power rests. Try to get what he is saying on tape, it will help you with the counsel since they have to decide. Also what about his family Would any of them be willing to help you? It also might help if you show that you want them to still retain their Native American culture. Good luck!

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  • by Catra22 on June 19th, 2009

    Catra22

    I'm sorry to hear about your predicament. I think you should search around on the internet for lawyers that can deal with this kind of thing and get evidence against him so that you can get custody of your daughter. Now that chief is being plain out racist against you. You should call him about it again and tape record the conversation so that when you talk to a lawyer that can help, he/she can have a better understanding of the situation. I myself can not help you out, but I do hope that things get better for you.

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  • by eric on January 8th, 2008

    eric

    Lawyer up!

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