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by Shaz4726 on December 24th, 2007

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What if you cant win either way; parent wants you to get arranged-married to someone, but u found urself some1. Do you get with da person you want, but lose ur family (abandon by them) or do u go wid ur parents choice but lose the one you love?

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  • by Tight E. Whitey on December 24th, 2007

    Tight E. Whitey

    Go with your heart. If your parents truly love you, they will accept your choice -- maybe not right away, but eventually. They don't want to lose you from their lives. You really can have both things you desire.

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  • by AnonymousGirl on February 6th, 2008

    AnonymousGirl

    Well, why not move out and set your own rules for yourself?

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  • by Sweetheart on April 28th, 2009

    Sweetheart

    well if i love someone i want listen to what my parent tell me even tho she dont want me to talk to them but i love me bf and we find ways to talk to each other cuz im so inlove with him so i dont care what my mom tell me i following me own heart

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  • by Midgardsormr on December 24th, 2007

    Midgardsormr

    Statistically speaking, an arranged marriage is far more likely to last. Passion cools rapidly, and although you might love someone ardently now, that emotion *will* fade, and you must be sure that the relationship that remains will provide the kind of support--financial, emotional, and social--that you require.

    When passion fades, if you have forsaken the support of your family, there may not be sufficient cultural and societal pressure to keep your marriage healthy.

    I am not personally in favor of arranged marriages, but in the societies where the practice is still common, the consequences for "bucking the system" may be severe. Consider the matter carefully before making that kind of decision.

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  • by Ender is back.. And slightly confused. on December 24th, 2007

    Ender is back.. And slightly confused.

    Does your family give you more meaning, or does this love of yours?

    If this person you love can become your paradigm, your "savior", your thing that defines your world and becomes the thing you can live or die for, then go with them, and forget what your family thinks.

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  • by Esteban-- Smart ass Pumpkin on December 24th, 2007

    Esteban-- Smart ass Pumpkin

    If you speak English to them I would be against arranged marriages. B

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  • by deltabtry on December 24th, 2007

    deltabtry

    I would say man up, or women up, when in command....COMMAND.

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  • by Doggie S on December 24th, 2007

    Doggie S

    It's a case of either losing your family or losing yourself.

    I will go with the person I love. Why? Because not all of us will be lucky enough to find one.

    I think this song sums it up:
    http://lyricz.net/G/Gayle+Crystal/83127/

    A long and lasting love
    Not many people find it
    But those who do their whole life through
    Put their heart and soul behind it
    A long and lasting love
    A long and lasting love
    Is what I've always dreamed of
    And when I look into your eyes
    I knew I'd really seen love
    A long and lasting love
    Chorus:
    We got a once in a lifetime
    All the dreams we've waited for
    Are just beginning to come true
    It happens once in a lifetime
    When you find that special girl
    Who knows the meaning of love like you
    A long and lasting love
    We share for many reasons
    A special bond
    That goes beyond the changing of the seasons
    A long and lasting love
    A long and lasting love
    Is what I've always dreamed of
    I knew I'd really seen love
    A long and lasting love
    Is what I've always dreamed of
    My long and lasting love

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  • by Anonymous on December 24th, 2007

    Anonymous

    Did your parents have an arranged marriage? I usually place family over anything, but in this case, I would take true love over arranged marriage... My conclusion would be if my parents don't care about my opinion enough to let me do as I wish, I don't care about theirs.

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