We all live in the same world and experience consequences for our actions. Why do some adults simply have more self control than others? Why is it that some can learn and exhibit self control, but some never seem to grasp it?
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I think it's because we learn at different speeds
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Good question. I really think that for some reason some people never emotionally mature past about 12 years of age. I don't know if it's genetic or what tho.
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More and more recent studies about how the brain works are showing that the chemical/physical reactions in the brain are far more responsible for our actions that previously thought. It is becoming clear that people are hard-wired for certain behaviors right from the start. Scientists hope to discover what it takes to make certain things happen or not happen in an effort to give people more choices in their lives.
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I believe a lot of it has to do with how one is raised. Parents who pamper their kids, do their homework for them, buy them whatever they want, intervene in school affairs, and generally prevent the children from taking responsibility and accept consequences for their actions are going to raise kids who, as adults, expect that the world owes them a living and rules are made for everyone else..just not for them. The parents did a lousy job of educating their children..either because they were too self-involved and their kids had to raise themselves or because they wanted their kids to like them, so they "bought" their love. You can always tell a child who was raised by good parents..that is the adult that you want to be around, whose company you enjoy, and who is a productive, contributing member of society.
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Many of us are influenced by our experiences, and many of those people have endured some bad ones, so it's harder for a lot of them to rise above the negativity.
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It's a good question and I am trying to figure out the same thing. I think people can get into a rut and they have a hard time getting out of it. Accountability and desire is what is needed to break the vicious cycle.
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