Hypothetical situation: You just got into an argument with someone close to you. The fault lies with them; but afterwards, do you forgive and forget/pretend it never happened, or do you hold a grudge, expecting them to apologize? Be honest.
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Depends who it is and whether the argument was over something serious or stupid. I don't like to hold grudges, but I admit that I have put some people on my sh*t list. As for my girlfriend, we have our ups and downs, but I would rather spend time being happy with her instead of being angry and silent for a day or two.
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Forgive them... life is too short to hold grudges no matter whos fault it is.
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I like honest person and more disciplined towards his/her moral. If he/she agrees to his mistake and promise that he/she woul like to improve upon his/her attitude whcih made him/her commited that mistake/fault then afterall he is my closed one, I can not hold grudge. In fact being colse one I should accept him as he is. but on the other hand, if he/she sticks to his view and doesnt want to understand what I am saying then first thing I conclude is they are missing some part of understanding and they are not a good listener. they have also high amount of ego. and in that case also I would not hold the grudge, next time I makk sure that, I(me)and the closed one will not fall into same situation which causes an argument and dispute.
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First time I might forgive them, second time I hold a grudge.
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Yep it's happened to me ....I generally forgive and forget the whole thing but i try to be very careful around that person :-)
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Discuss the situation rationally and then put it in the past where it belongs.
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Since you are sharing an apartment...it would be good for the two of you to discuss the problem. Hopefully then you would get an apology. Living together can be a hard thing to do if you harbor bad feelings. Try to clear the air.
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Depends how much I want to keep the relationship with the person. I will balance that against any grudge I might hold.
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I'm a grudge holder. I can't help it. I've just been wronged by too many people that I trusted not to let it go. Though if it was just an argument over a matter of something that could be proven/disproven, I might just find the proof and send it to them. I'm kindof a right bitch like that. I guess I'm what Dr. Phil calls a "right fighter".
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Honestly, I hold grudges. Tonight I was asked why I can never let anything go & I said I will after I get revenge. That might not be the answer you want but it's an honest one
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I would want them to apologise, but I forgive pretty quickly so I wouldn't hold a grudge for too long. The longest I've stopped talking to someone, aka, held a grudge was with my parents. That lasted about a day and I apologised afterwards for not speaking to them.
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I usually try to settle misunderstandings as soon as possible so that we can both move on. If we aren't going to agree on anything and keep on arguing, there's not really a point in continuing the argument. It just becomes pointless after awhile. If both people have the attitude "I'm right, you're wrong" the whole time....neither one gets anywhere. My favourite are the people who tell me to shut up and then six months down the road or something, they say "Oh, you were right." There are times when the two people just need to shut up and separate from each other so that they can have time to think about it. Anyway, there are times when I am wrong as well. I'm not always right. You've got to remember that everyone thinks they're right at the time they're speaking. If they didn't, they wouldn't be sharing their opinion. I think that in the back of my mind, I should have the attitude "I could be wrong." It's hard, though, when I just think I'm right and feel like I know I'm right. :)
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