A girl dated a guy close to a year, she asked her b/f if he liked her son, he said yea hes a good kid, like him a lot, she asked do ya love him? he said I dont love him, one day I probably wil, do you think they should be a package deal love em both?
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Yes it should be a package deal, but he shouln't be expected to fall in love with two people at the exact same moment. It takes time, and bonding, and playing, and comforting, and being-there-for, and being-appreciated-for-being-there-for, before a guy and a child really bond. And what if the child has an attachment to his biological father? Then the child could be wary of a bond with boyfriend, and boyfriend might be put off everytime the kid says, "I don't like him" because dad's been talking about mommy's new boyfriend. If the guy said that he thinks he'll probably love him one day, then give him the time and opportunity to develop that bond.
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it seems that this relationship is goin to work. She just needs to give him some time.
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Yes that child and BF are probably taking time to warm up to eachother, He sleeps with you so that is the instant love and the child will take a bit longer. He is being honest and you should respect that.
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wow thats hard. its kinda unfair to say he has to love the boy too, after all the boy is not his son. but he does have to accept the boy and treat him like his own. she needs to watch closely how he interacts with the boy. and what if they marry and have kids of their own. will he treat his kid more favorably than his own. only she can make that decision and they have to talk openly about it.
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No, that is not reasonable. The son is not his child and although he may feel friendly and protective of the son, it's not reasonable to expect him to love the child as much as he does the mother. As long as he is kind to the child and treats him well, that's all that matters.
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I dont think it has to be a pakage deal. He fell in love with the woman and if he gets the time to bond with the son a lot i think that will lead him to love the son one day. But you cant just honestly love a child just because you love their mother.
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