I know a guy who is really mean to everyone. However, people say that he has a heart of gold so no one should let it get to them. What do you think? Should people be allowed to get away with things just because others think they have a heart of gold?
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Seems like a stupid reason to me.
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No. Drop hammer on him quick.
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Sounds like he must be rich or people are afraid of him
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Of course not, however there is likely a reason that you are simply ignorant of. Most people won't tolerate that kind of behavior and just ignore it because "he has a heart of gold".
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People should be accountable for their actions no matter what their heart is made of.
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Many people put up false fronts out of defensiveness. Some do pretend to be "mean" who really are not. It is the really mean ones who pretend to have a "heart of gold" that you need to watch more. It is not always easy to tell. I am agasinst any kind of false front.
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my heart is made of blood vessels and i do not get away with things. ok bu i kind of get it...i sometimes put on this bitchy front but i would do anything for anyone. i do it because im afraid others will attack first, im not justifying my meanness because i know its not rigth and im trying to do better. but thats why!
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No. He is mean to people. He is an adult. He has to accept the consequences for his actions. I don't care if he is 24 carat inside..I care about how somebody treats me.
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I'm mean and rotten to everyone. Folks like that though. I wish I could get people to leave me alone from time-to-time, but I think they know that I mean no real harm... I just express things in ways that most people are afraid to.
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be careful with the naked man that offers you his shirt.
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It doesn't matter what other people think about this gold heart person......What do you think? I myself don't have time or patience for mean nasty people. Okay, well..... maybe a minute, just long enough to tell them what I think of them. hahaha Don't let him be mean to you, on the assnine opinions of others!
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maybe that is just his way.. it could be a part of his sene of humour that noone really gets.. but if he really hurts people, then yeah.. i would definatly give him a taste of his own medicine and tell him to cop on!!
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If he really did have a 'heart of gold' metaphorically speaking, he shouldn't be that mean. And the thing I don't get is that people say he's actually a good guy. Is it his family members who are saying that he's decent? I don't think people should be able to get away with things because of that. And for letting him get away with that stuff it's telling him it's okay to keep acting like this and also tells him that he's being supported in his behaviour. And if that's the case, the people supporting his behaviour may as well be undertaking it and doing it to everyone else themselves!
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i would talk to him and let him know that you think he is being mean and that you don't want him to talk to you like that. If he really has a heart of gold he will apologize and tell you he didn't mean to hurt you and will try not to do it again. I used to be like that. I would say really mean sarcastic things to people all the time and it wasn't until someone told me how it made them feel that I realized how much I was hurting people. I immediately began to try to watch what I said and after a couple months, hardly ever made mean comments anymore.
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No. I'm not mean to people on purpose. When I am I either apologise, as I didn't realise I was being hurtful, or they deserve it. However it's very rare I'm mean to people. I struggle with girls who are attracted to me but I don't feel the same way. i can't talk about my 'feelings', because I think I'd make them upset. that's the issue. If I don't see them upset, I feel better. I have emotional issues, which are gradually being dealt with, but that is no excuse to be mean. i try not to be, and when I am it's acccidental. this guy has no excuse. Someone needs to batter him. (And not in the sense of fish and chips)
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WTF?!?
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It is about what you think, not wat the rest thinks of him. But it`s always better to confince others of your opinion, rather then go at it alone.
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I'm sorry but that's stupid, it's like saying "well, my husband abuses and beats me, but he still says he loves me".... It's like that, just nothing but deceit.
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Learn how to read people. If he's mean, it's not serious. If it's serious, the others are wrong. I bet he's not mean at all. Don't be taken in by what is PC or not. Look at the man with your own goggles on. Then decide.
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I think some people can be wrongly judged esp if they have a brusque nature about them. I know several people who come off strong, if you didnt know them that well, but would give you the shirt off their back! Thats why its really good to know some one until you can make a fair judgement of them. Theres got to be good in one who is described as having a heart of gold!!:)
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I think most people have a "heart of gold" and you should probably figure out why people think that of this guy, but I wouldn't put up with someone being mean whoever they are, or how pure everyone seems to claim his heart is.
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Definitely not. That would mean that anyone who means well can get away with being mean or doing the wrong thing. I say, if you mean well, DO WELL! Don't ask everyone to make excuses for you.
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Here is my thing with this whole question - is it just YOUR opinion that he is mean to everyone, or everyone's opinion. I work with a woman who is allergic to wheat. She made PASTA one day for a potluck lunch we had, and then was complaining about how she was all itchy and stuff. I said "Why don't you just take some benedryl or claritin? I have some..." and she started to cry. I don't get people all of the time. I was really being serious, and trying to help her out. She thought I was being mean.
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hmm. by being mean do you mean they speak truth, or do you mean they take people lunch? noone sayes I have a heart of gold... I want good for the many regardless of what individual has to suffer for it especially if that suffering is of their own creation. in general if I say "go see a shrink" it is sincere advice, some people will say the way I say it is mean and they can continue suffering because I was mean and they aren't gonna take mean advice. I do not want people to suffer unless it is of their own creation and then I enjoy it like I do the 3 stooges.
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Absolutely not! What does that even mean? He treats people like crap, but he will help them if they need it? He will lend them money? He's a good listener when he is not busy being really mean? What? It would not be worth putting up with his attitude long enough to give him a chance to show his "heart of gold." I would avoid the guy.
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Someone who has a heart of gold would *not* be mean to everyone. And no, people shouldn't be allowed to get away with being mean - I always call them on it. Sometimes it helps just to be upfront and there's nothing positive about someone being mean....
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No, people that think they can treat others just anyway they want to because of what they give is not giving for caring, but giving for status and has no right to treat others bad. He is giving to be known and thinks he is above others. Do not let him treat you that way even ifall other do let him.
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If he is mean to everyone, he doesn't have a heart of gold. He has a selective, manic depressive heart at best.
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No way. His actions show his heart, it is not of gold.
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People can act different ways in different circumstances. Sometimes those who seem the most maladjusted in everyday social situations are the ones who come through for others in genuine crises.
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