ANSWERS: 7
  • I would seek counseling for her. Then give her an ultimatum
  • You can try to make her realize that gamblers never win in the long run (only good poker players do). If that doesn't work, you definately should leave.
  • See what you can do to help her (as far as counseling and the like) but document everything she is doing, document how much cash she is loosing, document all her habits that hurt you or your family. Keep these documents secret. Try to save the marriage, but addictions often are not really "fixable", if you must divorce you might as well have the facts and the evidence, that way if it does go to divorce at least you'll come out with your money and assets.
  • If this gambling is, or becomes,an addiction it could really ending up destroying your family. You could potentially lose everything you have both worked for. This includes not only material things, but trust, as well. If she refuses to get help with this, I would advise you to talk to a lawyer about how to protect your assets. Divorce is possibly the only option, but I am no expert. Good luck.
  • Gambling is a sickness...if you do not get her help it will on get worse and you will find yourself owing so much money! If she refuses to get help then for your own peace of mind and your wallet...I believe you need to leave and find a lawyer ASAP. If you have children I do hope you take on the responsibility of their care because your wife will not be a good role model for them.
  • I've had an experience with a gambler..I had a relationship with a compulsive gambler..along with that comes pathological liar..hung in as long as I could, but realized he needed far more help than I could give him and because I had a son to consider, I got out! I have heard through others that he lives in Las Vegas and is either a security guard or a dealer...Good luck to you! That's not a place I would ever want to be again.
  • Has she exhibited any willingness to seek help for her problem to save your marriage? She has to want to get better, no one can force that on her. If she doesn't I am afraid your options are limited. If you can deal with the problem, and want to, stay. If it makes you unhappy and negatively affects your life, leave. My best wishes for a conclusion which brings you happiness.

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